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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

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I am on birth control, however started my new pack 2 days late(started Tuesday instead of Sunday after my period) I made up the missed pills as directed. The. I had unprotected sex on Sunday, and was concerned so I took plan b on Monday around 630 pm. I am now due for my period, and am having cramps, but haven't started. Am I pregnant or is it jut side effects from plan b?

I doubt it. It sounds like you did all the right things to do to prevent a pregnacy. What really matters is where in you cycle you ovulate. That is when you are most likely to conceive. In most women it is in the middle of ther cycle sometime around the 14th day; though it can be earlier.

As I said I doubt you are pregnant but a home pregnancy test should tell you one way or the other. If it is positive take another one. If that is also positive see a doctor for a chemical test.

Just a side note: Always have your partner use a condom. Not just for pregnancy prevention but to protect yourself from STDs and Aids. While condoms do not protect you from all STDs they do protect you from many. It matters not how well you know the guy or how long you have been going together. Until you have both been tested and in a monagomus relationship it is safety first. Unprotected sex means that you are both having sex with all the past partners you both have had unprotected sex with.

Ok so i rolled our 4 wheeler recently and I was sure I sprained my wirst but after 2 days it isnt hurting as bad...whats the deal?

Braiden is right; none of us are doctors. You should have that wrist x rayed. Go to any walk in clinic or hospital Emergency room.

I would not wait to long to do so as after two days if it is fractured it has already started to mend. Depending on how badly it was fractured in the first place the doctors, if the can, may have to break it again to set it properly. This can be painful. If they can't rest it they will have to allow it to mend as is which could lead to the loss of mobility in that wrist.

So get to an ER or clinic ASAP.

We are 15 years old. She has had sex with a numerous amount of guys. I don't get why she is doing this. She was molested by her piano teacher as a kid. We got her help for that. The man is in jail for life now. He has done that to 3 other girls. She was also molested by a boy at summer camp when she was younger too. She is terrified of men, so why is she having sex with all these guys? I am trying to help her but she isn't listening. She is on medication for other reasons. She has had a number of other things wrong in her life. Why isn't she taking the help that is offered to her? I am do scared she is going to end up pregnant or with an STI. How do I get through to her. Also her parents know she is having sex. They found condom wrappers in their basement where she has sex. Also my other grirbd told them she has been having sex. Help me please! Urgent! I am so scared

I really wish there was something I could tell you to do that would help her, but there is not. Her parents are aware of what is going on and from what you have written I assume she is being seen by the proper medical doctors for the proper care.

Other than than being a friend and helping her to see that the boys she is having sex with are using her. There is not much you can do. I could go into a long explanation as to why she may be doing this. Fact is it does not matter that you understand the why. What matters is that you understand young boys her age see her as someone who will allow them to use her for sex. There is no love only lust involved here.

Part of the problem has to do with low self esteme and lack of what she feels is proper love. She will not find the love or the esteme she is looking for by being the schools sex queen. This is what you need to help her with.

You need to show her that she has selfworth, that others find her worthy of her friendship. That she is loved and that these boys are only lusting for what she is giving them.

This is very hard to do even for adults. You may and I suggest you do, whant to talk with her parents to see what exactly you can do to help them help her.

This is a good thing you are trying to do. Don't feel bad if she reject you. She is not rejecting you, she is rejecting the help you offer. Keep trying if you can.

i and my fiance had sex on 12 April 2012 but my fiance did not withdraw in, he took it out.. and i suppose to get my menses on 15 April 2012 but i haven got yet. on 14 April or 15 April 2012 my fiance did sex and he withdraw in this time round..he though that i would get my period soon. after 15 April i kept feeling that i was going to get my period but i haven got yet.. when i go toilet i always see white discharge.. i do not know what is that. but now i dont have that discharge.Around May 2012 he did withdraw this fully this time round.. and i took the pregnancy test around 3 times and i still got negative.and on 11 June 2012 i went to clinic and the doctor gave me a urine test and i took but its still negative. She gave me a medicine and she told that i would definitely get my period. so i took the medicine and i still haven got my period.. i am getting worried and scared. i always have the feeling of getting my menses but i haven got yet. currently only i do not have that type of feeling. i feel my stomach bloated lately and my breast are sore and pain. i am having headache and my stomach feel very weird. i do not know wht is happening. so if one month i didnt get my mense and the next month if my fiance withdraw in would i get pregnant? PLEASE HELP ME...):

First your method of birth control is the worst one to use. The witdrawl method has the highest percentage of pregnacys over any other type of birth control. At the very least he should be using a condom which is 85% effective at preventing pregnancy.

