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Welcome to my advice column. My name is Dawn. First, I assure you I am not like other young people at all. There is nothing about me that is overly special. I have an extreme fear of going back in time, getting stuck there then contracting a disease that's curable now but not curable then, and of being drowned by peacocks. o.0 I have little respect for what hasn't earned it, most of the world is little more than my plaything or a joke to me but what makes it inside my walls is there forever. I was probably tampered with as a child by aliens. Godspeed.
This is an advice column. I have little patients for idiots...
Q: Can I ask you a question?
A: You just did, now I'm all out of answers for today, try again never.
Q: What's the song that goes like this ... ?
A: How is this asking for advice?
Q: I had unprotected sex 23,086,165 times, am I pregnant?
A: Take a damn test and stop being such a whore.
Q: Does he like me?
A: If you have to ask stupid questions like this, to complete strangers who know neither of you, then I highly doubt it. And if he does, then he's an idiot.
Q: Ok, I have to write this essay on (fill in the blank), what should I write?
A: Try growing a brain to think for yourself. You'll never amount to anything if you try to get others to do your homework for you.
Q: Rate this picture, am I ugly?
A: Once again, how is this asking for advice. Stop trying to get self-confirmation through strangers online. You have real self-issues and should probably see a therapist.
Q: Lyk how do u no if u r a lez?
A: You should really learn proper spelling and grammar. It's beyond me how anyone can understand a thing you said.
If you have a serious question, I can be one of the most helpful people you know. I may be only 22, but I have experienced a lot in my life. If I don't know the answer to your delema, I wont pretend to know it and give some random answer that sounded good at the time, I will simply let you know that I don't have the answer, and reffer you to some place that you can find the answer.
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i'm 15. almost 16. my special someone is 17. almost 18. our birthday are in the next two months. where I live it's ilegal for a 18 yr. old to date anyone under the age of 16 and i'm not quite there yet. but we've agreed we're not going to let that stop us. my mom doesn't let me go out with him because last week she decided that he's a loser because he droped out of school. and she thinks he's too old for me. my someone and i have been together for 8 months and i would do anything for him and we have a undying love for each other. but it's getting so hard and now he's listening to peoples opinions and wants to break up with me because he doesn't want to try anymore. i know i could have tried more instead of trying to find someone else. but now i regreat it. i know that if i convence him that we can do this then we can make it.. i just have to get him to see that we're supposed to be together any suggestions?
feel free to ask me any questions about this
I know what it's like to find love at a young age, and have everyone think it's not going to work out. My guy was the same age as me, however. We were together for three years, and he eventually just didn't want to try anymore. It hurt, and I tried everything. I was completely miserable during the next 6 months, trying so very hard, and getting nothing in return because he didn't want to try anymore.
The truth is, if he doesn't want to try anymore, there is nothing you can do to change that. Only he can make the decision to change. It would be easy for me to say,"I wish he would have tried." But the truth is, I'm better off. Sure, when I was with him, I loved him, and that was all I could see. But months after our break-up, I could see all the red-flags.
The same goes in your relationship. You love him, yes. But he doesn't want to try anymore. It's going to be hard, and you will be sad. But eventually, you'll move on. You'll find another person, and you'll grow from this relationship to make your next stronger and better.
I know this isn't want you want to hear. I didn't want to hear it when I was going through my breakup... but just remember, everything happens for a reason. You can't make him decide to try. Only he can. If he doesn't, then cry about it, get over it, and move on. If he does decide he wants to keep working on it, and he does have faith in your love, then great. This trial will only make your relationship stronger. Don't push him into trying, it will only push him further away. This is something he alone has to decide. You'll just have to accept it.
- Tipsy Gypsy
I'm wearing a lime green dress to prom and it has some silver at the bottom half. My date has a black tux and a white tux. Which do you think he should wear?
I think he should wear black. Your lime green dress would really stand out against black rather than white. But it's really up to him in which he feels more comfortable in, and what he thinks looks best on him.
alright so my boyfriend comes over here like everyday and i love it because i get to see him everyyyy dayy and thats just fine with me but sometimes when hes over here and im in the shower i get out come to my room and hes on myspace writing someone or reading someones message to him but once i really get in the room he closes out of it really quick and this has happen twice. idk what to do because if hes hiding something i need to know but im scared to ask him because i dont want us to start an arguement. what should i do?????
