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ok i got a problem i live with my aunt and grandma for almost 2 years now and i live witht hem because me n my mom use to get into it real bad bout stupid stuff but now me n my moms real real close and i hate livin here at my grandmas cuz its like im in prison the only bad thing ive really ever did here was get bad grades and thaey acted like it was the end of the world.. but n e ways i really really want to move bak in with my mom my mom says itsa ok but i have to tell my aunt i want to move out but im scared she wount let me or shell flip out on me i need help on tellin her i dont want to live here no more will sum 1 please help me
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Are you sure you are going back to livewith your Mum for the right reasons? I know that living with your Aunt and Grandma might be tough but the only reason they are strict is because they feel it is the best way to raise a pleasent, responsible and hard working child. Perhaps it isn't ideal but would it necessarily be different living with your Mum? If you get there and the rules are more strict or you start fighting again, will you go back to live with your Aunt and Grandma? More importantly, would they take you back for a second time?
I'm not trying to dissuade you from doing this at all. There are too many benefits of growing up with a Mother to deprive you of it for longer than you feel necessary but I want you to be aware of the implications before you make a decision.
Now, if you are absoloutely sure you want to do this, you need to speak to both your Grandma and your Aunt at the same time. At the end of the day, if your Mother has legal custody of you, they really can't stop you from living with her so don't worry about this. You need to tell them that you appreciate everything they have done for you and that you have loved living with them but that you are getting on better with your Mum now and you think it might be better for everyone involved in the long run, if you went back to live with her and see how that goes. If they have concerns over whether or not you could live with her without the fighting again, try reaching a compromise. Say you live with your Mum every other week (if possible) and see how it goes.
Just please make sure you think it over carefully before you make any decisions. You need to base it on which environment will be the best for your upbringing, rather than which one will be easiest to cope with or which one might carry the least restrictions.
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Hi
Maybe this is something that your mom needs to do. You are her daughter, and she has a right to want you back (unless she gave custody to your aunt or grandma).
I understand that you don't want to hurt your aunt or grandmas feelings, but you also deserve to live with your mom if that's what both you and your mom want.
You and your mom could sit down with your aunt and grandma and explain that things are better, and your ready to move home with your mom. They should be happy that you and your mom are getting along, and should encourage your relationship with her.
There will probably be some hurt feelings, only because your aunt and grandma were good enough to take you in, love you, and care for you, when you needed an out.
Just remember to show your gratitude towards them for everything they've done for you. But defintely don't do this on your own. Your mom needs to be there for emotional support.
Good luck, and take care.
Brenda
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you should get both your aunt and grandma to sit down with you and tell them wat you want. but dont let them cut you off or interupt you. you are in control at this point. and then tell them how you feel closer to your mom and she says its ok for you to move back in with her. then have them calll her and talk about it.
everything should work out aslong as you stay strong and clam.
----caitlin----
hope i helped:)
keep me informed
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