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Annoying girl with a crush on me
There's this girl at school that tries to stick to me like glue. We both get to school very early in the morning, and she comes every day to chat. I don't dislike her, but she's rather aggravating and I can tell she has a monster crush on me. Sometimes I can catch her staring at me in he hallway. What should I do about her? She's nice and all, but she doesn't realize how goddamn annoying she is. What would you advise?
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When a girl has a crush on a guy, she can be really sensitive to what he says. You seem to be a really great catch because while you don't necessairly want her attention, you are considerate enough of her feeling to approach the subject in a careful manner.
My advice is that the next time you speak to her maybe mention a girlfriend in an offhanded way. This way she gets the point that you are interested in someone else. Hopefully, she will leave you alone. If not, you could try acting distant. Maybe if she gets the feeling that you are not in to her, she will lay off. Whatever you do, do not flirt with her!
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You seem like a nice guy who obviously doesn't like the poor girl.. hey, its not your fault! It happens! You should just keep doing what ur doing.. be nice to her, but obviously dont lead her on or anything.. so eventually her crush will vanish.. it always does!!
Hopefully after it vanishes, u dont start liking her;) just kidding!!!
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talk to her about it...it'll work! tell her how you feel, even if it hurts her! i absolutely HATE it when guys dont tell me how they feel or what they are thinking, i'd rather have it hurt and know than not know at all and just continue being that way or something!
good luck talking to her!
xo ash
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Try being nice to her. Eventually her crush will go away and she won't talk to you as much, and if you talk to other girls too, she might not want to get in your way, so that may help too.
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tell her that she is getting oon ur bad side and you would apprecitate it if she didnt bother you as much
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aah you are so lucky you have me to advise you...
TELL HER how goddamn annoying she is.
jeez
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i`d just ignore her and blow her off.. She`ll get the hint.. yea it might hurt her feelings a bit but she`ll get over it.. ♥ Dez
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Eventually if she doesn't get her feelings reciprocated she's gonna give up. You're just going to have to be patient! When she looks at you, look away. If she speaks to you, talk back but don't say a lot or you could even subtly say that there's a girl you fancy in the year above or something. A bit harsh perhaps, but in the long run you're helping her out as well!!! Good luck
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You sound like a nice guy and I know you don't want to hurt this girl's feelings, but obviously you still need to know how to deal with her. Have you tried taking a book to school or doing any work (homework, for example) when you get to school early? This way, you could tell her that you're not able to chat that morning because you need to get your work done. Or, you could tell her you're very engrossed in your book and that you really want to continue reading it because you just can't put it down. You don't have to do this every day if you don't mind talking to her sometimes. It sounds as though you think she's an okay person, just that with her being by your side EVERY single day, she's become a nuisance. My friends and I always take a book to a restaurant when we are dining alone. For one thing it gives us something to do, but for another thing, it usually thwarts the advances of annoying people who want to chat if they think we're available and willing to listen/talk.
I know you think she has a major crush on you, and she probably does. However, has the subject of her liking you actually come up? I ask this because sometimes it's hard to tell a person you're not interested in them as far as having a relationship when the subject has never come up. You need to tread carefully in a situation such as this. If you have a girlfriend, maybe you could bring her up in your conversations. Just do it with sensitivity and don't go overboard. You could also ask this girl if she has a boyfriend and when she tells you "no," which she probably will, then maybe you can suggest guys you might think would be interested in her, or you could ask her why she's "single" at the moment, etc. This could actually work towards your advantage as she may reveal to you that she's interested in you. That's when you can tell her that you think she's a great friend and you've enjoyed talking to her in the mornings, but that you're not interested in a boyfriend/girlfriend realtionship with her. Yes, this may hurt her, but you can soften the blow by how you tell her. I imagine that you're a kind enough guy to know how to let her down easily. She'll get over her crush eventually, especially if you continue being nice to her; but keep a modicum of distance.
This is a good (yet difficult) lesson in life as you will discover that there will probably be plenty of times in your life when someone (male or female) inserts him- or herself into your life when you're not interested. Always try to handle these situations with sincerity, and kindness, but with aplomb (self-confidence) so that you are making your point very clearly and not sending mixed signals, or speaking with ambivalence which could easily be misread. And don't ever feel like you owe people detailed explanations, or any explanation at all. That can sometimes muddy the waters. It invites people to continue to talk about the situation and to try to convince you out of your conviction. Keep your comments short and precise, though conscientious; but again, you don't owe anyone an explanation for your feelings.
Good luck. I'm sure you can do this maturely and with grace. You just sound like that kind of guy.
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Part of growing up is learning to deal with people in many situations like this. Sometimes you learn about rejection and how to handle it gracefully and sometimes you're the one doing the rejecting. It's important to be graceful in both situations. Yes, she's annoying, but life is full of annoying people, and is full of sacrifices, so I wouldn't hurt her feelings. One useful way to give someone a hint that you're not interested is by talking about someone you ARE interested in. This is useful because it sends a clear signal that you're looking elsewhere. You could also tell her you that you think of her as a friend. Being direct can work sometimes as well. You don't sound like the type of guy to be a jerk to this girl, so I'm not worried about that. All you need to do it let her know it's not going to happen, but in a nicer way.
Hope I helped,
Tipsy Gypsy
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I would prolley just ignore her when she tries talking to u in the morning..maybe she'll get the hint
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