This is a sticky situation. If you do ask him what's going on, and he is hiding something, he might lie about it to save himself, or spare you any pain. A lot of guys will do that. Sometimes you have to be sneaky when you think he's doing something wrong, because the chances are high, he wont cop to it.
You could always make your own myspace account. They are free. Look up his profile, check out his buddies.
At the top of your internet browser, you'll see a back, forward, home, search buttons. There's also one that looks like a little clock. That's the history. If you click on that, you'll be able to see all the site's he's been to while you were in the shower.
If you see anything suspicious, like him chatting with a really pretty girl, asking her where she lives, and what size cups she has, etc. I would definatly confront him. If he lies about it, you can pull up the proof. Then it's up to you wether he's worth staying with or not.
Hopefully there's nothing to worry about though, and hopefully he's just chatting with friends about stupid things, like cars or something. Just remember to stay strong, no matter what. If he is lying, don't let him walk all over you, otherwise he'll realize he can do it again and again.
Hope I helped.
- Tipsy Gypsy
alright this is a stupid question but whatever.. so me and my boyfriend hangout at my house alot and i feel bad because theres nothing to do so we just end of watching tv all day and i get bored so i fall asleep all the time haha what else can we do just around my house? (i also live where theres nothing to do so believe me we would go out if there was something to do)
There are plenty of things to do if you put your mind to it. I used to live in an area, much like you, where the closest town is too far to walk, and even in that town there really isn't much to do.
The next time you go shopping, pick up a deck of cards, and some other fun games. You could easily interact and talk while playing games, and some of the games are so fun you could play them for hours.
You could also go for a walk, which would give you guys some alone time, and exersize.
You could play around online. There's a fun online virtual pet site with games, it's neopets.com
If you like artsy things, you could get a box of crayons and draw pictures of eachother, or for eachother. Or you could learn a new craft together.
The key is to find something you both enjoy doing together, that way you have some great bonding time. A lot of couples now a days don't seem to have a lot that they like to do together. The ones that have a few hobbies that they like to share with eachother(like practicing a martial art, or something) seem to be happier, and last longer.
Good luck. If all else fails, ask him if he has any ideas.
- Tipsy Gypsy
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now and I'm having a few issues with the choices he's making. Now, I need really mature people to answer this. I have always not really liked certain type of guys such as with piercings and tattoos and mohawks and stuff. I fully understand that not ALL of those people are bad. But I have been brought up in a really good family with morals and I want a guy who doesn't look like that. My boyfriend has told me that he is wanting to get a few tattoos and it will be happening very soon. I'm really upset about this, I feel like it's going to change him because he's been changing a lot lately. He's going downhill and I've confronted him with these feelings and he got totally defensive and told me to stop acting like his mom. I admit that I did put my foot down and say that I'm not dealing with it when he told me, but then I tried to keep saying that I'm really worried because tattoos are permanant decisions!
Like I said, I need someone with morals to answer this. I don't want a speech stating that I should just accept him, I do accept him, but tattos are a decision, it doesn't define who he is.
I will rate and let you know what I think of your advice.
Thank you so much in advance
Personally, I think I have great morals. I'm not a big fan of alot of tattoo's either. But it is his decision to make about himself. It really shouldn't have anything to do with you, and if you're trying to make him choose between what he wants to do, and you, then that's being a little unfair. If he's getting a few tattoos in places that might not be seen regularly, like on his shoulder which could be covered up by a shirt, then I don't see what the problem is. However, if he's getting a naked chick tattooed on his forearm, then I would have a problem with it.
Like I said, I'm not normally a big fan of tattoos either, however, I do see that is it a form of art, and it is an expression of one's 'self'. Sure, he might not like the tattoo fifty years down the road, but that's the price he'll have to pay, not you.
My husband wants to get his tongue pierced. Or his eyebrown, and I don't want him to do that. Perhaps I don't because, I'm used to the way he is now, and I'm afraid that if he changes, I love him less. But the truth is, I wont love him less. And if your boyrfiend gets a tattoo, you might not like it at first, but you'll get used to it. I mean, honestly, can you tell me you'll love someone less just because they got ink permenantly placed on them? It's not going to change WHO he is... just his apperance. What is it you love more, him, or his looks?
