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theres a guy that I really like. We havent slept together yet but I was hoping that one day we could be more than friends. Anyways I just found out from one of his friends that he spent a year in jail when he was 18, but wouldnt tell me what for. Anyways, that was a long time ago, he is in his 40's now.
He is a really nice guy and I know he would never hurt me. But I'm really curious as to why he was in jail.
Should I ask him or wait for him to tell me? (link)
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I think it is something you definitely need to know.
It depends on how long youve known him. If he doesn't say something soon then by all means ask.
I have to wonder why the friend wouldn't tell you anything. I think its okay to say your friend told me you had been to jail...may i ask why?
If he tells you and its no big deal then okay. If it was for something major then you have some deciding to do. :)
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I met someone who was only in my hometown for a week, and we kissed, talked, and really connected. I seriously fell for him.
Of course, some people will think we were only together as rebounds, because he lost a friend and I was getting out of a serious relationship with someone. Regardless, he made me feel happy and alive.
I gave him my email address and phone number, he gave me his favorite hat. It's been over a week, and I have not heard from him. Should I just forget him, or make an effort to contact him?
I've been searching for a phone number/email but my search so far has come up fruitless. I don't know what to do. He's in the military and I would just love to talk to him before he has to go to Iraq again. However, I don't want to completely freak him out and seem "stalkerish." So even if I found a number, I don't know if I'd have the guts to call it.
It worries me that he hasn't tried contacting me yet. Maybe he thinks that since I was going through a lot that he should just back off. Maybe he felt nothing for me and really is a jerk. I don't know. Should I be patient, or make a move?
I am trying to forget about him and trying not to make the relationship anymore than what it was. It's hard because I keep thinking about him. I just need to tell him thanks (the reason is very personal and complicated so I don't want to go into detail.) Maybe if I could just tell him that, then I could move on. But for now, I feel like I have something I seriously need to get off my chest and it's driving me insane not being about to explain things!! (link)
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You can continue looking for him if you want to.
He does have your info though and unless he lost it he could contact you if he wanted to.
Either he didn't take the relationship seriously, or he is just to busy preparing for deployment. Hopefully he will contact you soon. :)
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Yesterday we had basketball tryouts at our school and as a sophmore i made jv again and 5 of my friends moved up to varsity. Mainly because one of the varsity didnt want me to make the team..soo she tried to do nething in her power to make me look bad. I am torn up about this..my heart feels like its in my throat. That was my goal this year.and i failed at it. I feel like theres no positives. Do you think there is ne positives about this? (link)
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Sure there is.
You go out there and you be the best damn JV player on the court.
Someone has to show them how its done. May as well be you! Good luck. :)
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Hey, I'm a fourteen year old female, and I have been smoking for around eight months. I'm sure that there are a huge quantity of smokers here, or people who know about smoking, and I have a few questions I would like answered, please.
1. Which is worse for you, cigars or cigarrettes?
2. [for the smokers] How old were you when you started?
3. Does smoking have a major impact on your voice, or is it only slight?
4. Recently, I tried to stop, and I threw a bitch fit at my friends.. I just went crazy! Was that an impact of the cigs? Am I addicted?
thanks... I'll rate, I promise! (link)
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1. They are both bad for you. Supposedly cigars are better because you don't inhale. But they are still not good for you.
2.18
3.I have heard it makes your voice hoarse. I can't honestly say its true.
4. Could be. Nicotine is one of the hardest habits to kick. I think a nasty attitude is probably one of the withdrawal symptoms.
I do think your friends would understand the attitude. And yes, you are probably addicted.
