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hey
ok so you answered to of my questions and both your answers were REALLY good and i posted another question but you didnt answer it and i really want 2 no what you would say so heres the question
i have known my this girl ashley since like 1st grade we were like best friends up until the summer going into eigth grade we had so much fun together we never stopped laughing and with my other friends we grew apart but nothing wood ruin are friendship or atleast thats what i thought during the summer going into 8th grade we had a HUGE fight like it was crazy but the weird thing is i dont remember what its about or who started it but it was big so big that its almost then end of 8th grade and even when i walk by her in the hall there is anger in are eyes we havent even talked since the fight and were going to high school next year and i really wanna just be friends again but i dont no what to do i refuse to talk 2 her because then it would be to acword so i need to no what to to 2 be friends with her again other then some cheesey answer like talk it out should i even try to be her friend anymore i dont no please help!!!
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Hi there. I actually thought I had answered your question but I guess I didn't!! If it helps, I did mean to!
I actually went through a similar situation you know. I was in year 8 and my best friend and I had a HUGE fight and didn't make up until year 10. Never did remember exactly what it was about but we were poisonous to each other while we were fighting!
Fights like this between friends are really just a part of growing up. I know that's a cliche but it's true because as we get older, we change in every possible way and sometimes the people we become don't match the people our friends become. You'll notice that for a few years, there will be a lot of fights like these.
It's really up to you when this happens to decide whether the friendship is worth salvaging, or if it is best to leave it and move on to friendships with other people.
You say you want to just be friends with her again but there's only one way this is going to happen and that is if you sit down and talk it through. I KNOW you don't want to hear it but you've tried leaving her be and that's not helped so there's really nothing else to try and if you are going to High School next year, I'm sure you will want to know you have her by your side. High School is intimidating enough without worrying about the presence of your ex best friend.
Even if you don't want to do it, if you want to be friends again, I'm afraid talking to her is really the only thing you can do and it might be that you can work it all through, bury the hatchett, so to speak and carry on as you were before. However, please be warned that a lot of time has passed since this fight and if she still bears a grudge, she might be harder to talk to and the conversation could be ugly at first so go with your wits about you and your temper calmly prepared.
If worst comes to worst, moving to a new school gives you endless opportunity to make new friends, so try not to worry too much about what is going on now. You will always treasure the friendship you had, even if you can't get it back and there's no reason you can't learn from it and share it again with someone new in the future.
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