-Tipsy Gypsy
I am 40/f and own my own home. Because he's just never got his act together I've had my brother and fiancee living with me since june 2005. They are paying rent, but i really want my space back! I've lived alone for almost 12 years (after being widowed at 29). They are getting married tomorrow.... how can i gracefully ask when they will be moving on? I've kinda put my mom up to saying... so, are you two planning on buying a house or what? but she's been ill and hasn't had the opportunity. Appreciate your advice!
If they are old enough and stable enough to get married, then they are old enough, and stable enough to live on their own, wether it be an apartment or their own house. As long as you allow them to live there, they will take advantage of it. It's easier for them.
I think you should tell them that since they are getting married, it's about time they found their own place. I'm sure they know the bennifits, but it doesn't hurt to remind them that they'll get to decorate how they like, and they will get much more privacy.
They might not like they idea, they might like it. But you could help them out with it as well by doing some research for them of places that are for rent or sale. If they are paying rent with you, it won't be that difficult for them to pay rent for an apartment either.
Of course, with them getting married so soon, I suggest you wait a while, perhaps a week or so before you suggest this. They'll need 'honeymoon' time, and time to bask in the glory of their marriage.
I hope everything works out.
Tipsy Gypsy
Okay, I have a boyfriend and I love him more then anything. Only theres this little problem. I haven't gotten over my ex boyfriend. Me and him have been goin on and off for the past year or 2. He's moving at the end of the year and he now has a new girlfriend. He told me that once he could drive he would come back for me. (We're both 13) Only he told me that a few months ago before we went out again. I sort of flirt with him alot and don't realize it. My question is, am I cheating on my current boyfriend in anyway by flirting with my ex? He doesn't flirt back or anything because im pretty sure he doesnt like me like that anymore. I dont want to cheat on my boyfriend, and if I did i didnt mean to. Please help
I'll rate high im desparate for help =[
You're not cheating on your boyfriend... but you're walking on the line. The question is, if your flirting with him were to make him want you back, would you go further with him? It's one thing to flirt with people for self-esteem, and flirt with them knowing it's just harmless flirting, that nothing will come from it, nor would you want anything more... but it's another to flirt with someone you want, while you're in a relationship.
You're only thirteen. You'll go through several more boyfriends during highschool, and you'll think you love them all. It's teenaged drama, it happens to everyone. If you're 'in love' with your current boyfriend, then you should be over your ex-boyfriend. If you still have feelings for your ex-boyfriend, and you 'cant get over him', then why are you with your current boyfriend? Isn't that unfair to your current boyfriend?
You need to give up the ideals and fantasies of your ex-boyfriend, and focus solely on your current boyfriend, if you really do love him. That's not to say you can't still be friends with your ex-boyfriend... but only that. Nothing more... not even flirting. Turn the tables around for a minute. If your current boyfriend couldn't get over their ex-girlfriend, and flirted with her, how would that make you feel?
I hope everything works out. I know teenaged draman and angst is difficult... but like I said, everyone goes through it.
- Tipsy Gypsy
There is this family friend who is helping our family while my grandma has a stroke. I dont mind her helping because we always help her financially. You see she isn't finacially well off and I heard she theifs. Okay so that set me back, and now she wants to come and stay 3 days a week by us. I totally hate her she jus comes and preaches n my mum is always taken back by her. She's always like how she knows what she's doing and my mum doesn't think about my grandma she jus talks to this lady WHOLE friggin day and it pisses me offf and I break down! How can I stop her comin?
Unfortunately you cant stop her from coming. It is your mother's house, and if your mother enjoys this woman's company and wants to talk to her, then your mother has the final say.
I'm not understanding why you're getting so worked up by this person's presence in your house. Is she stealing anything from you? And what do you mean by 'preaching'? If she's stealing from you, that's another story. But if she's preaching a faith you don't believe in, then you don't have to sit there and listen to it(unless of course, your mother forces you to). My suggestion is, when you know this person is coming over to your house, go hang out with your friends or find something else to do. There's no sense in 'breaking down' over something so trivial, and something you can't control.
Sincerely,
Tipsy Gypsy
SOrry about the subject.
