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mom and dad
okay so my parents are in a fight. okay so first off, my mom doesnt want my dad talking to this girl on the phone and since the phone bill doesnt come in the mail becacuse my dad changed it to online bill, my mom told me to log on to my dads username and check up on the numbers he has been calling (iknow the password) and my mom finds the number of that girl that she doesnt want my dad to talk to . my dad isnt cheating on my mom, its just that my mom doesnt wnt him to talk to her. okay so now my mom is mad at my dad and shes been telling how my dad talks to another girl on the phone to my uncles and aunts. and i feel really bad for my dad because i feel like i kinda betrayed him.. like i know its wrong for him to do that but still and now my parents dont even sleep in the same room, my dad sleeps in the basement and my mom sleeps in their room. how can i make them talk again and forget about it? and also how can i make my dad stop calling that girl? oh yah this has been happengin since like last year and thats when my mom told him to stop talking to her but he didnt listen
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I am SO sorry that your parents are having problems and I'm even more sorry that your Mum has put you in this position.
Put as gently as possible, I know that you want them to work things out and I know that you want to help but the fact is they need to work these things out for themselves because they are clearly having some big issues here.
I know you say that your Dad isn't cheating on your Mum but, again put as nicely as possible, why else would he be calling this other girl and why would your Mum be so upset about it? Surely if it was just a harmless friendship, there wouldn't be all this fuss about it?
You need to stay out of this as much as possible but there are a couple of things you need to do first. You need to speak to your Mum and say that it was wrong for her to make you check your Dad's information for her because it's their problem not yours and she shouldn't be getting you involved. Then tell her you want nothing more to do with the situation because they need to work it out. Without your help.
I would also recommend you speak to your Dad because if he really has cheated on your Mum, although he is completely in the wrong for doing it, he's going to be going through a lot right now. He's probably feeling guilty and selfish and more importantly, alone. If you think you can do this, tell him that whatever they are fighting about, you will always love him because he is your Dad. Leave it at that.
After this point, it is really down to them. They need to talk things out so maybe you and/or any siblings you have could arrange to sleep over at a relatives house and leave them some time to work through their problems without worrying about anything else.
Please, please try not to get too upset about this because it isn't your fault, there's nothing you could have done to prevent all of this from happening and there is nothing you can do to fix it because it is down to them. Stay strong. Everything will work out, one way or another.
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To be honest hunny, you can't make your parents not fight anymore. It's up to them to work out their differences, & if they don't want to, then it's their personal business, & I'm sure it would just make their problems even worse, to know that you're depressed about them fighting.
I know it's very hard to see your parents fighting. I haven't experienced it with mine, but I know a lot of people who have. I asked my friend about what caused her parents to get a divorce, and she told me. She said, first they started fighting really bad, where it came to the point where they couldn't control it anymore. Second, they didn't sleep in the same bed anymore and they didn't wanna have anything to do with eachother anymore. Lastly, they got a divorce. Number one and two seem a lot like your parents. Am I right?
So, from based on what you said, your parents are probably getting divored, or thinking about it. Of course, there's a chance they could work out their problems, but I'm sorry to say that you cannot make them love eachother again. There's nothing you can do to make them not fight. You're just going to have to go along with the flow. I know the pain will hurt, but you'll have to somehow deal with it.
I'm sure you were probably looking for some reasons on how to prevent your parents from seperating, but I researched several divorce websites, and they all stated that there is nothing that can be done. Just keep in mind that everything happens for a reason, so maybe your parents weren't the "perfect couple" & maybe somewhere out there, there is better people for your parents.
If you're really hurt about this, just talk about it to a friend or guidance counselor, (whatever suits you best) & they will help you cope with what you're going through. If you have a friend whose already gone through what you're going through now, it would be best to talk to them because they are experienced.
Best of luck, & remember, if you need any more questions to be answered, don't hesitate to ask. :)
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I'm really sorry that your parents can't seem to work things out, but none of this has anything to do with you. It's not your fault that this is all happening and that your dad got caught talking to this woman again.
The reality is that your parent's fights are not yours and this is something that they have to work through. There is nothing that you can say or do that will make your parents get along again. I know that you are very concerned for what's going on between them, but you've got to stop snooping around in their lives. If your parents ever try to make you login to their E-mail account or anything that has to do with their problems, then you just need to say, "Mom/dad, I really don't feel comfortable with seeing what's going on between you and mom/dad because I'm worried" or something along those lines.
That may even work right now if you were to talk to your mom about how worried you are about what's going on right now. Try talking to one of them about your concern.
You can't make your dad stop talking to this woman and that's the unfortunate truth. Again, this is your parent's problem to deal with, not you.
-TheTeenGirl
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This probably isn't what you want to hear, but your parents issues are not yours. You do not have the means nor the life experience to counsel them back into being happy with each other again. You're just going to have to stay out if it, because you really don't have as much control as you think. Getting into the middle of it and siding with one parent sure as heck won't help. Just leave this to them.
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