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my boyfrinds wants.
my boyfriend wants me to things (not sex) that i dont really wanna do but i want him to be happy. what should i do?
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talk to him.
dont do anything you dont want to do.
you'll get to that point in some later time of your life
just tell him that you dont want to do it. and if he gets mad. he isnt worth it. because he's only with you to get something out of it.
good luck.
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don't do anything that you don't want to do, u'll just regret it in the end, tell him you aren't ready for things like that yet and if he really loves you he should understand and respect your choices, if not he isn't worth it..
♥ hlynn_adorkable
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Your boyfriend should respect your decision to not want to do something and remain happy. If he does not respect that decision then he does not respect you
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just do them, he takes his time to look at yur ugly face and he takes time to pretend like your breath doesn't stink. shut up and quit being such a prude.
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i am not sure how long you and your bf have been together, but it doesn't sound like long. (i say that because this is a problem that is usually resolved pretty quick) so let me get this right. he want to go see one movie and you want to see another, or he wants you to go with him to get his haircut and you don't want to? or is it more difficult, like he wants you to smoke a joint with him and you don't want to? i will adress both just to be safe.
1) it is ok if he wants to do things that you don't. make compramises though. go do what he wants then get him to do what you want. you can't always go do the opposite things though. then you are friends not a couple. be a little more open to the things he wants to do. and he will be more open to what you want. as for wanting him to be happy. trust me he probably doesn't mind if you don't like the things he likes. my wife is always trying to make decesions that would make me happy. i have a hard time convencing her to do what she wants and i will be satisfied either way. a guy in live is always happy. i know.
2) know if he is trying to get you to do something that is wrong and you are the only one making the right decesion.(like smoking pot or keeping lookout while he steals a car, i know thes are extreme examples, but your question is vague on "things")Then you really don't eant anything to do with this guy. he is going to drag you down with him if you are not careful.
3) i just thought of a 3rd way he trys to get you to do things. like if he is always bossing you around. "go get me a drink" "make me a sandwich" or whatever then this sounds like a guy who doesn't respect you and you shouldn't take that.
i would really like to answer your question better. explain it and i will be more help.
if i already did help then goodluck.
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Most people want their partner to be happy, but they should understand that their partner should want the same thing for them.
Most importantly, you should want to do things that feel right and comfortable for you - regardless of how much you might want to please someone else.
Making choices that involve pleasing others at the cost of sacrificing your own needs will usually lead to regret. Do things that feel right, in your head and heart, and you'll be a stronger and happier person as a result.
Best of luck.
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Find a happie medium. The whole point of being with someone is to better each others lives. Relationships are give and take - they're a 50-50 partnership. Each of you will need to compromise for the greater good.
So, if he should have an activity that's not to your own personal taste, (as long as it's not hurting somebody) join in, or support him (whatever the case requires). If he likes dirtbiking, go watch him dirtbike. Then the following weekend, let him go horseback riding with you, at your request.
You see, it shouldn't really matter WHAT you're doing, as long as your doing it TOGETHER. You should be appreciative just to be able to spend time with him, so enjoy what you can, and make the best of it.
I think the thing to remember is, that just as vital as it is to spend time TOGETHER, it's EQUALLY important to spend time APART. He can be a major part of your life now, but he shouldn't be your WHOLE life. I think it's definitely crucial to be able to upkeep your separate lives, if you can make sense of that? It'll keep things new, fun, and fresh. :D
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If you don't want to do those things then tell him...that you don't want to...it's plain and clear and if he doesn't respect that..than he doesn't respect you. Don't let a guy make your decisions! Good luck! ♥ caitie
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well if you don't want to do it, then don't. there's no rule that you can't refuse.
-gunner
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you need to tell him that you don't want to do whatever he's asking you to. and after that if he's still pressuring you to do it than he's not worth it, sorry but it's the truth. i hope i helped!
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Let me tell you something. If it doesn't make him happy that you don't want to do things that he wants you to, then he needs to go find a girl who will give him what he wants, because you are the one to decide what you are ready for and what you do. Don't do things to make him happy, go by what makes you happy too, or else you'll be miserable doing it while hes happy. This will test if your boyfriend is really a good one or not. You have to do him the favor by telling him that you aren't ready to take things further. Don't make excuses, tell him. If he doesn't accept it, and gets upset, then thats how you know that you need to get rid of him. Don't make it harder by making excuses not to and making happy, do this for yourself.
-TheTeenGirl
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Don't be pressured into doing anything you don't feel ready to do.
Especially just to make someone else happy. There are two people in a relationship and what makes you happy is important too. :)
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