Member Since: December 29, 2005
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hey i am stuck between two guys. not really but i have a boyfriend who i care alot about and he is actually good to me. well my ex who i fell for hard messaged me last night. he said he was sorry for all the things that he said about me and he wants me to choose between him or my boyfriend. see michael the ex we went out for a while and we even got to the point where we wanted to have a baby. and i stopped taking my birth control for him and i bent over backwards for him. and now i dont know what to do. i thought i put him in the past but i didnt all these feelings came back. but now i dont want to have to choose but imy heart is so confused. i care alot for my boyfriend now. i think about what we have and how good he is to me and how much he cares for me and then i look at michael and think god i could have a family with him but too young. and i loved him and he loves me. i done everything for him. i am so confused. please help me and if anybody has a smartass comment about it then dont write me. i want someone to help me not tell me i am dumb
Well g2g love ~me~ (link)
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I think you should be honest with your boyfriend and yourself. Allowing your Ex to touch you in an intimate manner already illustrates how you feel about your current boyfriend. You would not want his Ex to be touching him. That is a hint as to what direction you may be leaning toward. I am assuming that you have not told your current boyfriend about what has transpired. In the end you are actually going to have to stand up and make a choice. Playing both sides of the fence is deceitful, and will eventually hurt the relationship. Make a decision a stand by it.
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this guy that I like wants me to hang out with him and a couple of guy friends. he told me to bring along some of my friends but the thing is i dont really have any and i dont knwo what to do its embarressing. (link)
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The truth works in this situation. If you like this guy you don't want to start off a relationship telling lies. If he doesn't want to hang out with you because you don't have friends was he really worth your time? That is a question you have to answer yourself.
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I was seeing this guy named Austin. I was and still am absolutely crazy about him. Well the problem is that I've been a cutter for about a year or two now. Well my cousin Jeremy stayed over for the holidays and I cut once when he was around me. He called Austin and said I cut because he wasn't able to call me. So he broke up with me because he didn't want to get in a deep relationship and have me kill myself or something. Would that be considered true love or true hate? He also hasn't called me in about two days now, but maybe it's because the holidays. PLEASE HELP! I'M IN DESPERATE NEED OF ADVICE! (link)
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I think you may need to consider getting professional help. As far as Austin is concerned it may be better that you left him alone. For some reason or another he is not able to handle the fact that you cut yourself. It does not make him a bad person or a good person it's just how he is. In the grand scheme of things you are more important then he is. If cutting yourself has begun to interfere with everyday life, it needs to be addressed. Do you think it is possible to begin dealing with another human being and their issues before you resolve your own? That is a question you have to answer yourself?
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I'm a stay-at-home mom who likes to go to the park with my daughter and baby. I met a man last year who is a great-grandfather who takes his two great-granddaughters to the park every day (well almost). I thought he was really nice and friendly and my daughter likes playing with the girls. I've known him since last year, and we always make pleasant conversation and he offers my daughter and I treats. There is nothing going on between us, I am married and he is just a casual friend. The other day he snapped at me for no reason and I still can't figure it out. What's worse, he did it right in front of one of the kids. My daughter was talking to her friend about another friend from school who called her a "cry-baby" because my daughter said she was going to tell on her about something. I said " Why would she call you that? That means you cry a lot." Sam, (my friend) said "No it doesn't, it means you tattle on people." I said "I never heard it used that way." Anyways, this is a silly conversation, right? He suddenly got really angry and said "I've been around a lot longer than you and have heard what kids say in the schoolyard. You talk a lot, but you don't know shit!" Now, was that necessary, just because we had a difference of opinion about something stupid? I looked at him, totally shocked, and said. "I never said I knew everything." He said "You think you do." I just looked at him again, like I couldn't believe his attitude, and I said "This is a silly thing to get so uptight about." I don't know if he heard me. He just got up and started to play with the kids. He wouldn't talk to me after that, and I didn't talk to him. I know I should've said. "We are both adults. There is no reason for you to be so rude. We both have a right to our opinions, and this is a trivial thing. You are setting a bad example in front of the kids." I know I should've said something like this, but I was so shocked, I couldn't think of anything. I think that maybe he was mad at me about something else, and was just using this stupid disagreement as an excuse to vent. Or just having a bad day. What do you think? I don't want tension between us because my daughter and the girls are really good friends. Any advice? (link)
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For one reason or another this man seems to be very short tempered. I don't think it is necessary for you to be his friend just because you want the children to be friends. If your well being was not in any personal danger then you should just ignore the situation and play it by ear. I would be concerned about a man who curses you out right in front of your kid. Especially when he is a stranger. As an adult it is your responsibility to make sure that your children are in a safe nurturing positive environment. Is this the type of person you want your children to be around? That is a question you have to answer yourself.
