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He still has his ex's engagement ring.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for one and a half years. He still has his exgirlfriend's engagement ring in his drawer. When I ask him what he is going to do with it he just tells me he don't know. He says, "what should I do with it?" I am sick of looking at it. She has caused so many problems for us. I just want the ring to be gone. He says he doesn't want to just give it away because it cost too much money. At this point I am ready to throw the piece of metal in the dump. What would you suggest to do with it.
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ebay. He needs to get rid of it, it's disrespectful to keep it around.
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He should take the ring to a jeweler. He'll only get back a fraction of what he paid though. If he wasn't so sentimental I would just suggest he hold onto it for the "next time" if you catch my drift. Hopefully his next fiancee has the same size fingers that she did!
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you can always melt it down and recast it into something fabulously wonderful for you =o)
that way, not only do you get the guy, but a kickin' new piece of jewelry too
or just tell him that it makes you uncomfortable to have something of hers in such a personal "you and him" kind of area
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hawk the piece of shit
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i wouldnt worry about it, but if it really does bother you just talk to him causally and be like "you should get a box for it so you can keep it safe" act like your worried about it and you want it to stay safe. or you could sell it back to the store he got it from. hope i helped XoXo
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Have him sell it to a jewler. He could probably get close to the amount of money he paid for it, and it would be out of your life forever. If you feel this strongly about it, you need to take the initiative to talk to him about selling it or pawning it. You could even offer to go sell it yourself, then he would get the point of how strongly you're against it.
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I would definitely sell it! It has no reason to be in your house. That relationship is done. It is holding onto the past and it just creates problems.
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sell it to a jewlry shop or pond shop. so he can get his money bak and be happy and so can you by having it gone :-)!
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No matter what happend in the past you can't erace his feelings for her. Maybe he keeps the ring as a reminder of what was once there. I myself keep lil' keepsakes with me from my past loves wherever I go.. You can either accept that he has some feelings that will never fade, or try and lay down the law for yourself. I personally think you should respect his feelings, or try and talk more about it
-BlackBatman-
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i wouldn`t throw it away.. That probably is alot of money to just toss out like its nothing.. So can he take it back and get the money for it.. Or take it to a pawn shop and get money for it..? thats my suggestions.. ♥ Dez
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The ring really isn't a big deal. It was nice of her to give the ring back to him. You shouldn't be upset at him about it, you should look at it with a more practical angle. He's with you and he loves you. His ex means nothing to him and neither does the ring. What kind of problems can a "piece of metal" really cause? It is just a piece of metal as you said so yourself. Is it okay for it to bother you? Absolutely. It should. But is it okay for it to cause problems? NO! It's not worth it! I don't understand why you haven't talked to him about selling it. There's no reason to keep it around or give it away because it's worth money! What's the difference if it's in his drawer or if he gives it away? He's not getting money for it either way. Point that out and have him bring it to a jeweler and see how much he can get for it. If it still seems like he wants to keep it for some reason DON'T GET MAD. Try to be understanding even if you aren't. Pretend if you must. Be nice about it and things will get done. Tell him that he can take it to a jeweler and see how much money he can get for it, he doesn't have to sell it back right then and there. He can think about it and talk about it with you. Just accept that he still has it and be nice and encouraging about it even if it does bother you. It's okay if it bothers you, it would be pretty weird if it didn't. I hope that you can get him to sell it and good luck! <3
EDIT: One more thing...when you approach him about it apologize for the way you've been acting about it even if you're not particularly sorry. He probably thinks that you're being immature and jealous about it instead of just completely bothered. Basically, apologize for the miscommunications and misunderstandings.
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I wouldn't like having this ring around either. However, I understand why your boyfriend has been at a loss about knowing what to do with it. Since he's asked you what you think he should do with it, take advantage of that and give him a few suggestions and offer to help him with the following options if you're willing:
1) He can get it appraised at several jewelers and see if any one of them would buy it from him. But beware, I tried selling my engagement ring (unique and with several different stones along with the diamonds) after I was divorced and no "new jewelry" jeweler wanted to take it because it was used. This does not mean your boyfriend won't find a jeweler who will take it, but he might want to know that could happen so he shouldn't give up.
2) There are high-end consignment shops that will take very nice jewelry and other high-end things to sell and the seller (your boyfriend) would receive a consignment percentage upon sale of the ring. We have a very unique shop that advertises as a Fine Arts shop and the things in this shop are "previously owned," exquisite and pricey. (Look under Consignment Shops or Art Galleries in the yellow pages. If you can't find what you're looking for, ask around in the galleries for something like this.)
3) He could have the gems removed from the ring and the metal melted down. One or two new pieces of jewelry can then be made from the metal and gems. I don't know if you'd like to have the new piece(s) of jewelry or not, but if you'd consider it, you might not want it as YOUR engagement ring. You may find that you'd love the results and would forget what it was to begin with. Or, you could always view it as a change of life piece of jewelry, imagining that it is a symbol of a relationship melted and destroyed with the idea that a new, better and beautiful foundation is being built for another relationship - yours. I would suggest that if you choose to go this route, that you have a significant part in the design of whatever piece(s) of jewelry that is to come from these pieces. Perhaps you'll want to add some gems of your own choosing. The other thing is that if you don't want anything that has been made from these pieces, your boyfriend might be able to sell the melted metal and the separate gems easier than trying to sell the ring.
4) An ad in the paper might work. Just be careful about the people who call and sound interested. You don't want some kook showing up who has other things in mind when he/she thinks about expensive jewelry being sold, if you know what I mean.
Anyhow, good luck. If you guys work on this together I would think that it would make you feel a lot better. You then would have some control over what happens to this thing that is hanging over your head.
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This has nothing to do with the ring. You're feeling hurt and insecure about the past relationship he had with this girl, and your current relationship with him. Fix those problems and the ring wont matter. Or you can tell him to pawn or sell the ring so you guys have a little extra money. Or you can ask him to marry you(and no, in this day and age it's not wrong for a woman to ask).
Tipsy Gypsy
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Be sympathetic but firm. The ring needs to go for both your sakes.
Next time he asks what he should do, have a plan ready, with phone numbers and addresses for jewelry stores and pawnshops. If suddenly he insists he wants to give it away, have thought of a few people who might appreciate it.
It is understandable your boyfriend is stalling. It must be terribly awkward. If it seems like its embarrassment holding him back, offer to sell the ring yourself, or have a neutral female friend do it for you.
You are just going to have to be a little more proactive.
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Have him get it appraised and sell it to a jeweler, or run an ad in the paper.
It doesn't really sound like he is keeping it for sentimental reasons or anything. But, I agree with you. Who wants that reminder. :)
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