But, I advise you to quit if that is what you want to do. Easier now than it will be later. :)
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My girl and I have been together for 2 years we have a 1 yr old the past yr has been hard for both of us we have been fighting very verbally and sometimes physically about 2 months ago her mom who we lived with told me to get out my girl and I agree that we need the space and have been trying to work things through. We both started seeing counslers and since then things have been alot better well to make it short last week she decided that she doesnt want to be in a serious relationship with me and that we can be friends and need to be friends before we can be anything else she says she loves me and will still support me and let me see are son we hung out yesterday and had a great time but i am confused because we was all over each other in a good way. My question is should i try doing the friends thing and show her that I am responsible and continue to do what i need to do (she wants to marry me and be a family one day still but right now we need to work on are own mental issues she says) I just feel that everything i have done recenlty to show her that i love and care about her was not good enough i have stopped the name calling and am not so moody thanks to the counsler and some meds. Has anyone else broke up becasue of problems and worked it out in the end??? Her and my sone mean the world to me and I love them both dearly and want to be in a stable family home with us together (she says she wants this to but we cant becasue of are problems) is there hope??? thank you for readint this and respnding (link)
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Definitely continue doing things as you are.
Don't give up hope. She is probably right that you both need your space.
Take this time to get a place of your own. Big enough for the family. If she still wants to get married then work towards that goal.
Become self sufficient and able to take care of her and your son without the parents help. That will mean more to her in the long run. It is very difficult to have a good relationship, or start a family with parents breathing down your neck. :)
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can you have sex while your pregnent?(serious question, no smart answers please.) all fives. (link)
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Unless you are having a complication and the doctor says you can't (very rare), you can do absolutely anything while your pregnant that you can do when you aren't.
I know some who think they get all delicate and unable to do anything...it isn't true.
Yes, you can have sex while you are pregnant. :)
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On sunda is my boyfriends little sisters birthday party. It will be the first time I have ever met his parents! I want them to know I am a really nice girl and that I love there son alot. What kind of things can I do to show them that I am really nice and that I will treat there son well. I love him and I want to be with him for ever!
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That being the way you feel you shouldn't need to do anything out of the ordinary.
Just be yourself and they will like you as much as he does. Be polite and use your manners just as you would when you go anywhere. :)
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To be honest A part of me doesnt want a boyfriend right now and another part does. Ive been going out with my bf for two years today.. I'm still young and my boyfriend is two years older. I dont realy know what to do or say right now but ive felt like crap today. Its hard to expalin..When he kisses, hugs me, or anything i dont feel butterflys or somthing special. But.. When this new kid that i just met yesterday (ive hung out with him all day the last two days) if i just think about him i get butterflys and i can feel my heart pounding...
Signed,
Confused
13/f
P.s The new kid is only a year older and is in my grade.. My bf is 15 1/2 and is in 9th.. (link)
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Well you have to make a decision between the two. You pick whichever one you have the most fun with. The one you like to just be with and do nothing.
One thing though. The butterflies generally go away once you become familiar with someone. They are not what makes a relationship special. Once you get to know the new guy...they will go away with him too. :)
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Right well we got a swimmin pool built in our school last month and when the girls are on their periods they aren't allowed to sit out but are forced to use tampons!!!!!! I haven't been on since it was built but oomg. I am so scared. I have never used a tampon and I'm never GONNA so don't suggest I do. Isn't it like illegal to force us to use tampons or somethin? My friend even got her rents in about it and they still made her use tampons!! What can I do on swimmin days that I am on? I'm not using a tampon but I'm not standin in the changing room arguing bout whether to use one or not with the PE teacher its embarassing!! (link)
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They can't force you to wear a tampon. All it will take is one parent to threaten a lawsuit.
I think this is something to discuss with your mom. Have her talk to the school principle. :)
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ok i have alot of guy friends,...but a little less girl ones,...anyway, i'm kind of violent...like if someone does something to me i'll beat the crap out of them and today i was with my guy friend's girlfriend((also my friend)) and he was like "YOU BETTER NOT BE MESSIN WITH MY GIRLFRIEND!" and i just gave him a strange look and then he goes "please dont hurt me" like he was a helpless dog,...how can i like not be so mean and violent? (link)
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Sounds like it happens so often that you are now being teased about it.