I was online the other day at like 3 am and my ex had IMed me. i brok eup with him about 2years ago. It was kinda the parents fault because of my grades and they told me i couldnt see him anymore. So online he was like hey slut: im like shut up and leave me alone. like half way thru him talking to me he told me if he ever snapped he would kill me. He said when i broke up with him i made him suffer and i causeed him to have no respect for girls anymore. Im like why do you say stuff like that and he said he can. He has a girlfriend right now that he has been with for over a year they live together. He had no trust in me what so ever. We wouldnt of lasted. My question is what do i do about him saying he would kill me? I dont have any prove because the message got deleted. I told my mom.
He lives in a different state. And he doesnt know where i live because i had moved.
Any help would be wonderful thnk.
It sounds like he's all talk. I don't think you should be worried. In fact, I think you should feel sorry for him. He's too immature to move past the breakup, especially after he's found another girlfriend(who I feel REALLY sorry for). He's just trying to torment you and scare you. He's trying to control you though he's not with you anymore. You need to stand up and be the strong one here, show him you're not afraid of his petty insults. If anything, showing him that he has no control over you(even if it is your emotions), will tell him you're a stronger person, and you wont deal with his childishness anymoe. It'll tell him that he's picking on the wrong person, and that he needs to grow up. The moment you tell him what he tells you scares you, he wins. And he'll keep it up.
If all else fails, you could always block him from your messanger services, and never talk to him again. Which, I would suggest. You don't need to let someone like that try to intimidate you and try to ruin your life, just because he's too immature to get over the issue.
Good luck.
Tipsy Gypsy
hey everyone .. i recently saw a picture in a magazine of ashlee simpson and she had her cartiledge pierced two times i already have mine pierced 1 time but i was just wondering if ashlees blonde hair compliments it because i have dark dark brown hair almost black and i wanted to know if you think it would look good with my hair color and your opion about the piercing thanksin advance = ] i rate 5s
I have black hair as well. If you wear light colored, or diamondish earring, or silver hoops, your black hair will really make them stand out and sparkle. Blond hair doesn't seem to do it as well as darker hair. ;)
I have a friend who is still friends with this really awful woman. It was so bad between me and this woman that I had to put a block on my phone. She was abusive to me, she backstabbed me, she monopolized my time and tried to control me. She would break into my email account and delete things from my family. This is embarrasing to say but she even tried to seduce me a couple of times She is a real bitch and told me once that I didnt want to get on her bad side or she'd black mail me. I met her at a volunteer center when I was on welfare. My parents hated her and told me to drop her.
Well I finally did and was she ever mad!! I had to stop volunteering at the centre and stop going to the same places as her. She still badmouths me to any one who listens.
My other friend still likes me but is scared to get on this womans bad side. So she is friends with her but has to lie that we are not friends.
She even told me that i should bury the hatchet and phone her!! I said no way.
How can I get my friend to wake up and realize this woman is a complete bitch?
Unfortunatly, you might just have to let your friend realize for herself. You've warned her about this other woman's flaws. But if you keep trying to push your friend to break it off with this other woman, you might just end up pushing your friend away.
Why anyone would want to be friends with this walking ball of hate it beyond me. But sometimes you just don't see the bad side of a person until it's 'too late'. I'm sure you're not the only person who dislikes her. And I'm sure that all the people she spews her verbal diarreah onto about you are sick of hearing it, and realize that it's not the truth, but just her hatred twords you for supposedly wronging her.
I'm glad you broke things off with her. There's no need for her to spread her special brand of misery onto you. But as for your friend, she'll soon realize she doesn't want to hang around with a depressed angry bitch anymore, and you just need to be there for when that time comes to support her and back her up.
Sincerely,
Tipsy Gypsy
Does anyone know any sites that tell you how to get all the secret avatars and stuff?...
Thanks in advance.
There are many sites, but one that I think is put together very well and will be around for a long time is this one:
http://www.nothingbutneopets.com/home.php?sub=avatars
Have fun collecting your avatars!
Tipsy Gypsy
I have a question about a guy who I'm friends with. He had invited me and some other friends of his to celebrate his wifes birtday at a local restaurant.
Well I was the 3rd person to arrive and from the minute I sat down next to him and his wife he gave me attitude. He asked me a question and I thought he said "where's the gang", I aswered that they hadnt arrived yet. Then he YELLED at me and said "I SAID WHERES THE GIG"!
When everyone else had arrived (there was about 20 people) his wife started opening her gifts. When she opened my gift someone asked where the card was. I didnt get her a card, just a gift and he (her husband) snapped "there IS no card".