Even if he withdraws, the precum he emits which is emitted as a lubricant and not felt by him when he does emit it, has enough sperm in it to cause a pregnancy. So the withdrawl method really depends more on your fertility cycle then if he pulls out in time.

I would say if you are old enough to be engaged then you should be old enough to be on birth control of some type. I would suggest you talk to your doctor about a better form of birth control other than the one you are using if you do not want to get pregnant.

As to your question: Three home tests and a urine analisis all negative says you are not pregnant. Did the doctor tell you what the medication was for. I doubt it had anything to do with your period and more to do with some type of infection the doctor or lab found while examining you.

It does not take much to throw your cycle off. The medication itself, if an antibiotic, is enough to do so. If you have an infection that too could have done so. The bloating and other things you write of could be pre menstral effects or something else. I doubt it is you being pregnant unless you have had sex since the last pregnancy test.

I would say you could do one of two things. Schedule another visit with your doctor for the problems you have written about. If you do I would also suggest talking to the doctor about abetter form of birth control. The other thing is to wait for anither week or two. If your period does not arrive then schedule an appointment with your doctor.

At the very least have your fiance start using a condom. If not you could be a very pregnant bride to be.

My school isn't very big, so it only offers 10 AP classes (I think). But anyway, for college admissions, how many is too many? Some kids take 5 or 6 classes and they end up being miserable. I want to have time to do other things in the areas I want to focus on (Science and Foreign Languages). Anyway, in my junior and senior years I can take 4 classes each (English, math, science, French). Is that too much? If it helps any, I'm planning on applying to several Ivy League schools. Thanks in advance!

If you know what your major is going to be I would focus only on those AP clases that have a direct effect on that major. I would not focus on the Liberal arts classes such as English and Math if the are not part of your major.

I would also try calling the schools you are looking to attend. Speak with the admissions office. Many schools do not see in the transcripts they receive that a class is an AP class. All they see is the grade.This is something you need to know. Does your school transcript point out AP classes and do the schools you wish to attend give any special admissions points in the selection process to someone with AP classes.

The challenge of the AP class is an excellent reason for taking them. If your school does not point this out and say you earn a low B. Then someone with an A in a non AP class could be selected ahead of you if the schools you apply to is not aware your B is in an AP class. Also some schools do not give any special selection points to students with AP classes other than that these students challenge themselves more.

My advise is: That while the challenge of the AP class is well worth the effort. You need to know if the challenge is going to harm your chaces of receiving an admission to your school of choice. So make the calls and do the research. Then decide which if any AP classes you should take.

By the way you every right to know what the physical transcript that your school uses looks like. They may be reluctant to show it to you so you may have toi ask your parents to ask for a blank copy of=d to be shown what one looks like.

What should you do if you are sex-starved ? Thank you in advance !

It depend on ime and place. The quickest and best way to relieve sexual tension without a partner is to masturbate. So I would probably do that.

Okay, well when I was about 10 my brother started playing with me. I mean in my vajaja. Well, as I got older it started to give me more and more pleasure. Well, he told me to get on the floor with him one night and he 69 it. Meaning I had to give him a blow job and he started liking and tounging my vajaja. I think its wrong but don't want my parents to find out and I have to get birthcontrol pills and the doctor looks down there! Please HELP!!!

What you and your brother are doing is called incest. It is not only very wrong it is illegal.

It seems we all are making the assumtion that your brother is older than you & for good reason I might add. Your brother being older than you started grooming you to be his sex toy at a very early age. An age that you would not be aware that what he was doing was so wrong when it felt so good.

Your brother is a sexual preditor. I can envision him, if he has not already done so, asking you to bring some of your girlfriends into your little sexual trysts; don't do this for him.

