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13/f this boy in my class slways flirts w/ me. Like thursday we went on a field trip and on the way home we were hitting ea/ other with our brochures. by the way, I had to write 100 sentences for that!!!! But he is always like that, if we're on different teams he tries to get me or get me our, first. I catch him looking at me all the time, or he'll do something funny and make sure I'm watching, he also seems happy when I laugh at his jokes and stuff. He also seems jealous when I mention My ex. Who is still my friend.he knows all about me some how and he got here after Christmas break, not long enough to find out all my "hidden" facts. He knows where I go and stuff like that. But when I go by someones house to sleepover its like right next to him. He is NOT a stalker. I've told him about my dad but I think the bays gave him more facts than I gave him, Like he know how old I was when he died, and I did NOT tell him that. DO you think he likes me? (link)
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It certainly does sound as though he likes you!! It's an unfortunate fact that guys just do NOT tell us when they like us, however much easier that might make life! Instead, they do things like fight with us, hit us with inanimate objects like brochures and dig out information about us from our friends!
If you like him, by all means go for it. It doesn't sound as though you have anything to lose!
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i am 15/f, and i have had a crush on a guy friend of mine for a few months now. We talk all the time, in our group we talk together the most and lately i feel like there is more. For instance, on the way back from school trips on the bus i have put my head on his shoulder and he seemed to like it, when i have put my head on his shoulder while watching a movie with some other friends they told me that they saw him leaning into it. A few other things like when we were getting ready for dinner he would help me out, and he sat next to me and stayed in a pretty cold hot tub with some other couples, which would be kinda awkward unless he liked me right? idk, at any rate he is kinda shy when it comes to romantic stuff and if you could tell me if he likes me, and if he does what should i do now to make him feel more comfortable to initiate things, like arm around the shoulder holding hands type stuff? by the way his birthday is coming up in a couple weeks, should i do something then?
thanks (link)
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It does sound as though the feeling is mutual. Most people (especially guys) don't treat normal friends that way.
I would probably wait until after his birthday, to be on the safe side. A guy once asked me out on his 15th birthday and I had to turn him down and it really was awful. Obviously, I'm not saying that he will tun you down. Judging by the way he has been acting, I would say he's quite likely to say yes. However, I wouldn't like to say he definitely likes you and I think it's best to wait until after this event has passed.
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okay so my really good guy friend that goes to a diff school then me says all this sweet talk to me and tells me how much he likes me and stuff and i really like him too but then all my other friends tell me that he flirts with other girls at his school. i duhn know if hes just leading me on to get sumthin out of me or if he does truly have those feelings. and i just got out of a 7 month realtionship that was hard so right now its hard for me to find love again and i dont know i need help. (link)
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WIth men like this, there has to ba rule of thumb if you don't want to risk being played. If in doubt, don't.
If you really do like him and want to know once and for all if he does like you, ask your friends from his school if he acts the same way to other girls and if he has a habit of cheating. They should be able to give you the facts so at least you can make an informed decision.
However, it souds as though they may already be trying to steer you clear of him and if they really think he flirts with other girls at his school, you can probably guarantee it wouldn't stop if you went out with him.
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ok so ive been asking everybody this that answered the qeustion about my friend situation and how we got in a big fight do u think i should have my friend beth who is friends with both of us 2 tell her im over the fight thx (link)
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That's a tricky one because you have said you can't remember what the fight was about. If your ex-friend reminded you of something really horrible that was said about you, could you let it go?
As long as you could then by all means tell her you are over it. However, don't get a friend to do it. Firstly because it then puts your friend in the middle of your fight, which I am sure you would never really want to do. Secondly because you will know that anything you hear from your ex-friend direct has not been misunderstood or altered in any way and you can ask questions back directly, based on what she says.
I know that it's really horrible to have to face people about these things but in the long run it really is so much easier. It will be hard to get he to talk to you so perhaps you could take a sort of 'peace offering', of something that she really likes, so that if she doesn't want to talk to you, you can try to persuade her with this. Also, I know that you can't remember what was said but apologise anyway. Tell her you are sorry for whatever you said and whatever happened and you just wish you could be friends again.
If she doesn't listen at first, keep trying. If she was a good friend and you really believe you can have that same friendship again, it's worth persisting at it.