Here are some websites that might help you get your anger under control.
Good luck.:)
Anger how to deal with it
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/deal_with_anger.html
Anger…
http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=291&id=2229
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Okay, as childish as this might sound, I needed to ask it anyways. I'm 15 female, and this other girl named; Rachael is 14. Rachael rides my bus & she was my first friend at school. I just recently moved here, she was/still is a loner too! After about a month she really started to annoy me, & I guess you could say I really don't like her AT ALL. But, she still follows me around, talks to me, etc. I'm not mean to her though - Seen as; I'm nothing like that. I'm seriously one of the nicest people alive. I really don't like to yell at people but if it becomes necessary, then I do. Today on the bus she took my purse because stupid me left it in the seat while I went back to my locker to get a book. When I got back she said, "I threw your purse out the window! Your love took the purse I don't have it!" Which really pissed me off. I asked her nicely for about 5 minutes, then I just lost it and totally flipped out, I really wanted my purse back & I knew she had it. She gave it back 10 mins after that and I ignored her the rest of the way home. When she asked if I was mad at her I said no, because I think it might seem childish if I were to say yes because she stole my purse & I defintiely didn't want to be the immature one in the situation. I was wondering, if I did right? Did it seem childish of me not to talk to her, or do you think that I did right? Thanks!!
Sorry this is so long, but I really needed to know. (link)
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I think you should have told her you were mad. You were perfectly right to be mad and it doesn't make you a bad person.
I am sure she was teasing, but there are some things you just don't tease about. She needs to learn that messing with your purse is one thing you won't tolerate.
So, call her, or let her know tomorrow when you've calmed down, that yes you were mad. Tell her you don't find that kind of thing funny and you don't want a repeat performance.
Let her know that you aren't mad anymore, but if it happens again you won't be speaking to her again. :)
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this has two questions in it s0o0o it might be a lil long....so0o0o i have this boyfriend(2weeks) and i like him a lot but i dont know if he likes me. im in 9th grade and he is in 10th....but he doesnt talk to me all he does is kiss me and hold me ....no talk...just touch...s0o0o0o i dont know what to do ..do you think he is just going out with me for the ass or do you think he likes me?(question one)
ok here is the next question....i dated my ex boyfriend for 7 months and 5 days and i know he still like me and i still like him like kinda a lot(please no comments on the whoreishness of that PLEASE) and my boyfriend and him HATE eachother LIKE WOAH!!! but today in the computetr lab we were flirting like we ALWAYS do and we ended up holding hands and when we are on the phone we always say we love eachother and still flirt.....and he calls me his undercover lover...and he says im cheating on my boyfriend with him...s0o0o0o my question is what do i do....???? IM SO00O0O0O0O0O0O0 confuzzled!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i will rate fives for good answers NO SMART ASS ANSWERS
~confuzzled and torn~ (link)
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Q1
Talk to him (before the smooching begins) and tell him you are concerned about your lack of communication. Kisses and hugs are wonderful but you need talk too. Could be he doesn't know any better. teach him.
Q2
Maybe you can't get over him because of the lack of communication in Q1.
Maybe he is doing all this just because he hates your boyfriend and thinks he is putting one over on him. I can't say for sure but its a possibility you should be aware of. Make sure you aren't being used.
If there are still feelings between the two of you...then maybe you should be considering breaking up with the current guy and going out with the ex again.
If you discuss it with the ex and he hesitates...good sign he is using you.
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how do you insert a tampon? i've tried countless times, and i just cannot do it. is there anything i could use to get it up there like vaseline or something? thanks (link)
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I don't think vaseline is such a great idea.
Here is a website that may help some.
Tampon use, FAQ…
http://www.tampax.com/en_us/pages/ques_main.shtml?pageid=tp0002&=1
Tampons, guide to using first time
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html
Tampons, how to use………
http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p3627.htm
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is speed a drug?
what do you know about it? (link)
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Yes it is A stimulant drug, especially amphetamine or methamphetamine.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Methamphetamine
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my boyfriend wants me to things (not sex) that i dont really wanna do but i want him to be happy. what should i do? (link)
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Don't be pressured into doing anything you don't feel ready to do.