I know that you don't want to do this but you must. You must tell your parents what your brother has been doing to you. If your brother wants you to get birth control pills then it is because he wants to have sexual intercourse with you. This would be extremly wrong.

There are a number of different ways you can tell your parents what is happening. If you cannot bring yourself to tell them directly you can tell another trusted adult such as an Aunt, Uncle, Teacher or grandparent. You can tell your doctor or you can tell the police but you must tell someone who can help you tell your parents so you can be protected from your brother and he gets the help he needs so as not to harm anyother little girls.

Does taking pills and getting really drunk, while over a bridge sounds like a good idea to kill myself? I have two options drown or die from the drug over does. I know that I have a mental health issue (depression. I have asked for help and have been take antidepressents. They somewat help. I also learned that I have another mental health issue that came with the depression.....Socail axiety. Everyday I feel like their is no point to my life. I have a good job, good family, but I have no meaning/nothing.

Having suffered from depression myself I can say I have walked in your shoes and feel or felt your pain. Killing yourslef is not the answer. I can attest to the fact that if you truley work with programs out their to help you then their is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Antidepresents alone are not always the answer. Antidepresents with talk therapy is usually what works the best. Saying that I will tell you thet you may not always cllick with the first therapist you talk with. I didn't. I went through three before I found a women I was comfortable with. Working with her I came to realize what was causing my depression and it was not what I thought it was. Once we found that out a whole bunch of other things came to light. Things I had buried deeply. How she saw these I will neve know but she did and I am forever gratefull to her. I am a different man then I was whrn I met her. I actually like who I am now & so will you like yourself if you allow yourself the opportunity to get better.

Social Anxiety and Depression are bith cureable problems. They are not something you family doctor is trained to help you with. First you need to want to get better. Second you need to find a Board Certified psychologist to perscibe you medications. Then he or she can refer you to a talk therapist he or she feels is best qualified to help you. Being comfortable with this person is important as you need to be able to share your deepest darkest secrets and fears with the therapist if you wish to get better.

If you do this and work with these two doctors; with the proper medication and working hard. You will get better. I know that because I have been there. Try my way as I know it works.

Call 911 now and ask for help. Tell them you are suicidal and help will be sent to you.

Basically, I have severe cold sores that break out into lip infections that I am experiencing right now.

I can barely move my lips and speak because it is too painful, and I have dots that are growing on my lips while my lips are getting inflammated.

It's hard for me to eat, or even drink without having drool and spit running down as I don't have proper control of my lips right now, as they also twitch uncontrollably. Anyways, I work a part-time job as a student and I work today and tomorrow.

I called in yesterday and told them I don't think I can come to work today and I told them the reason why (albeit I could barely speak, and they could barely make out what I was saying). I made the effort to call others that were not scheduled to take my shift but no one wanted to. I called in today and told my boss and she started getting upset, and saying ALL I have is a cold-sore and that it's no excuse. I kept trying to telling her it's infected by entire lip.

What I believe really doen't matter, it is what your employer believes that matters.

In your favor is the fact you have a doctors note. Also Herpes, even if it is just the type that causes cold sores, is extremely contagious. If you touch your lips then touch a counter or something else where others could come in contact with that surface you can spread the disease. By doing so you could infect others including customers. This would not be good for her business.

I think you did the right thing by staying home. Your boss, if she is of your parents or grandparents generation, may not be aware of just what cold sores are and how an outbreak like yours can be a danger to others.

If I were you while you are home you can search the web for information to educate her to just how dangerous this outbreak is and how easily it can be spread. Maybe once she understands she will be more reasonable and understand that by staying home you were not only looking out for yourself but her business als well.

Okay, well I am a 13 year old who is really developed. So I went to a water park and me this guy named Jordan. Well, I didn't even know him before today. So a couple hours after I met him, we started to hold hands. But, Jordan wanted more than holding hands. He wanted to kiss me. Well, he kept trying to talk me into it. He tried touching my boobs to get me to do it. Well, I ended up doing it. He was a good kisser....................... But I want to know if it sounds like he just likes me for my boobs and butt. Or if he really likes me. Please help me figure it out! Thanks a lot! (:

Good for you for having the good sense to question what this guy is after. What your good sense is telling you is this boy wants more than what you are willing to give or allow. He should never have touched you. Your breasts and Butt are part of your private places. Touching you there is a sexual assault as you did not want to be touched their.

