|
how do you know if a guy would be a good father?
I have a question about men. I want to have children some day but havent found the right guy yet. When I do find a guy that I like, what are some signs that could tell me whether or not he would make a good father?
Also, is it a bad sign if the man is already in his mid 40's and has never had any children? Is there still a chance he might want kids at that age? I am 26 and know a guy that is 45 and I think he likes me, but he has never had kids.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
well i think you should maybe find another guy younger closer to your age because when you have children think about how old he will be i mean that will be sorta old for someone having children so i hope my advice works
signed, roxyhollister101
]
Well you really can't exactly know until you see how they act with children and such. Does he have any brothers or sisters or anything? People can want to have children at any age. Some people have kids at 50 or more. It is a litle old to have children, but if you want to have a child, then have a child. Like with my boyfriend I can just tell he would be an amazing father if me and him had a child. He's just so nice and sweet and caring and I could just picture him with a kid being a great father. So just try seeing how he acts around children and maybe talk about it with him sometime. Just be like," So, are you ever inerested in having kids?" ( I don't mean that in a way as 'having kids with me' but just 'having kids in the future' .. you know what I mean lol ) I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
]
Sad part about life is that you won't know till he is a father.
Being in his mid-40's doesn't make him a bad-father, just childless.
Advice I can give you, take him to a zoo where there are kids around, notice things like the way he looks at kids (carefull, carefull, shouldn't be a MJ look tho), how he reacts toward them, talk about kids and later INDIFFERANTLY ask how he feels about having some of his own or why he never had any. second might be a better choice.
Good Luck
]
Do you have brothers or sisters?
see how they act around your bros and sis's and you know
]
Well i can tell my brother and also my boyfriend are going to be good fathers because the way they act now around children like their cousins,nieces and just any random child.. they usually can play with em well and get a child close to them pretty easy.. my little brother never hangs around kids his own age when the little ones are around.. if they want to be a role model and not do anything wrong thats a good sign too..
Well if you ever get close to this guy not exactly as more then friend ask why he does`nt have children.. then you can find out.. he might have children he might just not get them or something.. ♥ Dez
]
If he is good with animals, he will likely be good with kids.
How does he act when annoyed? Does he get annoyed easily? He should be fairly patient if he's good with kids, but not a pushover.
Nah, it's not a bad sign unless you take it that way. He may just have not found the right woman to have kids with. It doesn't mean he doesn't want them...and sometimes people who don't want kids can be quite willingly persuaded when they really love their partner and their partner wants kids. And if he can't have kids, say you did get together and want kids, you could adopt.
]
im going to say no to the 45 year old , he's older enery isn't high , the kids will be loud and it will disturb him and he's used to not having a responcibility like that . what to look for is a guy with a sence of humor , energy , careing , likes kids , responcible , reliable that sorta thing
]
As for the guy who is 45, it could be that he can't have kids. Or, he doesn't want them. It could be that somehow he just hasn't had them. There are probably other reasons I have no idea about. But, it is awfully suspicious. You could ask him sometime. You could say something like; how did a wonderful guy like you never have kids? Everyone asks this question all the time. People (men/women) ask me this question. There really is no way you can know for sure whether or not someone wants children or not w/o asking. You could make indirect comments for example; if you see a child you can say, “Oh, I love children”. And see how he would respond. But, he could love children, but not want them. People are pretty open these days about this and you might as well find out up front before you spin your wheels on someone who doesn’t want them.
As far as attributes for a good father. Look for someone who is patient, understanding and rational. What I mean by rational is; someone who doesn’t get upset over small unimportant matters. Children enter this life with insatiable curiosity. They do things unwittingly all the time that would disrupt the flow. He has to have a good sense of humor about things and be able to ride it good-naturedly.
Good luck in your quest!
LULABELLE
]
I know a lot of 40 year olds who aren't interested in a family. Of course that includes a wife. So, it probably just depends on the guy.
You can usually tell who would make a good father. Watch how they are around their nieces and nephews, or other children in their lives.
If they are tolerant of a kids goofiness. If they will play with them and all that...good dad material.
If they don't want a kid touching them with gooey hands, or want them to constantly sit still and behave...bad dad material!
Good luck in your search. :)
]
Being older and without children might be a sign that a man doesn't want to have children, but it could also be explained by many other factors, such as him not having met anyone he wanted to settle down with yet, him not feeling ready to be a parent when he was younger or him having a demanding career that didn't leave him much oppertunity for meeting and socialising with women. You can't really tell unless you ask, and to be honest, if you see the relationship with this man progressing to a long term relationship involving children it is better that you are honest so you can guage his opinions on childrearing at an early stage. If having children is very important to you, you don't want to waste two years attempting to suss out his behaviour by watching him with small children only to be later told that he likes kids but feels too old or that he doesn't see himself becoming a father.
You might feel akward asking directly "Do you want children?" or "How would you feel about becoming a father?", but if you are planning on spending your life with a person (or, indeed, just having children with them) then these are the kind of things you've got to be prepared to discuss with them. If you prefer, you could open the conversation with something more neutral about yourself, such as "I've always imagined I'd have children by the time I'm 30" or "I didn't like being an only child, I think children are better raised with siblings", etc. where you can then allow the conversation to develop naturally to whether you and he have the same wants with regard to children, but it's something that I think for your own piece of mind, needs to be discussed. All the best.
]
Dear How do you know,
One sign that a man will make a good dad is how he takes care of his animals. Also, dogs tend to like people who are loving. Dogs love my boyfriend and he is a great dad to our 6 year old. A lot of the time there is no way to know until the man becomes a dad himself. Maybe observing him with a baby or a child will give you a good idea as well.
Most guys in their 40's may think they are too old to have children. Not only that, they have gotten used to a lifestyle without children. If you want to find out if he wants to have kids, just ask him. You never know, maybe he just hasn't found the right woman to have kids with.
Take care,
Honestymatters
]
The best way to tell how good of a father a guy would be is to watch how he acts around kids. I've worked at a summer camp for two years now and you can always tell who the best counselors will be right away. They interact with and entertain the kids instead of sitting on a picnic table, just making sure none of them get into trouble. It's not really a bad sign when older men don't have children. It could just mean that they haven't found the right woman to have them with. If you're going for someone that's 45 though, you may have a harder time having kids with him. Men don't go through menopause or anything, but their sperm do tend to get weaker as they age. Another thing...there's a considerable age difference between you and your potential partner. Be certain that he likes you for who you are, not just because he can get a piece of young ass (for lack of a better way to put it). Good luck and I hope I was able to help!
]
More Questions: |