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ok so you answered to of my questions and both your answers were REALLY good and i posted another question but you didnt answer it and i really want 2 no what you would say so heres the question
i have known my this girl ashley since like 1st grade we were like best friends up until the summer going into eigth grade we had so much fun together we never stopped laughing and with my other friends we grew apart but nothing wood ruin are friendship or atleast thats what i thought during the summer going into 8th grade we had a HUGE fight like it was crazy but the weird thing is i dont remember what its about or who started it but it was big so big that its almost then end of 8th grade and even when i walk by her in the hall there is anger in are eyes we havent even talked since the fight and were going to high school next year and i really wanna just be friends again but i dont no what to do i refuse to talk 2 her because then it would be to acword so i need to no what to to 2 be friends with her again other then some cheesey answer like talk it out should i even try to be her friend anymore i dont no please help!!!
thx (link)
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Hi there. I actually thought I had answered your question but I guess I didn't!! If it helps, I did mean to!
I actually went through a similar situation you know. I was in year 8 and my best friend and I had a HUGE fight and didn't make up until year 10. Never did remember exactly what it was about but we were poisonous to each other while we were fighting!
Fights like this between friends are really just a part of growing up. I know that's a cliche but it's true because as we get older, we change in every possible way and sometimes the people we become don't match the people our friends become. You'll notice that for a few years, there will be a lot of fights like these.
It's really up to you when this happens to decide whether the friendship is worth salvaging, or if it is best to leave it and move on to friendships with other people.
You say you want to just be friends with her again but there's only one way this is going to happen and that is if you sit down and talk it through. I KNOW you don't want to hear it but you've tried leaving her be and that's not helped so there's really nothing else to try and if you are going to High School next year, I'm sure you will want to know you have her by your side. High School is intimidating enough without worrying about the presence of your ex best friend.
Even if you don't want to do it, if you want to be friends again, I'm afraid talking to her is really the only thing you can do and it might be that you can work it all through, bury the hatchett, so to speak and carry on as you were before. However, please be warned that a lot of time has passed since this fight and if she still bears a grudge, she might be harder to talk to and the conversation could be ugly at first so go with your wits about you and your temper calmly prepared.
If worst comes to worst, moving to a new school gives you endless opportunity to make new friends, so try not to worry too much about what is going on now. You will always treasure the friendship you had, even if you can't get it back and there's no reason you can't learn from it and share it again with someone new in the future.
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I have only had 2 guys finger me before, but when both of them have done it, it didn't feel good at all. It actually hurt. I have fingered myself before and had an orgasm. I talk to my friends about being fingered and they all say they have orgasms from it. So is there something wrong with me? Please tell me what you think. thanks (link)
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No it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. The thing is, if you have done it to yourself, you have taken the time to work out what feels good to you, whereas the guys that do it (who are probably somewhere between 14 and 18) will quite possibly be diving in without a clue!
Don't feel embarrassed about giving them some gentle guidance. It's your body and you should feel comfortable with whatever they do to you. You also need to remember that men have rougher hands, which won't help.
If it really is quite rough, you could consider investing in some lubricant but try giving them some help. They're probably quite nervous, which is bound to make it more difficult.
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i appriciated ur advice last time, but there's more. i've been on her myspace page, and she's posted 2 blogs that talk about her breaking up w/him as being more of a 'taking a break' kind of thing and that they intend to settle down with each other sometime in the future. when i asked him this, a while ago, he didnt really directly answer. it really bothers me and makes me so jealous. i dont necessarily believe we'll be together forever. but i don't like the thought that this is, and always has been, a temporary thing until he's ready to go back to her. am i stupid? i really like him, but i wish so much to be rid of her..... (link)
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No you aren't stupid at all because I think that really a lot of girls in your situation would react the same. I'm pretty sure I would!
But what does HE feel about this? She may have said it's just a temporary situation and might have been talking about a future together for both of them but unless he has said something similar, it could all be totally unrequited on her part. The idealistic hopes of a rejected love. Unfortunately, you can't do anything about her specifically.
If he didn't directly answer your questions before, he needs to now. Try not to be too condemning. Remember that what this other girl has said might have nothing to do with his true feelings at all. Just ask him once and for all how he feels about her because if he still has feelings that he thinks will get stronger or that won't go away, (and this is the part that hurts), it might be better if he acts on them, rather than wasting your time as a 'stand in'.
I promise you that whatever happens, whatever he does, you WILL find someone else that will treat you the way you deserve and you will feel a lot more for him than you do this guy.
