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need to lower sex drive
my husband takes seroqueal at night to help sleep & 4 bipolar. he used to want sex alot but for last 1 1/2 yrs. only 1 or 2x a mo. i never used to want it but now i always want it. i need to know what i can take that will reduce my sex drive? we are both 38 yrs. i don't know if theres something otc i can take or if i need to ask the dr. 4 somethin spasific or even if there's a food that i can use. please help me. i don't know what else to do. it's definately not a lack of luv on his part he blames the meds. and all other aspects r fine thanx...
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Your husband is right; medication can definitely affect the sex drive. However, some medications affect it more than others. If he speaks to his doctor, he might be able to change to a different type of med with the same results, or possibly tweak the time of day he takes the medication as to allow you to regain some of your normalicy.
As for your sex drive, you are who you are. If your husband loves you, you might want to ask him to touch you - this can be sexually fulfilling, bring you emotionally closer, and might also reignite his passion when he sees how excited you are.
You can also masturbate; many marriages have one partner who wants sex more than the other, and there's nothing wrong with helping yourself out.
While it's admirable that you would like to adapt to your husband's new needs, and you clearly love him a lot, it's not feasible to deny yourself pleasure and companionship. There's plenty a man can do to please his wife without needing satisfaction himself - and there is always the hope that his meds can be adjusted.
Best of luck to you.
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A lot of people find that birth control pills lower their sex drive. Otherwise,, I recommend investing in a vibrator. A woman has needs, and if your husband isn't able to meet them for medical reasons, there should be no shame in taking care of things yourself.
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Well I went on this birth control Yasmin. I did it cuz i didn't want to have a baby yet. And I found out that one of the side affects was it lowers sex drive and from experance it lowered mine. so maybe you want to talk to your doctor about going on that b/c it also has Potassium which is good for you and it helps with cramps on that time of the month. well i hope this helped. good luck .
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I had a feeling that you'd get upset. I'm really sorry, I just think it's important for you to know, even if you don't consider every single option. Again, good luck, and I hope that you find something that will work for you.
The columnists that answered before me gave very good answers and I don't have a lot of experience with this, but I do have a suggestion for you. I don't know if you are into this kind of thing, but something that might help you is masturbation. I would actually suggest trying it because I don't believe that there's much else that you'd be able to do. Please give it a thought and please don't be offended. I hope that I helped and I hope that everything works out for you. Good luck!
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I hear certain types of birth control can lower a woman's sex drive. Antidepressants can, too, but I wouldn't suggest going on those unless you are actually depressed. A gynecologist would probably be able to give you more details.
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You're in your sexual peak. Mid to late 30's;he was in his 20 years ago. Also, your sex life may be getting stale for him. I don't know;I'm not there. He may be out of shape and tired all the time. You mention him not being able to sleep and most people who exercise regularly are able to sleep pretty well. You can't take anything to reduce your sex drive and don't. It's not a problem. It never hurts to talk to a sex therapist who is a pro at this kind of stuff. I know this isn't a pleasant subject but could it be another woman? I don't know the guy or you so don't get all pissed off.
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As far as I know there isn't anything you can take to lower your sex drive. I don't think it is a common complaint.
You can ask your doctor if he knows of something. But, I think the better option would be for your husband to ask his doctor if something can be done to decrease the side effects of his med. I'm sure that would make you both much happier. :)
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