Regardless of how old he is, your age or older, he could be in legal trouble if you wished to report him for touching you. Sexual assault is against the law. When you say no or stop the boy must stop. If he doesn't he is breaking the law and can be punished under the law. Always remember this.

To answer your question: Yes he was more interested in your body then you. Boys going through puberty are intersted in one thing constntly and that is relieving the pent up sexual urge brought on by the hormones now going through the, Because of this the confuse love for lust. Remember this too.

Make sure when a boy says he loves you he means love and not just saying that because he wants sex. Sex should wait until your older and into a long term adult relationship. Not a teenage relationship where once he gets what he wants he will look for other girls to concor. Your virginity is the most presious gift you have. Wait to give it to someone who treats you with respect and love. Not just a vessel to relieve his sexual desire with.

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ok i got a bf 5 months ago and i told my mom 4 months ago.well the next day she looks at houses on the internet, i ask her about it and she tells me that we are going to move after school is out.
i told my mom about him before he asked me out, told her i liked him, and she started crying!
anyway, we moved and now she wont let me talk to him!
me and my bf were supposed to ggo to carawinds this july and asked my mom if i could go she said sure and i ask her again ,just to make sure i really could go, yesterday, and she said she made plans to go to florida the 2 week of july and i was going to carawinds the 3 week of july.
and then today she grounded me, yelled at me and sent me to my room without dinner! and she didnt even say good night at 9:00 like she usually does.
she lets my brother do everything and im stuck at home doing chores, she never lets me spend the night at a friends house and my brother does it almost every weekend.all this has led me to cutting 3 months ago and now ive got marks all on my legs.

any advise on what to do will be very thankful!!!

First lets do something about your cutting. Lets try substituting something that will be just as good at helping relieve your stress but not cause you permenant marks or harm.

Find the biggest, fatest rubberband you can find. Let this rubberband hang losely from your wrist. When you feel the need to cut snap the rubberband against your wrist instead. From a clinical standpoint you are cutting to feel something and relieve stress. Snapping the rubberband will do the samething. Plus you do not have to run off and hide to do this. You can do it anywhere anytime you feel the need.

You did not say if your brother is older or younger than you and that can make a difference. While I can't explain everything your mother has done or said. I can tell you that there is a double standard when it comes to raising boys and girls. Boys do not get pregnant so parents do give a male child far more freedom then they do a female child. Is it right; I don't know I raised a male child.

I don't see a problem with going to Florida in the 2nd week of July if it is just for a week. You will still be home the 3rd week of July to go to Carowinds. You were not quite clear on this one. What I do have a problem with and mom may also have a problem with is if you and your boyfriend will be spending the week there without adult supervision.

Not knowing how old your boyfriend is, and this is only for legal reasons anyway. You are way to young to be spending evenings in a motel with a boyfriend. Here again you are not to clear and this may be what mom has a problem with and not wanting to have a discussion on. This is wrong on her part not discussing her reason for why she is saying no.

For instance in discussing this with you, and if say his parents are going to be there. If she is unaware of that fact she can find this out and then go meet his parents before deciding to let you go or not. This is moms right to meet his parents before trusting the care of her daughter to them. Again clarity here as to just how you are planning to spend the week with him is missing so I cannot really read into why mom is saying no.

As for the other things you write about I have no clue. For every argument their are two sides. If mom chose to punish you then something happened between you that pushed her over the edge and she grounded you. Just what that may have been is missing.

What I will tell you is you sound like a typical 14 year old girl who is going through puberty. Puberty and all the changes it brings is causing problems between you and mom. This is unfortunate but fairly normal. It will get better as your body adjusts to the new hormones now floating around in it.

You can see your family doctor if you want for help with this. There are medications that can relieve some of the stress puberty is placing on you. You could even ask for a referal to a talk therapist. Someone you could speak to in total confidence and share your deepest secrets and problems with knowing that they stay with him or her and can never get back to mom.