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alright so my boyfriend comes over here like everyday and i love it because i get to see him everyyyy dayy and thats just fine with me but sometimes when hes over here and im in the shower i get out come to my room and hes on myspace writing someone or reading someones message to him but once i really get in the room he closes out of it really quick and this has happen twice. idk what to do because if hes hiding something i need to know but im scared to ask him because i dont want us to start an arguement. what should i do????? (link)
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Check your computer history. Whenever you use your PC, it keeps a history of every website that has been visited within the last however many days. If you have never looked at it before, look for a sundial type picture or a clock type picure. If there's nothing like this, just move your mouse pointer along the top of your screen til you find it. Then find out what website he has visited.
However, the bigger issue here is the trust issue. If you are ever to trust him, you need to confront him about stuff like this because if you don't you are just encouraging a secretive relationship. Next time it happens, just casually ask him what he was doing, because he always seems to close it down when you come into the room. Se what he says to this. I know you don't want to start an argument but if he IS doing something he shouldn't be on your computer, you have every right to know about it, because he shouldn't be doing it in the first place. If it's all innocent, then there should be no fight because he has nothing to hide.
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it burns when i pee and it feels like i always have to pee. could it be a yeast infection? (link)
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It does sound like you may have cystitis. This is an infection where bacteria gets into your bladder and infects it.
You really ought to see a doctor about this as soon as possible. Although bladder infections like this can be treated easily with antibiotics, without them the infection can spread to your kidneys and make you very ill indeed and believe me, you do not want to go through this.
In the meantime, make sure you drink a lot of water. You should be drinking at the very least a glass of water every 20 minutes. The bacteria multiplies every 20 minutes and the more you flush out, the better. However, I will stress that you CANNOT get rid of a bladder infection just by drinking.
Also, try drinking some Cranberry juice. Most people think it tastes vile and I must say I agree with them but it helps to neutralise the acidity in your urine that causes the burning sensation so at least it will be less painful when you do go to the toilet.
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I was shaving my legs last night and I got to the back of my upper legs (between the back of my knee and my butt) and it hurt for some reason. It felt like a sore that you've scratched so much its like raw. Well it wasn't really hurting when I went to sleep but all today during school its hurt like when I sat at my desk and stuff and I don't even know what it is and it swelled up. It basically looks like a sore that you've scratched so much and now its in the form of a bump. But I've never scratched there or anything... (link)
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It sounds like you possibly had a large spot there that perhaps you accidentally shaved and made bleed. If this is the case, that would explain why you're so sore today.
If this doesn't sound like it and it isn't gone in a few days, you should see your doctor to get it checked out. It definitely sounds like a spot to me (I've had a similar problem before) but you can never be too careful.
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hey im 15/f. I was wondering if there is anything to help with like energy boost. I know that there are energy drinks but those dont really work for me. See im always like falling asleep during school or whatever im doing. I'm always tired i have no energy and i just dont want to do anything. I dont eat breakfast because i never really have time. I get enough sleep. I'm just always tired like i can sleep an entire day. But still be tired. And i have no motivation to do anything. Even sometimes when i eat breakfast it doesn't help. Is there anything i can do to help me increase my energy level and not be so tired? Plezz help thanks.
~ Ashley ~ (link)
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Firstly, and most importantly, you should ALWAYS eat breakfast because your body needs the energy it provides after the night's sleep.
Secondly, rather than thinking what can help you keep awake, you really ought to be thinking about what is making you feel so tired in the first place.
Fatigue can be a symptom of anaemia, stress, exhaustion and a host of other things. I'm not suggesting it could be anything serious at all, so please don't panic but if you are particularly tired, you should see a doctor because if there is something actually wrong with your health which is causing your tiredness, there might be a way to treat it.
Until you have seen a doctor, try taking an energy drink to lessons with you and it might be a good idea to let your teachers know you're having a little difficulty at the moment and you will be seeing a doctor about it, just so they don't think you are slacking in class.
