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Can she do this to her LIFE ?
I have a friend named Tara. Shes in 12th grade, graduating this year, and going to college for Theater.. I've been quite worried about her lately, because i know that she cant have her whole life rely on Theater. She wasted her past 6 years working to be an actress. And shes not all that bad, but someone from a small town and such like ours, prolly wont get very far. I've tryed talking to her about other options. I dont want her whole life to be thrown out the window because of some, un-realistic dream.. Do you think that I should try harder to convince her that theres more to life than thearter.. and thats just there as something to do on the side? Or should I let her make her own mistakes?
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Well a lot of people from small towns have made it big...but when u go to theatre school u can take other subjects..its her life n if shes determined then shes going to do what she wants
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I definitely understand your concern for your friend. Last year, I saw my future ending up much like what you fear hers may come to. I was going to college as a Marine Biology major and realized that I probably wasn't going anywhere with that. After figuring this out I found that many people felt just like you feel about your friend towards me. They dropped hints, but never really said anything and let me pursue my dream because I was so set on it. The thing about college is that it's very easy to change majors or transfer to a different college if you change your mind about what you want to do. I changed colleges and majors and am now very happy and in a field where I can see a future for myself. People that go to the same college and never change majors are actually in quite the minority. If your friend stays a theater major for two years it is still very easy for her to change to something else. Plus, by that time, she will have a better idea of what she wants to do, what is best for her, and what her opportunities are. I agree with Razhie in that even if she does stay as a theater major there are many things she can do with it other than become an actress. My advice to you is to make sure your friend knows that you are concerned, but to be very nice about it. Try to understand her point of view and know that she'll probably change majors anyway. Let her figure things out on her own. There's a saying that goes "Don't walk ahead of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend". Be her friend and walk beside her. Let her know your opinion, but support her and help her in any decision that she makes. I hope that everything works out alright and I wish you the best of patience and luck.
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I can see where you are comming from. I would love to be an actress too but I'm afraid. I say you should let her go... think of those people who go out for really great proffessions - doctors, lawyers - and end up dropping out. Or laid off because the company shuts down? My uncle worked his butt off to become an engineer and a great one too and right now he doesn't have a job. So really, anything can happen to anyone no matter what they choose to do with their lives. just let her live and make choices. just be there if something goes wrong. <3
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how are you so sure its a mistake? geez thats pretty harsh...who are you to say shes not going to make it far? you seem like a pretty lousy friend.
and for the girl you told to "believe in god you stupid whore" yeah that really proves your arrogance and stupidity. nice work.
and btw i don't believe in god either. and i guarantee you i am much smarter than you are. :)
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Obviously it is not unrealistic, since she has put the past 6 years into it. I agree with what has been has answered before me. While you may think you are doing her a favor by telling her off about acting, it is HER dream, and thus her dream should be encouraged and atleast somewhat supported by you, since you are her friend (although...I do wonder about the level of friendship you are at). Yeah sure there is more to life than the theater, but there still is the theater, and believe it or not, it can be a successful career and you said yourself she has talent, so that means she has potential, which means if she does go to college for theater, she has a better chance at succeding in her dream. Which proves you wrong at saying it is a waste.
By the way, location really doesn't matter on who gets noticed and who doesn't, because there are always ways to get noticed.
I am done with my thoughts on this, I hope you take these opinions into consideration.
-Ryan
P.S. I consider it insulting to her that you would discourage her like you did, what do you want to do after highschool? What will your major be? It is going to have risks, everything does, but we all still take them because we have to.
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This is very insulting indeed! You may think Theater is a waste but she doesn't. She's been working hard, 6 years, and this wouldn't make you realize that this is her passion? Let me tell you this from an actors point of view. I love acting, and I am aware of the risks that come with acting. Now I did not go to college for acting like I wanted to. I let my mom influence me to give it up because she felt the exact same way you did. And let me tell you, that not a day goes by that I don't regret it. You think that if she does something "better" she'll have a better career? My friend's dad was a sociology major, and got his degree, and he works at a low paying job that has NOTHING to do with his degree. What I'm trying to say is, that all career choices have risks, and that you run the risk of not being sucessful, no matter what you decide to study. You may not agree with your friend's choice, but you aren't her, you two don't share the same opinions on everything. I'm sure that someone out there doesn't want you to persue whatever it is your planning on persuing because they thought it was an unrealistic dream. You're not perfect, you don't know everything, so let your friend do what she wants to do, and support her, don't stress her out with all this negative energy.
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Wow, this is extremely insulting.
Quit acting like you know what you're talking about. She wants to do theatre, let her do theatre! There will always be job openings for her to be a theatre teacher if worst comes to worst. I've been doing theatre throughout high school and plan to have one of my majors in it and it's not "throwing your life out the window" to do it. If you get a college education, you can get a job, period. They don't care if you majored in theatre. There are always ways to make money and she's not ruining her life by doing it and condemning herself to a life of poverty. You should leave her alone, but it wont be becuase you are "letting her make her own mistakes." You should do it so that you can worry about your own freakin' life and maybe judge yourself before you go talking shit to other people. I don't even believe in God, but I believe very strongly in the moral behind "Let him who is without sin cast the first stone." I think you're more likely to throw your life away on being cynical and unsupportive than someone who has a talent and wants to pursue it.
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P.S. Telling me to "believe in god" and calling me a "stupid whore" really makes me sad and makes me cry emo tears. I really care, seriously, I do.
Get a life, you close- minded, incorrigible FOOL. Don't know what incorrigible means? Who's the stupid one now? Don't dish it out if you can't take it.
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You gotta let her do this. There's no way you're convincing her otherwise and when you say she won't make it, how do you think it makes her feel? Theater is a low paying job,so she better really like it. I read somewhere that 85% of actors live below the poverty line. Not like Jim Carrey, but theater actors. She could make it, but her chances are like a kid trying to make it to the NBA or the NFL. Lots of people have dreams, but sometimes they have to attempt to live them before they realize how unrealistic they can be. But on the flip side, people have to dream to get anywhere in life. It's good that she has high expectations, so long as she knows that she probably won't make it. Probably. What you can do as a friend is you can say that you'll be there for her and support her decision. No matter what it is. When Billy Crystal was 10, he told his dad he wanted to be a comedian. So it's not impossible.
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Your friend is old enough to make her own decisions and realize the risks associated with the Theatre industry.
I could waste my time listing the famous actors and actress who come from very small towns but I wont bother.
But this I can't stress enough: pursuing Theater at the university or college level is NOT throwing your life away. An education in theatre can lead to many careers and opens many doors in teaching, costumer service, marketing, even a great deal of government work. Please trust me on this one. I am currently a theatre student and I have no difficulty finding employment or living healthy and happily. It is a DIFFERENT path then many would choose, it is not a bad one.
Her dreams are her dreams, and this is 'her LIFE'. If she is willing to put in the energy and dedication in to achieve them, why should you be anything but supportive and happy for her? She deservers a chance to try and she owes to herself to follow her passion.
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You shoulds let her make her own mistakes. Who knows? She could go farther than you think. However, it really isn't up to you to decide. You can give her panfilts and such to other collegees and such to her but it's really her choice. She'll be able to determine what's right the only thing you can do is be there for her.
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I think she is probably old enough to realise how risky it is.
She will still have to take the basic education classes to graduate so she will do okay.
It sounds like she is very determined to do theater. If it doesn't work out she can probably do something in a related field.
Be supportive and let her do what she wants. That's what makes life great! :)
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