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I have a friend named Tara. Shes in 12th grade, graduating this year, and going to college for Theater.. I've been quite worried about her lately, because i know that she cant have her whole life rely on Theater. She wasted her past 6 years working to be an actress. And shes not all that bad, but someone from a small town and such like ours, prolly wont get very far. I've tryed talking to her about other options. I dont want her whole life to be thrown out the window because of some, un-realistic dream.. Do you think that I should try harder to convince her that theres more to life than thearter.. and thats just there as something to do on the side? Or should I let her make her own mistakes? (link)
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I think she is probably old enough to realise how risky it is.
She will still have to take the basic education classes to graduate so she will do okay.
It sounds like she is very determined to do theater. If it doesn't work out she can probably do something in a related field.
Be supportive and let her do what she wants. That's what makes life great! :)
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okk me and my friend use to be so close and were un till this one night and i was at her house with a couple of friends and she was doing disgusting things to me an d my firends im so confused because i was her friend still intill people found out that she did nasty things to me and my friend well i stopped and then ppl started being meean to her and calling her a lesbian and stuff because she is and all this stuff so i stoped being her firend and then everyone started being her firend a gain and so i did and then we had to go to this cheerleading dinner and she was there with my friends and everyone and i had to go the bathroom and the doors didnt have locks but they stood close when you closed them unless you knicked them oped but like whos gonna do that
well she followed me to the bathroom and opeded the door on me and was like being all gay and i was like get out now and she wouldnt so my mom came in and saw her and started yelling at her and screamming because no mom wants that to happen to there daughter and my mom found out about the things she did to us that night so my mom didnt want me hanging out with her again and then now everyone hates her and there all calling her a lesbian and stuff should i be her friend or should i stick up for her or should i just leave it as iis
hellp please i rate people (link)
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I think I'd stay away from her.
Nobody, regardless of weather they are bi, lesbian or straight, should be putting the moves on another person against their will.
It just isn't right. The girl sounds like a pervert. I would stay away from her. If she isn't a pervert she is looking for attention in the wrong kind of way.
She brings on peoples reactions to her all by herself. You don't need to stick up for her or feel sorry for her. She has done this before and knew what she was doing. She probably needs some help from a doctor.
Just leave it alone, unless you want to press charges against her, which you probably could do. :)
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I am overweight (13 yrs old, 5ft 4in, and 140 lbs) so I use a bathroom scale to check my weight 2 times a day, in the morning and in the evening. Why is my weight different at those 2 times of the day? How do I know which one is telling the truth? Are any of the scales telling the truth? Because one time I went to the doctor and I weighed more on that scale than on the one I own at home. Why are these weights all different? How much do I really weigh? Help me please! What should I do? (link)
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You are going to drive yourself nuts weighing twice a day! Stop that :)
Actually, your body retains water and that will make you weigh more one time and less the next.
You need to pick one morning a week. Weight yourself one that day, once a week, same time of day if possible. Always weigh yourself the same way...as in with or without clothes on, shoe on or off etc.
The bathroom is the worse place to keep your scales (I know everyone does it there) because they absorb moisture. That is what I was told anyway.
Dr office scales are usually pretty accurate. They get you down to the last ounce!
If you weight just once a week, you will get a more accurate idea of how much you lose or gain.
Good luck. :)
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We got rabbits a few months ago, when they were babies. I was told that all three were males. However, one just had babies. The other two rabbits were being mean to the babies and the mother - they were biting and stomping on the babies. My dad said to put the babies and their mother in a cat carrier with some hay. She had six babies, but two were dead when I found them. The babies are opening and closing their mouths, like they're hungry. I don't think the mother has nursed them yet. What can I do to help her, and her babies? Anything is appreciated - personal experience, as well as websites.
Thank you.
-FunnyCide (link)
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FunnyCide...I found a couple of sites. Hope there is something you can use.
http://www.mybunny.org/info/newborn.htm
http://www.rabbit.org/care/babies.html
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Hi younggrandma. I hope you don't mind the private question, but I wanted a response from a married adult. I've always been impressed with the wisdom and sensitivity you've shown in answers to others' questions. I'm hoping that you might be able to offer some advice on an situation I'm dealing with right now.
My husband and I have been married for almost a year. Other than a few little bumps while we were getting used to the marriage and living together, we get along great. My in-laws originally had reservations about us getting married because I'm 23 and my husband is 42. It seemed like they had got past the age difference by the time we had the wedding. Like a lot of married people, I have a somewhat love-hate relationship with my in-laws. However, over the past few months, I've begun to believe that they truly do not like me and might be trying to break up our marriage.
