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r we still friends
me and my best friend have been bestfriends for a couple years now but sometimes i feel like were growing apart and next year im goin 2 high school but my high schoold wierd its b-r bridgewater-raynham 2 high schools combined and sometimes i think maybe i should just get a new best friend but idk we used 2 have fun a couple years ago wat should i do!!!!
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I really hate to say this, because it sounds so unfair...but this is something that happens to most people when they move up to a different school.
Basically, when you are young, you have loads in common with a particular person and get on well and they become your best friend. You can be inseparable for years but then it comes to moving school. Suddenly, a whole new world of possibility opens up, with new activities, new people and most importantly, you start to get older. This means that you change. You're no longer that person you were when you were best friends with this girl and I expect the situation is the same for her. It isn't necessarily that you don't have anything in common and it isn't necessarily that you think there's anything wrong with each other. It's, put mildly as possible, simply that you have outgrown each other. One might mature faster than the other and they start to feel the odd niggle of resentment because the other person can be immature. Then you make new friends, you fit in with the person you are growing into and suddenly, the other gets left behind.
The point is, you can't base a present-day friendship on the friendship you once had because you have both changed too much and this is okay. Some day, you might find you can be good friends again. In the meantime, make the most of the friendships you now have and always remember to treasure the friendship you once had because those happy memories will be with you forever.
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Show them what a good friend you are..
The best way to be a great friend is to be loyal and fun and always there for a friend. There is nothing worse than being a fairweather friend, who is there while the going is good but then disappears when things go wrong. Share your life with your friends - share everything you love and hate, your views and opinions, and always try to remain positive. All of these are such attractive qualities that they will make you a truly great friend.
People change. Some people stay friends their whole lives, some just don't.
Maybe you should try and make new friends.
The key thing that you should consider is joining groups or social clubs that have the same interests as you. It is much, much easier to make conversation and small talk to those with whom you have a known common base of interest than total strangers. Other good ways to meet people are to take up a sport, or if you play one already, to join a club around the sport. That way the emphasis is more about the sport and less about the small talk, which will then come naturally as a by-product of the game.
Just talk to your friend and tell him/her how you feel. Invite them over to your house to try and bring them back into your life. Do things you use to do together. Be more social and open with each other!
Good luck
♥ Evy
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It's normal for best friends to start growing apart. Usually you start growing apart because people begin to change. They figure out what kind of person they want to be and what type of people they want to hang out with.
I wouldn't suggest ending the friendship completly just because you are both growing apart anyway. But, I definetly think you should continue to make new friends so that you can have more best friends that are more like you. I don't doubt that you and this friend you have were close and had a lot in common at one time. But things are tending to change and you have to find new friends to keep going with life and coping with old friendships that aren't going so well anymore.
-TheTeenGirl
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My friend "Julie" and I used to be so close. Well, after the fourth year of our "bestfriendship" we grew apart. Getting older makes people grow apart. It's a way of life. But luckily, after I stopped spending all my time with her I got to meet a lot more people! But we are still good friends.
What I say is just go with the flow.
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