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17/f. My mom is vehemently against my going to college in the fall of this year, she wants me to wait a year. I applied to various schools without her knowledge or consent because I'm not willing to wait a year before going. I sent off my enrollment deposit to the school I'm going to and I've been working with my principal and my Gifted and Talented coordinator, trying to get my mom in to a meeting to discuss the prospects of me going in fall. Well, she's refused to go to the meeting, thinks I'm still waiting a year. I have to send in the tuition and housing deposit and forms to my school, and they have to be signed by a parent since I'm under 18, but I called the school and explained my situation and they agreed that I could sign it myself. So now where I'm at is, I could just leave in fall, go off to my college, and my mom wouldn't have to know until shortly before I do it. I'll only be 17 1/2 by August and I made sure that if she called the police or social services they wouldn't be able to take me back...but now I'm kind of stuck. I have people that are willing to help me move up there and I have a good-paying summer job so I'm set financially, but I don't want to cause a family rift. I'm sick of my mom controlling me, but as much as I want to rub this in her face because of the way she's treated me over the years, I don't know if I can. Do you think I should?
Thanks (link)
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I definitely think you should. I cannot even begin to imagine why she is so set against you going and I don't know if you have tried to find this out from her at all but it might just be parental angst. I would strongly recommend that if you haven't already, you should try to talk this out with her as soon as possible.
Either way, your education is possibly the most important thing because the choices you make as far as learning right now could well affect the majority of your future. Sadly, this is something I am saying with hindsight.
The point is, however upset your Mum might be at you going off to college and leaving her behind, she will eventually come round and understand that college was something you had to do, for yourself and for your future. If it does cause a rift between the two of you, this may be something you will need to cope with because as a Mother, she should want what is best for you and be supporting you through all of this. Things will work out in time but right now, you need to do this and work hard at it. I'm sure you will do her proud.
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okay so my parents are in a fight. okay so first off, my mom doesnt want my dad talking to this girl on the phone and since the phone bill doesnt come in the mail becacuse my dad changed it to online bill, my mom told me to log on to my dads username and check up on the numbers he has been calling (iknow the password) and my mom finds the number of that girl that she doesnt want my dad to talk to . my dad isnt cheating on my mom, its just that my mom doesnt wnt him to talk to her. okay so now my mom is mad at my dad and shes been telling how my dad talks to another girl on the phone to my uncles and aunts. and i feel really bad for my dad because i feel like i kinda betrayed him.. like i know its wrong for him to do that but still and now my parents dont even sleep in the same room, my dad sleeps in the basement and my mom sleeps in their room. how can i make them talk again and forget about it? and also how can i make my dad stop calling that girl? oh yah this has been happengin since like last year and thats when my mom told him to stop talking to her but he didnt listen (link)
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I am SO sorry that your parents are having problems and I'm even more sorry that your Mum has put you in this position.
Put as gently as possible, I know that you want them to work things out and I know that you want to help but the fact is they need to work these things out for themselves because they are clearly having some big issues here.
I know you say that your Dad isn't cheating on your Mum but, again put as nicely as possible, why else would he be calling this other girl and why would your Mum be so upset about it? Surely if it was just a harmless friendship, there wouldn't be all this fuss about it?
You need to stay out of this as much as possible but there are a couple of things you need to do first. You need to speak to your Mum and say that it was wrong for her to make you check your Dad's information for her because it's their problem not yours and she shouldn't be getting you involved. Then tell her you want nothing more to do with the situation because they need to work it out. Without your help.
I would also recommend you speak to your Dad because if he really has cheated on your Mum, although he is completely in the wrong for doing it, he's going to be going through a lot right now. He's probably feeling guilty and selfish and more importantly, alone. If you think you can do this, tell him that whatever they are fighting about, you will always love him because he is your Dad. Leave it at that.
After this point, it is really down to them. They need to talk things out so maybe you and/or any siblings you have could arrange to sleep over at a relatives house and leave them some time to work through their problems without worrying about anything else.
Please, please try not to get too upset about this because it isn't your fault, there's nothing you could have done to prevent all of this from happening and there is nothing you can do to fix it because it is down to them. Stay strong. Everything will work out, one way or another.
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i broke up with my bf and he says he loves me real bad and wants to work things out. i dont wanna because dont really have anymore feelings for him but i didnt tell him that i told him that im gonna be to busy this summer to have a bf which is true. but i cant get him to stop wanting to be with me how can i get him to move on? (link)
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I hate to say this, but you will have to be honest with him and tell him that you just don't have the same feelings for him now that you once had. After all, if the shoe was on the other foot, I am sure you would want him to be honest with you too.
If you told him you were going to be too busy this Summer for a boyfriend, he probably already suspects there is another reason and telling him the real problem will quite possibly set his mind at ease, instead of letting his mind run riot. Telling him the truth will also help him move on. Knowing you have no feelings like that for him any more doesn't leave him much option but to find someone else. Just as long as you are nice and tactful about it, this shouldn't be a problem.