On several occasions, they have told my husband I was not a good wife (in front of me and a couple times when he wasn't aware I could hear it). When I mentioned that we were wanting to start a family, my father-in-law told me I had no business having a child. When I became pregnant, the insinuation was made that the child was not my husband's. On one occasion when I went to visit my family without him because he had to work, his parents insinuated that I was using that as an excuse to see someone else. They also constantly mention my husband's ex-girlfriend (who they like) and what's going on with her whenever they speak to my husband.
My husband has chronic pancreatitis which the doctors say appears to have no cause. My husband isn't responding to the normal treatments. He's been hospitalized four times since we've been married. My mother-in-law recently made the comment to me that I was the cause of him being sick. Her reasoning was that I am causing him stress because (in her opinion) I'm a lousy wife. She said that by me not working and not taking care of him (as she sees it), I am making him sick. Let me say at this point that I am nearly 5 months pregnant and my doctor has recommended (due to complications and a previous miscarriage) I do not work, that I stay off my feet, and that I rest as much as possible. There has even been discussion of putting me on complete bed rest or in the hospital for the remainder of the pregnancy.
I'm hurt and a little angry over these remarks. I spoke to my husband about it, but I guess he doesn't see the situation like I do. He keeps insisting that his family loves me and they're just wanting to help. Personally, my first inclination is to cut off contact with them. However, my husband is very close to his family and I know it would hurt him to do so. How can I deal with this without causing a family feud and possibly problems in my marriage?
Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer. (link)
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Wow! You don't need the stress of all this yourself right now either.
This is a problem that is really going to have to be dealt with by your husband. I know he will be reluctant, because he has probably put up with their interference all his life.
You need to try and get him to understand. He has a new family now. You and your child need to be his number one priority in all things.
He needs to very lovingly tell his parents that you are his wife. They don't have to be overjoyed about it if they don't want to be, but they need to deal with it.
He will not listen to any more negative remarks about you. They will treat you with respect when they are in your home. If they don't want to treat you with respect in their home...that's up to them but he, you and the baby, when it arrives, will not visit them there.
He needs to tell them he doesn't care what his ex is doing. That you and he will make all decisions in regards to how many children you have, what to name them, and how they are raised.
Believe me, if he doesn't put a stop to it now they will be worse yet when the baby arrives.
Basically, he needs to put them in their place. He is a grown up now with a family of his own. He may have let them control things before you came along but it has to stop now.
You have every right to be upset by their treatment of you. He should be too. If he thinks he will have trouble with a face to face discussion, have him write it out and give it to them. It can be done in a firm, I mean business way and still be done in a nice way.
I know he is going to be reluctant to do and say anything. They may very well be upset at first. They will also get over it.
I'm sure their treatment of you is a big cause of stress. Their blaming you is ridiculous. He needs to step up and do something for the sake of the health of you both.
Unfortunately, it would do absolutely no good for you to do this. It would just give them more ammo to use against you. He does it, they get mad for a while and get over it. You do it and they have something to cry to all their friends and relatives about. You are the bad guy.
I hope this doesn't come off sounding like I am picking on your hubby. That is not my intent. He probably saw no harm in their interference before you came along. He may have even welcomed their input. I am sure he is nice to a fault at times! I sure hope you can get him to see they need to stop. I hope he will do this for you and your little one.
I hope it all works out for your family.
Take care of yourself and that baby. :)
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my mum doesnt want me to go out with this guy who is 18 years old i am 14 years old and we really do love each other he is a good guy and all but my parents are really stricked they wont even give him a chance they found out kind of but i said no and they said if you ever do you will be grounded forever i dont know what to do i love him so much can you please i need advise??? (link)
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I'm afraid for now you will have to do as your parents say.
Unless you are at least 16 he could get in real trouble for dating you, should your parents decide to push the issue.
As far as the law goes, he is considered an adult. You are considered a minor. Your parents could easily have him arrested.
I know you feel bad. But if you go against their wishes your guy could end up being thrown in jail. I don't think you would want that.
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During the zoot suit riot, what was Sleepy Lagoon? I mean, I know that a dead Chicano boy was found there, but what was it, anyway? "Sleepy Lagoon" is just a nickname. (link)
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Hey I found a site on it. Very interesting. :)
http://www.sleepylagoon.com/H/sltrial.htm
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I like 80's music; but I don't know the names of many of them. So far I've downloaded "In the air tonight" by Phil Collins. "Tainted Love", andTheres another song called "What is love?".. I Think. It goes "What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more".
Anybody want to give me some more 80's music?!!
Or hits of the 80's?
I love 80's music! !