Well after this abusive behavior and no one defending me I went to the bathroom. When I walked out he came up to me. I told him I was leaving because I felt uncomfortable. He asked me if I would be going to another function with him and his wife the next day and I told him no I was going to my parents. Well then he did something that I thought was almost a little voilent. He stuck his face REALLY close to mine (like we could have almost kissed ) and said in a loud, mean, voice 'IM SO SORRY".
This really freaked me out. My question is why do you think he would treat me this way? And does that mean he might be a violent person? Also do I have a right to think he was being an asshole?
You have every right to think he was an asshole. That kind of behavior is uncalled for. I am glad you left when you were uncomfortable and you denied his future request. It shows that you have backbone and that you won't put up with his shit.
As far as violence, it is incredibly hard to determine. I say there is possibility that he could be violent(was he drinking?). I think that he would preffer not to be violent, but if something pushes him far enough, he definatly has the potiental.
Violent or not, there is abuse going on there... mental. And you don't need to deal with that. The next time he tries to make you feel like crap, stand up for yourself(since your friends obviously seem intimidated by him as well, or they really aren't good friends either). The only way to make someone realize they are doing something wrong is by bringing it to their attention. Sure, it might make him mad at first, and he might not change, but trust me... it will eat away at him.
Tipsy Gypsy
I have a question that I really can't ask anyone else about because it is too humiliating. Well at the college I go to there is a weekly campus newspaper. I was reading the classified section the other day and under personals it had my name (just my first name), and then is said (my name), STAY AWAY!! I thought it was just a one time thing but then the next week it had my name under the personals again and this time is said (my name)," masturbation is fun."
This guy that had been really mean to me even brought it up, and asked me if I had been reading the paper. I can't prove that it was him doing this, but isnt this a form of harassmant, or slander? Could I sue the college over this? This guy that has been mean to me is a reporter for the paper.
What are my rights? They are only using my first name so they could always say they were talking about someone else, but I know it's about me.
You cannot sue a college over something like this. However, you can get this guy in trouble, and hopefully make him loose his job writing for the paper. Simply go to his boss, the head of this newspaper. Bring all the evidence you can, and have a sit down meeting with her or him. Tell them that this guy has been harassing you.
As far as sueing this guy for slander, if you have the money for a lawyer and you want to, you can certiantly talk to someone about this. In order to prove defamation, you have to be able to prove that what was said or written about you was false. If the information is true, or if you consented to publication of the material, you will not have a case. However, you may bring an defamatory action if the comments are so reprehensible and false that they effect your reputation in the community or cast aspersions on you. However, this might be extremely difficult since your last name was not printed. If you want to go this route, I suggest you carry a tape recorder with you, and when this jerk talks to you again, hit record. This can be proof, if he says the right things.
Good Luck,
Tipsy Gypsy
I have a bit of a problem right now. I like this guy and he has the same feelings for me. We get along great and have a lot in common. The only problem: he is the ex-boyfriend of one of my best friends. She still seems to have some feelings for him (they are still friends) and gets upset when he has dates with other girls she doesn't even know. She does not know that I like him and I'm afraid to tell her because I don't want to upset her. As it stands right now, I will not persue anything with this guy because I don't want to hurt her. So far it is split with the people I have talked to, half say go for it, the other half say its not worth lossing her friendship. What is your opinion?
The real question is, which is more important to you? Your friendship, or the guy? You seem to have a steady grasp of what is going on here. You know your friend would get upset with you if you date this guy. But there are also other things to consider. Is your friendship strong enough to prevail if you date her ex? If so, I say go for it, but slowly. Sure, you might get into a fight... but over time you could have both friend and boyfriend. How long ago was it that your friend and her ex broke up? If it wasn't too long ago, I say that you wait. The wounds might still be fresh, and they need time to heal. This is not to say that you can't ever date him, just that you need to wait for your friend to heal before you move on. What was the cause of their break-up? If it was a peaceful break-up that they BOTH decided on because it 'just didn't work out', then I say talk to your friend in a mature manner and tell her everything. Assure her that your friendship is more important to you, but you needed to be truthful. If they split up on bad grounds(he was cheating, or a nasty fight, etc) then it might be too difficult for her to accept that her friend and 'bad' ex are together, and I advise you not to go down that road until her wounds heal, otherwise you'd just be adding salt to those open wounds. If they did break up on bad grounds, think about your own morals. For example, if he cheated on your friend, do you really want to date a cheater? Or if they got into a fight about something, take a look at the issue and be sure it won't effect a possible future between the two of you.
