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what should i doooo
alright so my boyfriend comes over here like everyday and i love it because i get to see him everyyyy dayy and thats just fine with me but sometimes when hes over here and im in the shower i get out come to my room and hes on myspace writing someone or reading someones message to him but once i really get in the room he closes out of it really quick and this has happen twice. idk what to do because if hes hiding something i need to know but im scared to ask him because i dont want us to start an arguement. what should i do?????
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Well, I don't think you should be that worried. If it were something serious, I don't think he would be doing it at your house. Maybe next time you catch him doing it, just casually say, "Oh, what was that?" or something like that. Or bring it up if you're in the middle of a relating-subject. Just don't bring it up out of the random, because that's when arguments start. I hope this helps!
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You should check your history first. If it doesn't let you log into it because he was looking at his messages, ask him.
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Just like ask him what's going on, because one of my ex boyfriends used to do that with IM. Just say, "Who's myspace were you on?" or "Hey, were you on myspace? Who were you talking to?" If he tries to say "Noone" then just like ask him if he's doing something that he probably shouldn't be like doing. Like it is your house and you can totally kick him off the computer. But just like try asking him, and if he doesn't admit what he's really doing, dump him! Because if he keeps lyin to you, you don't desserve that!
xoxo Regina
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You have to ask him. It's him that's doing something wrong not you, so why should he get mad? He wouldn't get mad and it wouldn't cause an argument if he had nothing to hide. He's probably chatting to other girls on there which is why he keeps closing the screen when you come. It might not be something as bad though, like he's just embarrassed about a conversation he's had with someone... but you'll never know if you don't taslk to him about it.
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hey. if you are really worried about him going on your computer, then i would suggest setting a password on it. dont be afraid to ask him what he is doing... you can say it in a polite way and not make it sound like you are demanding. he may just be talking to his friends, you never know, so dont be afraid to bring it up. if he tells you, even if it is not what you want to hear, then thank him for being honest. i hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥
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If your really worried about an arguement then your relationship isnt really veryy strong. you should be able to ask him anything with out getting yelled att. and you can ask him for his password ((i have done that before and he actually gave it to me so i went through a bunch of stuff))((but thats a bad idea if he catches you))
hope this helps!
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Check your computer history. Whenever you use your PC, it keeps a history of every website that has been visited within the last however many days. If you have never looked at it before, look for a sundial type picture or a clock type picure. If there's nothing like this, just move your mouse pointer along the top of your screen til you find it. Then find out what website he has visited.
However, the bigger issue here is the trust issue. If you are ever to trust him, you need to confront him about stuff like this because if you don't you are just encouraging a secretive relationship. Next time it happens, just casually ask him what he was doing, because he always seems to close it down when you come into the room. Se what he says to this. I know you don't want to start an argument but if he IS doing something he shouldn't be on your computer, you have every right to know about it, because he shouldn't be doing it in the first place. If it's all innocent, then there should be no fight because he has nothing to hide.
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This is a sticky situation. If you do ask him what's going on, and he is hiding something, he might lie about it to save himself, or spare you any pain. A lot of guys will do that. Sometimes you have to be sneaky when you think he's doing something wrong, because the chances are high, he wont cop to it.
You could always make your own myspace account. They are free. Look up his profile, check out his buddies.
At the top of your internet browser, you'll see a back, forward, home, search buttons. There's also one that looks like a little clock. That's the history. If you click on that, you'll be able to see all the site's he's been to while you were in the shower.
If you see anything suspicious, like him chatting with a really pretty girl, asking her where she lives, and what size cups she has, etc. I would definatly confront him. If he lies about it, you can pull up the proof. Then it's up to you wether he's worth staying with or not.
Hopefully there's nothing to worry about though, and hopefully he's just chatting with friends about stupid things, like cars or something. Just remember to stay strong, no matter what. If he is lying, don't let him walk all over you, otherwise he'll realize he can do it again and again.
Hope I helped.
- Tipsy Gypsy
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Now I know the good thing to say would be to talk to him now because what I'm about to tell you could lead into an argument later but:
My idea is to maybe get a myspace of your own. NO REAL INFORMATION OR PICTURES. Unless you want to but thats your descision. Ok, then look at his comments and such. If he wont let you look at his myspace then you can ask him whats up.
I'm just scared this can lead into an argument of "You were spying on me!!"
So you might just want to ask him why he keeps closing the window. If you find out he lied about it later then you would have the right to be mad.
He could have just closed it because he was going to leave and nothings going on.
This one's tough but I hope I helped. =)
Good Luck!!
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Arguments are a part of being in a relationship. If you want to know then you need to ask. Don't accuse him of anything just simply ask what was he doing.
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