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um....ok im 14 and im pregnant! my mom keeps on asking who the dad is but i dont even know....ive had sex 3 times and with 2 different guys...the first one was some guy i met on the internet about 24 AND the other guy i had sex with twice and he is 49 yrs old....i know there is tests to figure it out....but i dont know where to get that...at a hospital i guess....how do i tell my mom who the guy is anyway is what im asking...its either a 24 yr old or a 49 yr old....what should i do!!!!!???? please help... i will rate with anything
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Tell your mom you don't know. Tell her who the prospects are.
They are both old enough to help pay the expenses that are going to be enormous. So, whichever one it is will be useful. They are probably both looking at jail time.
I don't know if DNA tests can be done before the baby is born. Probably not something a doctor will try. After its born though they can find out.
Mom is going to be mad. Both men should have known better than to have sex with a child.
Good luck to you. :)
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First, I would like to say that I am not going to judge you and that I am soo sorry that two GROWN MEN took advantge of you in the sense that they should have known better than to have sex with a girl your age. I must tell you that if your mother already knows you are pregnant, she is eventually going to have to know who did this to you for you will need MUCH child support to help you raise this child. Also, no matter how old the guys are, YOUR CHILD needs to come first and deserves to know who it's father is. That is only fair. You decided to have sex with these two men and that is over with, but your child didn't ask to be put in this situation. When your baby is born, more than likely you will be living with your mother and it will be the two of you raising it, so your mother has a right to know as well who is the father for she is the one taking on his role in raising HIS child. I know you are scared but (and I donlt mean to sound harsh)if you were grown enough to have sex with these men, then you are grown up enough to handle the situation with your mother. The sooner you tell her, the sooner the initial shock will wear off and you both can move forward. She (your mother) will also be the one who will more than likely help you obtain any legal help you may need as well as the one you will cry to when times get too hard raising your child. GOOD LUCK!!!
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hey well it depends when did you find out you were pregnant, also if the first time was about a year ago and the second time was about a month ago it would probobly be with the guy who had sex with more recently also if your not obvious like no round stomach yet and have some of the symptoms like delay in period, swollen/tender breast, tierdness, backache, headache, morning sickness, frequent urination, and food craving it would depend. you should really go to the doctor and get an estimation on when you got pregnant or when th baby was "made". then by the date you would know which guy is the father. for what to tell your mom, just tell her the truth, lieng about something like this is not the rite thing to do.
not to be a bitch or whatever but why, i could understand if it was with someone your age but 10 even 30 years older why? its like having sex with your father, atleast for the 49 year old. i could understand you were anxious sure but why with someone that old? thats rape, and especially with someone you met online? did they know you were 14, did they know you were atleast underage. i know its harsh to hear and your probaly thinking "its not your life, you dont know what im going through, so STFU" but i do understand what your going through the presure and all, maybe not even the presure, the urge, but that doesn't make it right to have sex with someone who is old enough to be your father. and yes, it is wrong, grows, and disgusting but hey its your life and to others what may seem grows may not to you. i just hope that you didn't do it to pruve something to someone, or to just do it. good luck with everything.
xO. jessica
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You are gonna have to fess up to your mom. You are also going to have to wait until the baby is born to prove anything (As far as I know, they do not have paternity tests in-utero) So, it looks like you have an uphill battle on your hands. Also it is gonna be hard, and I mean HARD, to get those two guys to fess up to having sex with a minor. It is illegal and... punishable with jail time and possibly having to register as a sex offender. You are gonna need your mom, you better do it soon. All you can say is...Mom I really screwed up and now I need you. I will listen to all you have to tell me, because I am in trouble.
[**EDIT** I am editing my answer because I have just read all of the other advice given to you. What you did was stupid, yes...but you do not need to be insulted and judged by these people. Obviously, you were in over your head. This does not mean that others that you come to for help should in fact beat you up and curse at you for it. What you need are differing opinions on what you should be doing so you can make a choice on your own. Hopefully, in the future you will make smarter choices. Right now you need to talk to your mother and get to the doctor. You also need to inform those men that you are pregnant.]
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wow. what were you thinking?, I mean hunny, 49 yr old wrinkely dude thats the same age as my grandpaw. and im 13. im not even stupid enough to go screw some old perverts. why are you?!. i mean hunn, im glad ur mom supports you, but if you try to go get a perfessional test, the 2 dudes you slept with are probley going to jail. and since you screwd them, youre prolly going to juvy. look, just tell your mom what you did, i mean yeah theres gunnah be some serious consequences, but i mean, the truths better then lying, just go to the drug store and get a few pregnancy tests and make sure your pregnant. but theres nothing you can buy over the counter to figure out who the dad is. so you might as well give up on that, unless you wannah be in some deep shit with the cops. just try and explain to your mom. if she loves you shell try and understand what you're going through.
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ok now I would go to the doctor and see if they can find out who the father is. Ask your mom where there are good baby doctors. That might help. It can be dangerous if you have a baby at the age of 14. You had sex with a 49 year old and a 24 year old and your only 14? I think that is crazy.
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ok heres my advice, just use this as a guide...
you can get pregnant the week before and the week after your period, so try to go back and on paper write out the chain of events... so if your period is a week long then 3 weeks of the month you cn get pregnant. so try to figure out when you stopped having periods and see if you can figure it out... if you want you can ask me and we can map it out together...
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-alex
whats done is done, you cant help that, of course i didnt put you down about thier ages... what you need is someone who can just say whats done is done just dont do it agian, not someone to be mad at you and put you down... message me if you want to talk... i have msn and yahoo too
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Dude why the hell are you sleeping with a 24 and 49 year old at the age of fourteen!? I have absolutely no sympathy for you. It's your own fault so you should figure this out yourself. If I were you, which I never would be, just get a test or something.
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Wow your young enough to be that 49 year old guys daughter.. oh my sad young girl you need JESUS your momma should hit your ass with a bible.. My gosh you know these guys you had sex with is deff going to jail for a long time.. you`ve basically fucked three or four peoples life up.. yours two older men and a innocent child.. oh my better figure this shit out and best of luck to you young mama.. yea better get use to that MOMMY! ♥ Dez
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You have to tell her. You need that test and your mom is the one who is going to be able to help and support you. But a 24 and a 49 year old and you are 14? Well Idk what state you live in, but I know thats definitely under the legal age of consent, so if your mom wanted, she could take them both to court for statutory rape, which is when an adult over the legal age of consent has sex with someone younger then the legal age of consent, even if the younger person was willing. But if you dont want that to happen, dont bring it up, maybe she doesnt know. But you definitely have to tell her. Good luck, hope I helped in some way.
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OMFG what the hell is wrong with you??? You had sex with a 24 year old and a 49 year old??!!! Take one of those tests that detirmine the father!! Next time think before you have sex with a 49, and 24 year old!! Also thats considered ILLEGSL because you are under the age of 18 and they are over that age!!! "Show me where yo head at," as a song goes.....
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