Take it slow, weigh the pros and the cons, and make sure your friend is steady and ready before you persue anything more with her ex.
I hope that helps.
Tipsy Gypsy
i want to adopt a virtual pet thing for my site but i want a monkey and bunnyherolab.com or w./e it is doenst have oe does any know any other sites with one?
Neopets is a GREAT virtual pet commuity with so many awesome features. I play on neopets every single day!! There are monkey pets and bunny pets(they are called Myncis and Cybunnies). And you can adopt them in four basic colours. You can also create your own shop, go to different worlds(like faerie land, the desert, or under water), and make money(called neopoints). You can also paint your pets to be really pretty.
Anyways, just check it out. There are over 109,856,374 users.
And to let them know I reffered you, please register under this url:
http://www.neopets.com/refer.phtml?username=sigrist
Otherwise, you can always check the site out at
neopets.com
Have fun!
Tipsy Gypsy
I really want a funny Myspace display name!! My friends have such good ones but I can't think of any!! These are some I like:
"I wambo, you wambo, he-she-it WAMBO"
"Do you kiss your mother with that mouth?"
Can you think of some funny ones like those? I would be eternally grateful ♥
-Arielle
Well, this is pretty funny actually. It's a slogan generator:
http://www.thesurrealist.co.uk/slogan.cgi
These are some of the results I got:
It Makes Your Cordelia Smack.
Refreshes the Cordelia Other Beers Cannot Reach.
Four out of Five Dentists Recommend Cordelia.
Cordelia-Lickin' Good.
Go Crack a Cordelia.
Just go to the website I provided and type your name in, then keep refreshing until you find something you like.
Have fun!
Tipsy Gypsy
OK this is really ticking me off. I stopped my period the 27th and i JUST got it back today, which is the 8th..im getting really ticked because my periods NEVER regular its always early but this is the EARLIEST. I'm getting really frustrated because my periods getting in the way of plans and i dont know its just SO ANNOYING! what can I do about it??
X0X0X*STACiA*
The birth control pill helps to regulate periods. I had the same problem as you, and when I got on the pill it helped it. However, if you are already on the pill, and you miss some, that might also be the cause. You could also try going on the Depo shot. You might have light break through bleeding every now and then, but on most women it eliminates the period entirely after a few months. A gyno should be able to help you make an educated decision based on your personal and family history.
Hope that helps.
Tipsy Gypsy
I have been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 yrs. We moved in together about 4 months ago. And I asked him before I agreed to move in with him if he thought he loved me enough to ever marry. He said yes. But since we have moved in together I am scared he will never ask me. How do I know if he ever will or not?
What's the rush? Getting married just for the sake of having a ring is self-destructive. You'll just end up divorced and bitter with a couple of kids and very little money to raise them with. Wait until you're a little more settled before playing house.
Enjoy your time together right now, as it is. Don't pressure him into marrying you, because for all you know, he might not be ready yet. If you push at the issue, you'll only be pushing him out the door.
Sincerely Yours,
Tipsy Gypsy
There's this girl at school that tries to stick to me like glue. We both get to school very early in the morning, and she comes every day to chat. I don't dislike her, but she's rather aggravating and I can tell she has a monster crush on me. Sometimes I can catch her staring at me in he hallway. What should I do about her? She's nice and all, but she doesn't realize how goddamn annoying she is. What would you advise?
Part of growing up is learning to deal with people in many situations like this. Sometimes you learn about rejection and how to handle it gracefully and sometimes you're the one doing the rejecting. It's important to be graceful in both situations. Yes, she's annoying, but life is full of annoying people, and is full of sacrifices, so I wouldn't hurt her feelings. One useful way to give someone a hint that you're not interested is by talking about someone you ARE interested in. This is useful because it sends a clear signal that you're looking elsewhere. You could also tell her you that you think of her as a friend. Being direct can work sometimes as well. You don't sound like the type of guy to be a jerk to this girl, so I'm not worried about that. All you need to do it let her know it's not going to happen, but in a nicer way.
Hope I helped,
Tipsy Gypsy