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nervous and scared
this guy n i are really close n we both like each other, although were not together, and were ready to take the next step. *sex* is what were wanting from each other and im nervous and scared. im nervous because i dont want it to ruin our realtionship and im scared because im a virgin n hes not. what should i do?
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If you are questioning if you should do it, then don't. You definitely aren't ready.
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dont have sex with him just fool around with him.making out, ect...ya know
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I think that you shouldn't do anything you don't want to do. You obviously don't feel comfortable right now so don't let him pressure you into doing it. Wait until you are more comfortable. If he has a problem with your choice then he's not really worth your time. I really hope this helps you. Good luck.
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well i would wait.. you should tell him to wait till you are ready.. and if he loves you he will understand that.. and do not let him pressure you into doing it
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if you're nervous and scared, then you really shouldn't be having sex. you should have sex when you're fully confident and you can deal with consequences.
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You should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you're not ready yet. If he gets mad then forget about him. Your bf should respect you and not rush things through.
♥ Melissa
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My advice to u don't do it your not ready if your nervous and scared.. wait longer you'll know when your ready *kIm*
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well, here`s what I got to say on the topic. talk to him, find out if he really cares about you. I can see you two like eachother, but 'likeing' isn`t the big thing here. You need to love eachother. Sex is something precious between two people who love eachother, & might I add should be of age to handle a child if the child is the outcome of you two haveing sex. & don`t worry about the hole virgin thing. If he loves you he won`t care & you will do fine. Love helps everything, in my oppinion at least. So just know he cares about you & know that him & you are ready to take care of a child together, incase of pregnancy.
That`s all I have to say. I hope I helped.
-xo- Sammi
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I know that you don't want an answer that advises you to not have sex, but if you go through with it, your friendshp/relationship with him will become a disaster. It truly will, if you aren't together, then why would you be "ready" for the next step? That next step is suppose to occur in a love relationship. What you are doing is friends with benefits. It's not a smart thing to do because for one: There are no rules or bounderies. So if he has sex with you, it's ok for him or you to go off and have sex with anyone else. And if you think you'll be able to trust him, think again. He will use the "just close friends" excuse. For two: Your feelings. If you have sex with this close friend and are worried about the relationship, then how are you going to survive having sex with him? You will never know what feelings you'll have afterwards, you will probably feel closer to him, and he is probably with you for the sex, because he can have it from you. I'm not saying that he doesn't care for your friendship, I'm saying that it is dangerous and wrong and hurtful to have sex in a friendship, it will not last. You are nervous and scared because not only have you never experianced it, but because you are only friends with the guy you want to have sex with. Compared to a sexual relationship, you hardly know each other, you can't talk to him about every sexual detail in your life because you aren't together. Thats what eases the pressure of sex, the fact that you know that you can tell this person anything about your sexual thoughts and feelings and bounderies with it.
-TheTeenGirl
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no offense at all but it seems like hes just using you. dont fall for it, you can do better.
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well first of all, if you are scared, then you aren't ready, which is normal. you shouldn't just rush into things like this. if you too are so close then you should talk to him, tell him that you want to, but you don't want anything to change. if he likes you and you guys are close then he should understand.
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It is something to be nervous and scared about. So, its perfectly normal to be.
Its risky business and a big step. Here is a website that will help you out. Try and read at least some of the articles before the big day.
www.coolnurse.com
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