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I am a really big flirt. Most people would say I have a pretty good personality (not trying to sound stuck up) So normally if I want a guy I can get him to like me. The thing is once he likes me, I want to move on. Its so wierd because it comes natural. So I want to know how can I stop??? Because for my prom date I'm going with one of the hottest guys in the school. But now that I'm going with him I want to move on. And this could be a big problem because I want us to have fun on our prom night. (link)
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I doubt very much that it is fear that is stopping you. I suspect it is actually that you love the thrill of chasing and getting the attentions of a new guy. There's nothing wrong with this. It just means that you get bored very easily. You love the flirting and the feeling that you have managed to win the interests of a new guy. However, when it comes to actually being in a relationship with them, you want that feeling of chasing someone and being chased again.
You can still have fun at the Prom. You shouldn't rule out this guy completely just because you want to move on. He might be a really fun date and you would have thrown it away. Instead of worrying about being bored with him and wanting to move on, just try to have fun with him. Be flirtatious, laugh, joke and dance and you will have a good time. The Prom isn't only about who you go with so don't base the whole evening on that. You obviously liked this guy for a reason so don't give up on him yet.
Finally, don't worry about the way you get bored so quickly. It's normal for a LOT of women and I have to admit I was exactly the same with all of my boyfriends, right up until my current one who I have been with for nearly 3 years. You WILL find someone who holds your interest but for now, try not to go out with them until you know them a little better and most of all, just have fun.
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ok i got a problem i live with my aunt and grandma for almost 2 years now and i live witht hem because me n my mom use to get into it real bad bout stupid stuff but now me n my moms real real close and i hate livin here at my grandmas cuz its like im in prison the only bad thing ive really ever did here was get bad grades and thaey acted like it was the end of the world.. but n e ways i really really want to move bak in with my mom my mom says itsa ok but i have to tell my aunt i want to move out but im scared she wount let me or shell flip out on me i need help on tellin her i dont want to live here no more will sum 1 please help me (link)
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Are you sure you are going back to livewith your Mum for the right reasons? I know that living with your Aunt and Grandma might be tough but the only reason they are strict is because they feel it is the best way to raise a pleasent, responsible and hard working child. Perhaps it isn't ideal but would it necessarily be different living with your Mum? If you get there and the rules are more strict or you start fighting again, will you go back to live with your Aunt and Grandma? More importantly, would they take you back for a second time?
I'm not trying to dissuade you from doing this at all. There are too many benefits of growing up with a Mother to deprive you of it for longer than you feel necessary but I want you to be aware of the implications before you make a decision.
Now, if you are absoloutely sure you want to do this, you need to speak to both your Grandma and your Aunt at the same time. At the end of the day, if your Mother has legal custody of you, they really can't stop you from living with her so don't worry about this. You need to tell them that you appreciate everything they have done for you and that you have loved living with them but that you are getting on better with your Mum now and you think it might be better for everyone involved in the long run, if you went back to live with her and see how that goes. If they have concerns over whether or not you could live with her without the fighting again, try reaching a compromise. Say you live with your Mum every other week (if possible) and see how it goes.
Just please make sure you think it over carefully before you make any decisions. You need to base it on which environment will be the best for your upbringing, rather than which one will be easiest to cope with or which one might carry the least restrictions.
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18 years old/female.
K, this is the situation I am in. There is this guy that I work with that I simply can not get out of my heart. This is the 4th year I have worked with him, and for all of that time I have found myself attracted to him in a big way. At first I just felt like it was an adolesant crush, I mean I was 14 afterall and crushes are not a rare thing at that age, they come and go. But this one came and has yet to go. Anyways, quicknotes version- He is 2 years older then me and impossible to read! I am oblivious to flirting-incoming or outgoing- and don't know how to tell if he has feelings for me too. Most of the time I really just wish I could forget about him, but something won't let me. It's not like an obsessive kind of thing where I think about him 24/7, he just seems to find his way into my mind in the quiet moments or when I'm admiring a beautiful sunset or watching waves break on the ocean I wish he were there to see it. But yet thinking of him often makes me sad, and sometimes even angry or frusterated. If I'm not even sure how I feel about him how am I supposed to tell how he feels about me? And how can I tell how he feels about me? I'm sorry this is so long I can just use all the help I can get. If LOTS of people could all give me their opinions and advice it would me great!!! I will rate you. (link)
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You know what I think? I think that you really like him a lot but feel frustrated and sad and angry because you don't know how he feels and you don't know what to do about it. You probably also wish that after 4 years, you had some sort of sign.