THanks!! (link)
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Bruce Springsteen - Dancing In The Dark
Fine Young Cannibals - She Drives Me Crazy
Foreigner - I Want To Know What Love Is
Lionel Richie - Hello
Men At Work - Who Can It Be Now
Cutting Crew - I Just Died In Your Arms Tonight
Pat Benatar - Love Is A Battlefield
Pat Benatar - Promises In The Dark
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What can you do when you have a boss that gives everyone else fun and simple tasks, but gives you the dirty work that no one else wants, PLUS doesnt appreciate your hard work?
I work in retail at a superstore in the clothing department. Because it's january, all of our hours have been cut, Well anyways my boss told me today that she wanted me take down everything from the shelves and windex the shelves, plus our display tables. I had to take off all the nicely folded clothing and then spray our tables, wipe them, then put all the clothes back on. I worked my ass off, and all the other girls working got to do fun jobs, like setting up displays and customer service. After my shift was over (and covered in dirt) I said goodbye to my boss and another girl. The other girl said bye, but my boss never said anything or even acknowledged all my hard work.
Should I be upset? Because I almost felt like quitting after today. (link)
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You pretty much have to do what the boss assigns you.
There isn't much you can do to make her like you. unfortunately not everyone is friendly.
Have you considered transferring to another department in the store? That is an option if something is open. If not, then keep your eyes open for something to become available.
In the mean time, just hang in there and do the best you can do. :)
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My friend likes someone and I know who it is. I want to tell other people, but I'm afraid to tell other people who they like because they might get mad at me and we might not be friends anymore. So should I tell other people or should I keep it to myself? (link)
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The best thing is to keep it to yourself.
You want your friends to be able to trust you. If you tell, then you will lose their trust.
They won't tell you secrets anymore, and you're right, they will probably be mad and embarrassed and won't want to be friends. :)
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Me and Charliie ( shes a girl too ) were best friends in 6th grade. Charliie changed in 7th grade and became loud and obnoxious. She liked to get into trouble, she started cussing alot, painting her nails black, and wearing all dark clothing. She said it was the "real her" Me and her got into alot of fights about her being fake *cause she sucks up to the populars and is totally diff. online then she is in person* We no longer talked to each other at school and I got a new best friend. Me and Charliie started become friends again but there was always this feeling of lies in the air because we never truly worked out our past fights and I knew we'd never have the same friendship we once had. Charliies bad habits got on my nerves again and I had to tell someone. So I decided to tell my best friends. I was talking crap about Charliie to my new best friend ( we were talking about some of the stuff Charliie had lied to us about, some bad stuff she had said to make me and my new bff get mad at each other etc.) and this girl overheard us and told Charliie. Now Charliie is really pissed at me and my new bff. I don't want her to be mad at me, * i know what I did was wrong* and I don't know how to make it up to her. Like I don't nesisarlly want to be her best friend again, but I just don't want us to be fighting cause we just got more classes with eachother and when we fight she lies to turn people against me. How to I show her I'm truly sorry without sounding like I'm desperate for her back. How to I get our past cleared up and have me and her friends again? I will rate 5 for everything. thanks guys. (link)
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Apologise for talking behind her back. That's about all you can do about that. Tell her about your frustrations with her changes.
Everyone goes through changes when they are teens. It is part of growing up. Some people get a little extreme. That's probably what happened to her. Maybe she finally saw how she was acting before and didn't like it. She is probably just as frustrated that you are no longer friends as you are.
I think you need to have a long talk. Maybe write it all out like a letter if that makes it easier. Your friendship may never be what it once was, but you never know, with a little talking it could be even better. :)
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my husband takes seroqueal at night to help sleep & 4 bipolar. he used to want sex alot but for last 1 1/2 yrs. only 1 or 2x a mo. i never used to want it but now i always want it. i need to know what i can take that will reduce my sex drive? we are both 38 yrs. i don't know if theres something otc i can take or if i need to ask the dr. 4 somethin spasific or even if there's a food that i can use. please help me. i don't know what else to do. it's definately not a lack of luv on his part he blames the meds. and all other aspects r fine thanx... (link)
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As far as I know there isn't anything you can take to lower your sex drive. I don't think it is a common complaint.
You can ask your doctor if he knows of something. But, I think the better option would be for your husband to ask his doctor if something can be done to decrease the side effects of his med. I'm sure that would make you both much happier. :)
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i went to a tanning bed..the second i got off my skin was red. so i figure "well im just hot" nope..this is a BAD burn. what do i do? its going to hurt so bad and have that deep itch. i want to cry! (link)
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Treat it as you would any bad sunburn. Lots of lotion. Keep it as moisturized as you can. :)
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Hi guys,
The reason that I named the subject "my guy =(" is because the name of the man whom I love is Guy. I went out with him shortly before Christmas break and broke up with him the same day because my friends told me repeatedly that he was gay. He is now going out with a girl named Angela, and I'm realizing that everything my friends said was untrue, and that I made a huge mistake. I am mourning my loss right now, and he really loved me, and I don't know if I'm ever going to get him back. Could someone please help me?
