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I have only had 2 guys finger me before, but when both of them have done it, it didn't feel good at all. It actually hurt. I have fingered myself before and had an orgasm. I talk to my friends about being fingered and they all say they have orgasms from it. So is there something wrong with me? Please tell me what you think. thanks <3
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ok. are you 100% you liked the guys. that has alot to do with it. maybe they didn`t know what they were doing. when you find the right guy, you`ll kno. cause you will have orgasms. best of luckk =]
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Well the first time you get fingered, it does hurt. It isn't supposed to feel good until you adapt to it. Everyone is different and just because your friends get orgasms doesn't mean that you will. Come on, seriously a lot of girls have trouble reaching an orgasm and it's typical. So yeah, you are normal and you don't need to worry about it. Think of it this way: it's like having sex the first time, it will hurt but gradually it gets better and feels good. So just give it time but maybe consider the fact that you just might not get enjoyment out of it. Some girls don't and again it's no big deal. People get pleasured in different ways; it all varies.
-Shannon
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No it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. The thing is, if you have done it to yourself, you have taken the time to work out what feels good to you, whereas the guys that do it (who are probably somewhere between 14 and 18) will quite possibly be diving in without a clue!
Don't feel embarrassed about giving them some gentle guidance. It's your body and you should feel comfortable with whatever they do to you. You also need to remember that men have rougher hands, which won't help.
If it really is quite rough, you could consider investing in some lubricant but try giving them some help. They're probably quite nervous, which is bound to make it more difficult.
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I don't know how old you are, i'm guessing kinda mid-teens in which case, yeah boys pretty much suck at this due to lack of practise! If you can do it by yourself you're absolutely fine and it's these boys who (bless em) need to work on their technique- and you who needs to point them gently in the right direction! Not talking soul-crushing "*sigh* you're doing it WRONG" just let him know when he's got it right and kinda...physically help him a bit lol.
Alternatively you could just stick to self-service for a few years until other girls have trained them up a bit for you :) x
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no! they obviously can't do it as well. maybe they got nervous. rremeber, since they can't finger themselves, they dont REAALly kow how to do it
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No, if there's something wrong with anyone it's the two boys that fingered you - their technique. They're probably using two many fingers or not hitting the right spots or being too rough. They don't know if they're doing it right or not unless you tell them, so let them know gently if it doesn't feel good or if it does and guide their hands to the places that feel good, they'll probably find it a turn on.
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