Especially just to make someone else happy. There are two people in a relationship and what makes you happy is important too. :)
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At what age is it appropiate for a person to have sex? Ss we get older the standerds seem to be dropping. I just read a question by a thirteen-year-old asking if she should get on "the pill" if she has had sex. Since when is that what is on a 13-year-olds mind? (link)
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That one may not have been but a lot of them are.
I don't know why. They rush into things so fast. To fast if you ask me. It is scary.
The sad thing is...how many are really 13? Could be younger and lying about thier age. It is sad.
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I basically just want to know what people think about this and whether I'm the one with the problem! Last night my male housemate asked me if i wanted to watch a film so i agreed even though it was about 11.30pm as i couldn't think of anything else to do. I started falling asleep in front of it and then waking up and not understanding what was going on so i decided to go to bed and i told him that. So he started saying how the evening had started off really well and now it had been spoilt and how i had agreed to watch it with him and i was breaking my promise. He kept sighing and just acting really unreasonably and going really quiet and pissed off. So i just went upstairs and told my other female housemate that i was not going to be made to feel guilty about not watching a film because its ridiculous. So he came upstairs and started yelling at me so i yelled back and it got totally out of control especially as all this is over a film!! So then he said that no one had ever upset him to this extent before and how he used to feel comfortable living in the house and now he won't anymore. Then i decided to go and talk to him because i dont like going to bed in the middle of an argument. He was just like don't worry i forgive you. So now its my fault!! WTF?? then he went and stayed at his friends house because he didnt want to sleep in the house cos of what happened. Does anyone else think this is strange? Or is it all my fault as he seems to think? I know maybe i shouldnt have yelled back but it really upset me! Thanks guys. (link)
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I think someone has a big crush on you.
He wanted to spend time with you. You "spoilt it" by going to bed.
I think you need to have a talk with him and get to the bottom of what is really going on with him.
It is a bit weird. Esopecially if he doesn't have a crush. I think he does though. :)
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um....ok im 14 and im pregnant! my mom keeps on asking who the dad is but i dont even know....ive had sex 3 times and with 2 different guys...the first one was some guy i met on the internet about 24 AND the other guy i had sex with twice and he is 49 yrs old....i know there is tests to figure it out....but i dont know where to get that...at a hospital i guess....how do i tell my mom who the guy is anyway is what im asking...its either a 24 yr old or a 49 yr old....what should i do!!!!!???? please help... i will rate with anything (link)
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Tell your mom you don't know. Tell her who the prospects are.
They are both old enough to help pay the expenses that are going to be enormous. So, whichever one it is will be useful. They are probably both looking at jail time.
I don't know if DNA tests can be done before the baby is born. Probably not something a doctor will try. After its born though they can find out.
Mom is going to be mad. Both men should have known better than to have sex with a child.
Good luck to you. :)
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this guy n i are really close n we both like each other, although were not together, and were ready to take the next step. *sex* is what were wanting from each other and im nervous and scared. im nervous because i dont want it to ruin our realtionship and im scared because im a virgin n hes not. what should i do? (link)
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It is something to be nervous and scared about. So, its perfectly normal to be.
Its risky business and a big step. Here is a website that will help you out. Try and read at least some of the articles before the big day.
www.coolnurse.com
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Ok, I like guy, guy likes me. I found out he liked me today from a friend of us both. He told her this exactly (at least from what I know) "I like (my name), but I am going to wait a while so I can make sure she is right." Omg, I like him so much, haha, anyways I was wondering when this would be...? (link)
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Only he knows the answer to that one!
Just talk to him whenever possible. Let him get to know you a little better.
Hopefully it will be soon! Good Luck. :)
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