Here's the thing about guys. They're not that good at taking hints and the shy ones will often be unreadable. This is why sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands and take the risk of telling them how you feel.
In most cases, I would say that it might be better not to risk your friendship over something like this but after 4 years, you have got to do something about this because after all this time, working around him must be something like Chinese Water Torture!! I'm sure you're desperate to know once and for all how he feels about you and it's pretty clear he's not about to leap out and tell you how he feels.
Try just having a general conversation and then just ask him if he fancies a drink after work or on the weekend. If he says yes, wait until you are out to tell him. Yes to a drink, by the way, does not necessarily mean he likes you. However, once you have him alone, out of a work environment, you can build up some courage (Dutch Courage, if need be, as long as you don't get carried away!)and then just tell him that you really like him and have done for some time and you need to know how he feels about you.
I know it seems like a huge risk but believe me, after all this time, it's more of a risk to you NOT to tell him than it is to get it out in the open. After all, if he doesn't feel the same way about you, you don't need to waste any more time pinning him as your Mr Right and you can start the process of getting over him and moving on to look for the guy who really is your Mr Right. I promise you, if this guy isn't it, he will be out there, just waiting to be found.
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so i really liked or maybe liked this guy, and my best friend now likes him too. she knows im like in love with him, but shes putting in her profile, mikey i love you, in pig latin thinking i wont be able to understand it.. mike said he would never go out with her and i heard she was telling him not to go out with me and to go out with her.. and i know he doesnt want a gf right now. what am i supposed to do if they do go out? (link)
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Judging by what he has said about her, I doubt that he will go out with her. Guys tend to be decisive about the girls they do and don't like. Not to mention, I suspect (and hope) he has been sincerely put off by having this girl he doesn't even like telling him not to go out with another girl!!
Certainly, if anything else, he will probably be thinking that it is absoloutely none of her business who he goes out with and I don't think that anything she says will affect what he might say if you asked him out.
However, at the end of the day, you just won't know what he feels about you unless you ask, or even ask him out. I don't think this girl is a threat at all so you don't need to rush with it but if you do really like him, don't miss your window of opportunity. Trust me on this, if you miss it, you will spend a LONG time regretting it.
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me and my best friend have been bestfriends for a couple years now but sometimes i feel like were growing apart and next year im goin 2 high school but my high schoold wierd its b-r bridgewater-raynham 2 high schools combined and sometimes i think maybe i should just get a new best friend but idk we used 2 have fun a couple years ago wat should i do!!!! (link)
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I really hate to say this, because it sounds so unfair...but this is something that happens to most people when they move up to a different school.
Basically, when you are young, you have loads in common with a particular person and get on well and they become your best friend. You can be inseparable for years but then it comes to moving school. Suddenly, a whole new world of possibility opens up, with new activities, new people and most importantly, you start to get older. This means that you change. You're no longer that person you were when you were best friends with this girl and I expect the situation is the same for her. It isn't necessarily that you don't have anything in common and it isn't necessarily that you think there's anything wrong with each other. It's, put mildly as possible, simply that you have outgrown each other. One might mature faster than the other and they start to feel the odd niggle of resentment because the other person can be immature. Then you make new friends, you fit in with the person you are growing into and suddenly, the other gets left behind.
The point is, you can't base a present-day friendship on the friendship you once had because you have both changed too much and this is okay. Some day, you might find you can be good friends again. In the meantime, make the most of the friendships you now have and always remember to treasure the friendship you once had because those happy memories will be with you forever.
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my friend and i have been friends for a while but we just started getting closer this year i like him but should i tell him should i eben go out with him that might ruin the friendship (link)
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Really, this depends on how much you like him. If you like him so much that you think about him all the time and couldn't bear to be without him then by all means go for it. After all, you can't get great love without great risk.
If you just feel attracted to him because he is good looking and makes you laugh etc, it might be better to leave things as they are because it is better to do that than risk going off him (or vice versa) and have your friendship ruined.
Should you decide to go for it, explain to him that you really like him but you're concerned because you don't want to lose him as a friend if anything happens or if he doesn't feel the same way. This way, you rule out any concerns over awkwardness from the word 'go'.
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