-just call me BLUE (link)
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I don't think it would be a bad thing for you to let him know why you broke up with him.
This is assuming you didn't tell him at the time.
Weather you do it now or wait until he no longer has a girlfriend is up to you.
If he really had feelings for you it may make a difference down the road. Not to mention that he really deserves an honest explanation about why you broke up with him. :)
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over a period of time about 6 months i have become infatuatated with my colleugues wife. whenever i go to her house to see my collegue i keep staring at her. some times i feel she is also doing the same some times.i have definiteky seen her doing the same. I am 45yrs old happily married.she is about 40.I have a hunch that she wants me to make a move but i am not sure.i want to to take minimum of risk as the consequences are too much to bear.on other hand i feel a fling for a short time is not bad as we only live once.please help me (link)
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I think if you weight it out, you will find it not to be worth it. I would hope.
However at 45 you are capable of deciding for yourself. But, here is my two cents worth for you to think about first.
Think of it like this. Is one moment of gratification and excitement worth the risk of losing your marriage, your friendship, and the feelings of guilt that will follow? :)
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Do you ever read a question, roll your eyes and think, "Yeah right, somebody so just made that up"?
If so, what do you do about it? Just not answer or answer it seriously anyways just 'cause it might be real? (link)
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Yes I do.
But, a lot of people in my experience are really that dumb.
So, unless it is totally something unanswerable I treat it as I would any other question and try to answer it seriously. :)
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I have this Friend and she told me this secret about her haveing sex, and well being the good friend that I am I didnt tell any one, but the other person she told told the whole school and now the whole school thinks that its me and now they all like hate me. I dont know what to do she keeps blameing it on me and it wasnt me. What should I do tell the other person to confess, let it be, or talk the friend about it. I am so confused please help me.
sincerelly,
LostAtThought77 (link)
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Is she mad at the other person as well?
Doesn't seem very fair for you to take the blame when she told someone else too.
I think you need to talk to her and tell her that. You might also tell her that a sure fire way not to have people discuss your sex life is not to talk about it in the first place.
Maybe you could get someone who was told by this other person to let your friend know who did the telling.
Good luck. :)
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aah! so here is the deal!! i once read in a magazine about a girl who got sexually harassed by her teacher. and im like oh i feel so bad for that girl, but i never thought about it happening to me. well i hate to admit it.. but it did. this is what happened: i needed extra help in math so i told my teacher about it (lets call him mr. a) and hes like oh why dont you stay after class today i have no meetings and i was king of hesistating cause thursdays are busy for me. but he was like insisting and it was kind of awkward and i felt uncomfortable rejecting it so i did stay after school. when he told me to sit down next to him at a table, i did. and by the way the chairs were a little to close. the whole time he was helping me he always tryed to get good excuses to get close to me. not actually saying stuff, but like syaing "ok lets go over the steps .. *nudge close, nudge closer* then after we started talking and he asked me what my favorite classes werwe and i told him, and hes like "what do you think about the sex unit in health" and in my head im like "WHAT??"so i said awkwardly.. "um yes its good." so out of the blue.. hes like "ever wanted to have sex" and i said "i dontknow.." hes like "want to try it with me" i got creeped out at that i felt like crying.WHAT SHOULD I DO?? PLEASE HELP. i'm so confused, im afraid of going to school or even walking in the halls cause i might bump into hiM!!!! (link)
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Tell your parents what happened. Let them deal with it.
It isn't anything you are going to get in trouble for. A teacher has no right to ask those kinds of things or even suggest them.
Mom and dad will know how to handle it. :)
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do guys prefer for a girl to fake an orgasm if they don't get one during sex? (link)
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If you fake it they will never get better is my opinion.
Its kind of like rewarding them for something they didn't do.
The few I've asked said they would be really mad if they found the girl was faking. They would rather know what you like so you don't even think of faking it. :)
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Ok I am a 17 year old female from nova scotia, and there is this guy i work with and i kinda like but hes new to the business but hes really nice to me and we friendly flirt. Everythings great, but the problem is i think he may be 2 years younger then me (not 100% sure) haven't asked him lol, but is it weird that i like a younger guy? Is this wrong, kinda confuzed cause i just got crushed from this other guy i liked so i dunno what to think. Thanks, i rate all 5's (link)
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I don't think there is anything wrong with it.
The fact that you don't know for sure his age tells me he must not be an immature kid. So, long as you get along who cares how old he is.
Hope it works out. :)
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