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ok i asked this question earlier but i didnt see it posted. anyway i am a 25 year old married woman, i have 2 georgeous children. my problem is when i am at work i have access to a computer and for the last 6 months i have been talking to a really great guy. sometimes he calls me also, we talk about everything and he makes me feel really good. i feel like if i wouldnt of gotten married he is the man i would want to be with. to make things more complicated, i am falling in love with him. we have never meet, i want to but he knows i am married and only wants to be a friend, i did to at first, but my feelings are changing. i dont want to destroy my family life ever, but i know it is also not fair to my husband, me sitting there thinking about what if im supposed to be with this other guy. what should i do, follow my heart or do what society and everyone else would say is right.please help (link)
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It might be helpful to talk to your husband the way you do with your internet friend. Marriage is a constant work in progress. By giving up on a perfectly healthy marriage to pursue an relationship with a man you have not even met yet is not fair to your husband, children, or yourself. Focus less attention on your internet friend and try to figure out a way to channel that energy back into your marriage. While this new person seems to be all these things, you only know what he tells you. In the grand scheme of things you know nothing about him at all. Is it worth getting rid of a good man in the hopes of finding another good man? That is a question you must answer yourself.
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I've been trying to figure this out since I've been with my boyfriend for the past 2 months. It's a new relationship but we feel like we've known each other all our lives. He is the greatest guy I've ever met - handsome, funny, smart, sweet, loving, sexy, treats me like queen. But the thing, before we got together, I NEVER would have thought I was his type. I'm a regular girl, take care of myself, care about people, not a hot babe or anything but I'm alright. So anyhow, I feel insecure to be with him because with how hot and great he is, he's bound to find a hot and great girl. Therefore, I find myself very very skeptical about this relationship lasting. I've talked to him and believe me, he reassures me like crazy that he wants to be with me and feels like he can love me forever. He really does have a good head on his shoulders. But what does add to it, is that he has a lot of female friends as well - all are just long time friends, but these girls are great as well, and I feel like he's bound to fall for one of them soon. It's so frustrating to be with such a great guy and not feel like you're the centre of his world (even when he treats you like it). What can I do? (link)
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When a person brings unwarranted negative energy into a relationship it eventually corrupts the relationship. You are with him for a reason. Enjoy the way he makes you feel and how he treats you. Understand that you are worth it. You deserve to have a partner who cares for you as does anybody else. Be thankful that you found someone that embodies all these things that you want. He likes you for a whole bunch of reasons because if he didn't then he would not be with you. Hold on to him and cherish him.
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i don't know what to expect from this but here goes.
everytime i really start liking a woman i always end up being "like a brother", this last time seemed to have taken the life out of me to the point where i start feeling resentfull towards woman and sociaty in general.
I really want a girlfriend, and always try to be just myself, but nobody seems interested, EVER. i've never had a girlfriend, i really can't believe that i'm such a big loser.
I really don't know what to do anymore :( (link)
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There is nothing wrong with being yourself and there is nothing wrong with establishing meaningful relationships with the opposite sex. Friendships may be more valuable then boyfriend girlfriend relationships. Since your character has produced a number of female friends, they would be the best ones to give you advice on things you can work on. On another note if you don't want to be "like a brother" state your feelings and your intentions with other person very early on so all parties are clear on the nature of the relationship. Men who often find themselves in the "Friend Zone" usually take a highly passive approach to dating women. While you are waiting to be noticed there are a slew of people who just take a chance.
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My husbands’ best friend, Bill, dated this girl for 4 months or so and then she started acting weird. My husband and Bill were also very good friends with Josh, the three of them were always going out together, etc. The three of them were each others best friends. Anyway, this girl, Ashlee, was pretty nice, but one day Josh came up to Bill and said that - Ashlee has been cheating on you with me. I love her and we have been together for a month now. After this there was a fight, and now no one is friends with Josh or Ashlee. Bill was very hurt, he couldn't believe that his best friend could have done something like this, couldn't believe he was stabbed in the back by two people he trusted. I don’t know what to do or say if I see those two, and I know I will see them no doubt. How should I act towards them, next time I see them? What could we talk about to keep the waters calm, or should we talk at all? (link)
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First you have to decide whether you are still willing to be Josh's friend. In saying this you may also have to realize that you may lose another friend in the process. People's egos have been hurt and this is a very tricky situation. Upon coming to this conclusion you will realize that all you can do is be a good friend. It is not your fault that these happened. You should not beat yourself about what happened. If the frienship is rock solid there may be a possibility of salvaging some part of it. At the very least people can be cordial to one another. In all honesty adults don't have to be friends with everybody. That train of thought goes out the window in kindergarten. It is not your job to make everybody friends either. It is just a fact of life.
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First of all, please don't give me the evils or alcohol or drugs or any crap like that, I'm of legal age where I live.
Secondly, about a month ago, I got drunk. This was the first time I got actually drunk with a hangover and all. I used to drink before that and ocassionally got tipsy but this time I let all self control go and downed a two six of Smirnoff with my friend. I threw up and was sick all of the next day.
About a week later, I took a sip of Vodka again and promptly threw up. Now, everytime I thing about drinking Vodka, I feel like I know I'm going to be ill.
New Years is coming up and I bought a lot of alcohol and now I'm afraid I won't be able to drink it. Can any one find a remedy for this? The thought of not being able to drink is thoroughly depressing. (link)
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I read something about this before. It deals with taste aversion. Basically this is a theory based on one time learning. When animals in the wild eat another animal of a certain color and get really sick they won't eat that animal every again. What you may have to do is try drinking a beverage that is a bit less alcoholic. Something that actually tastes good as a opposed to something that will get you drunk. Drink it in moderation and don't get wasted. It is probably a good thing that you can't drink to that point to begin with. But that is my advice to you. Have a Happy New Year and drink responsibly.
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