At 14 you are old enough to qualify under federal law to ask your doctor for this type of help without parental knowledge or approval. The law is called HIPPA. This law grants you certain medical confidentiality. Problems with puberty would qualify under that law. Your cutting will to the degree that your parents need to know you have been doing it and need treatment. What happens in therapy they will never know about and can never learn about as it is privledged and confidential.

Long Story Short; my mom was 17, my dad was 15 when i was born. they fought, she cheated, he left. She hasn't let him be in my life. AT ALL. since i was 3. I'm going to be 17 in less than 2 months.

so. Yesterday I went with my boyfriend, to meet him. & it was a good experience. My boyfriend says he can tell he loves me, that hes a good guy and that he wants to be there for me. I told my mom today that i met him and she WENT OFF. and told me if i want to see him i have to get out. Is there something I can do about this?

Every state has different laws governing perental & children's rights. Not knowing where you live I went with the one most considered the norm.

You can check with child services to see what your rights are. Lookon line or the old school way, by using a phone book to find there phone number. Just remember until you are 18 you have to live with you mother and she has to provide for you. That is the law. The choices you make could make for a horrible 14 months.

Side note: the fact that mom does not pay for your cell phone does not mean she can't punish you by taking it away. Just like in school. They have the right to confiscate cell phones. Parental rights trump your ownership.

Happy, almost, Birthday.

For now you are in the eyes of the law still a child and the responcibility of your mother. For the next 14 months you must do as she says. As wrong as she may be in not allowing you to see your father she is still the one that has the legal responsibility for you.

The only way this can change is for your father to go to child social services and seek visitation. This will take time and you will probably be 18 and legally an adult before the legal problems involved are worked out.

That being said, unless somehow your mom was to forbid any and all contact with your dad. I see no reason why you can't get to know each other by sharing emails and facebook messages. I know it is not the same but it is the best you can do until you are 18. Once you reach 18 mom does not have the legal authority over you to say who you can an cannot see.

my dad got secretively remarried after a few yrs of my mom's death. My mom had committed suicide and was mentally ill. She told that dad had ilicit relatinship. but could not trust her word for she was very disoriented in her speech. my dad after that was good t me until recently he never talks or visits me or my kids anymore, he got my sign in all property documents and locker accounts, He sold our properties and has invested in other, whose details are vague for me, He claimed he has bought a property in joint account for me , but now he wants to sell it away, and buy another property for me elsewhere. He does not want to hand over the property ever to me, until his demise as he wants to take the rent from them. He also did not diclose that he has a bought a house for himself and his wife, and has never invited us to this new home. We happened to buy a flat in the same apartments, only to find out that my dad occupies a flat there, which was shocking and we could never move into it, because of the embarraseement. my inlaws are unaware of the second wife. now, dad wants my PAN card (Income tax card, a photo identity) copy to get posession of the property. Can I hand over the legal document. Can I ever trust him?? or should I ever trust him. my husband does not want me to give the PAN copy. Please advice.

First: From what you have written I can tell you are not residing on the U.S. so I am not aware of the laws were you live. It does sound a little strange to me as to what has happened.

Second: Not knowing the laws where you live I would advise you to seek the counsel of a lawyer or proper legal advice service for where you live. If you father got you to sign documents under false pretence then under the laws of your country all the transactions he made could be deemed illegal and he could be forced to make restitution to you.

Third: We do not have PAN Cards so I have no idea fully of what they are. It sounds like a legal document. Never surender a legal document to anyone, relative or non-relative, unless and until you are sure of your legal footing. Here again you need the services of a good lawyer or the proper legal advice services offered in your country.

Do not allow our father to badger you into anything. Infact you may want to discus his previous dealings with the police as well. It sounds to me, and I am not an expert, that your father is trying to disinherit you from what might be legally yours.

The only way to protect yourself from ending up with a huge tax bill or worse is not to give into to your father at this time. You need to find out by getting full disclosure of what he has been up too with what be rightfully yours. The only way to do this at this juncture may be through legal proceedings and the courts, if at all.

