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Scared he might dump me
I've been trying to figure this out since I've been with my boyfriend for the past 2 months. It's a new relationship but we feel like we've known each other all our lives. He is the greatest guy I've ever met - handsome, funny, smart, sweet, loving, sexy, treats me like queen. But the thing, before we got together, I NEVER would have thought I was his type. I'm a regular girl, take care of myself, care about people, not a hot babe or anything but I'm alright. So anyhow, I feel insecure to be with him because with how hot and great he is, he's bound to find a hot and great girl. Therefore, I find myself very very skeptical about this relationship lasting. I've talked to him and believe me, he reassures me like crazy that he wants to be with me and feels like he can love me forever. He really does have a good head on his shoulders. But what does add to it, is that he has a lot of female friends as well - all are just long time friends, but these girls are great as well, and I feel like he's bound to fall for one of them soon. It's so frustrating to be with such a great guy and not feel like you're the centre of his world (even when he treats you like it). What can I do?
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Relax, he isn't going to dump you. Not unless you don't stop freaking out over nothing. That'll get on his nerves in time.
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When a person brings unwarranted negative energy into a relationship it eventually corrupts the relationship. You are with him for a reason. Enjoy the way he makes you feel and how he treats you. Understand that you are worth it. You deserve to have a partner who cares for you as does anybody else. Be thankful that you found someone that embodies all these things that you want. He likes you for a whole bunch of reasons because if he didn't then he would not be with you. Hold on to him and cherish him.
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trust him. you probably are better than "alright"
if hes going out with youu. looks arent everything.you sound like you have an amazing personallity and be confident in yourself && he probbaly wont dump you. thing is ;; he MIGHT feel like you dont trust him if you start asking him about his girl - friends or about why hes with you. jsut trust him is all i can say.
hope i helped!
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The story of my life. I'd met a guy from Massachusetts, who was gorgeous! Totally a bad ass with a heart screamin' nothing but love for me--I was kinda like, "Okay--whats the catch?" Just being that I wasnt even close to the cats meow. Whats worse is he had dated models and other such beauties, making me feel like I couldnt take my make up off --ever! I was crazy self critiquy, and jealous, and asked myself daily, "Is this the day hes going to dump me." Long story short--its been three years and Im still with him. If the click is there, and both of you mesh (personality-wise) well together, acting like best friends but at the same time love birds--your golden. Rest assured this guys not like the rest of 'em, and looks arent of his priority list. The more you sit and contimplate it all--the less you'll enjoy it all, run with it, or your fears could come true because youve made them a reality by pushing him away and rejecting his good intensions. And if after awhile, shit happens, it wasnt meant to be. POINT: Take a deep breath, and let cupid do the rest....
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If he didn't know you were the one, he wouldn't be dating you. If he hasn't gone out with one of his girl friends in the past, he won't go for them now. Just be more confident. He may get fed up with you always putting yourself down. He loves you, not some other hot and great girl!
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aww well after all he is YOUR boyfriend and you have to trust me,if he liked someone else he would have just gone for them..but hes not he has you just dont think that i have thought about that to and was all ughh crazy but just dont think that because he loves you and no other girls esp if he treats you like your his world wow he must be totally in love with you ♥
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Just realize that once you get over your self loathing and thinking you're not good enough you will be able to enjoy this relationship to the fullest. Plus, guys love self confident (NOT COCKY) girls.
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It's very very natural to feel that way. I felt it and sometimes still do feel it with my boyfriend. He's just so great I feel like I can never be as good as he is. He could get any girl he wanted and there are a lot of girls out there that are better looking and smarter than me and all that jazz. The thing is, he's going out with you so you must be something special yourself. It doesn't matter what you or anyone else thinks, it's what he thinks. You are the best girl in the world to him, that's why he's dating you. He thinks about you and views you in the same way that you view him. That's what makes love so special. Nobody's perfect, but they can be perfect together. Don't worry about him breaking up with you. That kind of worry can actually cause a breakup! Be happy, feel special, and feel lucky because you are...and so is he. :)
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You sound like a brilliant, loving, and kind girl. And you sound like you need some self-confidence as well. Just relax and enjoy the here and now rather than worrying about the fact that he might dump you in the future. If it lasts a forever, great. If it lasts for five months, then you have a brilliant 5 months of romance. There's no sense in going crazy waiting for this guy to dump you, because if that's all you worry about, that's what will eventually happen. Self confidence is sexy and attractive and a lack of self confidence is, well... not. It doesn't matter what these other girls look like... they are his friends, and you are the one he chose as a girlfriend. He probably wouldn't care if you grew a giant zit, and shaved your head, and lost all your teeth... he likes you for you, not your looks. There is some consolation in that, isn't there?
Love,
Tipsy Gypsy
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Learn to trust him.
He has known these other girls for a while. If he were going to fall for one of them, he would have done so by now.
It is YOU that he finds special now. There is nothing wrong with being just a "regular girl". Accept the fact that to him you are more than that.
Relax and enjoy being the center of someones universe. You are a very lucky girl. :)
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