Hi there, my name is Jeannie. I am a 21 year old librarian who is finishing up a history major in "Smallcity, MO." Where relationships are concerned, I am a self-proclaimed advice goddess. I have the knack for scaring off potential suitors. Thank God I learn from my mistakes, and have lived to pass my pears of wisdom on to others.
No, but seriously, I have been told that I have a flair for giving advice. If you would like to find out for yourself, just ask.
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Location: Missouri
Occupation: Librarian
Age: 21
Member Since: December 18, 2005
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I am a married man who a few months ago was asked to go to lunch by a female coworker. She's 23 and I am 36 and she has a boyfriend and if it means anything we are both considered very attractive. I initially didn't take her up on her offer, but then agreed after she asked me a few other times. We went to lunch and we talked about work and stuff and she paid. Well this is now a regular occurrence and she now brings up things besides work, like sex with her boyfriend and when and how they do it. She also just recently asked me to go play tennis with her after work. Needless to say, I think we're becoming close friends. I'm just not sure what her intentions are if any. What's even more confusing is that a bunch of us went out to the bar the other night and she didn't even talk to me, spending most of her time talking to another male coworker. I would think that if we were friends she's act normal around me and talk to me in an outside work setting. But it's almost like she was afraid something may happen. I guess my question to you is am I just a victim of different generations? Is it normal for a twenty something female to hang out with a coworker, talk about sex, ask him to do extracurricular activities, and not want to be with him on a more intimate level? I'm thinking I should nip this in the bud before we do something we both will regret. (link)
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Ok, so this is the deal. You are married and she has a boyfriend. While she may be playing head games with you, it is not cool for you to even toy around with the thought of an office romance. Go home to your wife, or get a divorce.
Also, there is an age gap of 13 years between the two of you. If something did happen between you guys, you could be fired from your job. I imagine it would be pretty easy for her to play the "but he seduced me, and I didn't know what to do" card.
Trust me. STAY AWAY FROM THIS!
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There's this girl at school that tries to stick to me like glue. We both get to school very early in the morning, and she comes every day to chat. I don't dislike her, but she's rather aggravating and I can tell she has a monster crush on me. Sometimes I can catch her staring at me in he hallway. What should I do about her? She's nice and all, but she doesn't realize how goddamn annoying she is. What would you advise? (link)
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When a girl has a crush on a guy, she can be really sensitive to what he says. You seem to be a really great catch because while you don't necessairly want her attention, you are considerate enough of her feeling to approach the subject in a careful manner.
My advice is that the next time you speak to her maybe mention a girlfriend in an offhanded way. This way she gets the point that you are interested in someone else. Hopefully, she will leave you alone. If not, you could try acting distant. Maybe if she gets the feeling that you are not in to her, she will lay off. Whatever you do, do not flirt with her!
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I have been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 yrs. We moved in together about 4 months ago. And I asked him before I agreed to move in with him if he thought he loved me enough to ever marry. He said yes. But since we have moved in together I am scared he will never ask me. How do I know if he ever will or not? (link)
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Some guys just take their time with things like this. Unfortunately, there is no way to force the guy to ask you to marry him. However, you could sit down with him and have a serious talk. Just let him know that, while you love him and are happy living with him, you still hope for something more. It is really important to do this at a time when you are both at ease, and in a way that won't make him feel like he is being cornered or repremanded. I know it is hard to bring up a subject like this, but once you do you will feel much better knowing where your relationship stands.
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What do people mean when they say "opposites attract"? Is this statement true? (link)
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I think that the "opposites attract" saying is somewhat true. It is good and healthy to date someone who is not your exact clone. Without a difference in interests in backgrounds, and interests it would be easy for life to become stale. Therefore, dating someone who is considered an opposite can be a lively and fun experience. Just remember that two people can be too different, and in that case, the relationship may fizzle as well.
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