I graduated with a degree in business last year and I am very interested to start a career in the aviation industry. Right now I am teaching English overseas but currently I'm searching for a business related position with an airline company. I know there are many engineering and flight attendant jobs available but I'm finding it very difficult to find business related positions in airline companies.

Ideally I want to find a position related to sales or marketing. I have always loved planes so working for an airline company would be my dream job! I have applied online for some positions with airline companies but it seems to be a lost cause as there are so many applicants and many of the positions require experience. I'm not even sure if anyone even looks at my resume when I apply online. I can't help but think there has to be a better way to go about getting into the industry but I'm not sure how.

Does anyone have any advice about how to break into the aviation industry?

I feel you pain as the saying goes, having once been in that position. I found my position by using an agency that works ith the Airlines. It was costly but the outcome was worth it.

At that time the Airline personnel departments didn't have the time to screen applicants they let the agencies do it for them. I never met the people I worked for or with until my first day of work.

That may still be true today. That plus the fact that the airline industry is consolidating making many of the positions redundant and not just the business positions either. There was a time when airlines did have very agressive marketing departments going after business flyers. Today with most planes are leaving the gates with full seats I'm not sure how agressive the marketing departments need to be.

If you really want a job in aviation, look for agaencies that handle only aviation. Interview them and then sign with the one you feel is most trusting and can find you the job you want.

Last week I was undergoing a terrible sore throat,so the dr prescribed me an antibiotic,the thing is that after having finished taking all the pills;I got pimples on my face and chest,was it because of the pills?Thanks!

It is very possible. Antibiotics do play havoc with you system. It is also a sign of a possible alergi reaction to that particular drug. Best thing to do is to call the doctors office and tell them. Let the doctor decide if the medicine caused the problem and if you need to be seen.

So I am looking online to buy a car and I keep seeing the same thing on different auto places... what is a "Vehicle Maintenance Program" exactly? Is it like they do all your oil changes and tires or is it more than that? If so then what kind of things do these cover, do they cost a lot and are they worth the money? THANK YOU!

You have asked a great question.

There are many different types of vehicle maintenance programs. The cost of these programs vary based on what they provide. If you are buying a new car as opposed to a used or as they are now called previously owned car. A vehicle maintenance program that does not pay for things such as oil changes, tires, brakes and those things considered to be part of preventitive and normal maintenance. Then you are paying for something that is already covered in your new car purchase under warrenty. What you really want is and extended coverage package to extend you new car coverage.

There are vehicle maintenace packages that you can purchase that will cover normal maintenace. They are costly and my thoughts are the cost out weigh the benefit.

If you are buying a used car then a VM package does make sense depending on what it covers. You want a package that offers bumper to bumper coverage. another words if anythings breaks they fix it during the period of coverage. If it also includes tires, brakes and oil changes thats a plus but not a requirement.

my 21 year old daughter will be going to jail for five months (Jail not prison). I wonder how this will affect her life. She was going to college and had a job in her college too. Will she be able to go back to college when she gets out? How will this affect her employment opportunities?

also, I fully support my daughter going to jail (because she committed the crime so I feel she must do the time, also it might be a good learning experience and toughen her up) but I do wonder how it is like there. I hear that jail guards turn a blind eye to prisoners who get assaulted or attacked, is this true?

Is there anything I can do to help her prepare herself for this?

county jail, she is going to, not prison. I don't know if that changes anything

Lady: You have placed this question 3 times and I alone have answered twice. I can't think of anything else to answer with.

Please give us at least 24 to 36 hours to answer before placing a question again. We will only answer questions we can help with. If we don't have answers that will help you placing the same question over and over will only be fustrating for you

I uinderstand you now want to be supportive of your daughter. You can do that by visiting her. Helping her keep her spirts up. Encouraging her to take advantage of programs with in the Jail that will lead to good time credits towards early release.

She not you has done the crime and she not you has to do the time. Your now obsessing over this is only going to cause you harm. She did the crime, there is no reason for you to make yourself sick over her misdeed.

If she follows the program and behaves in Jail, based on what little I know of good time credits. she could be back home in as little as 3 1/2 months.

I am 18 and female and am never going to have sex, is that such a problem? I think sex is gross!
I also think losing my virginity will hurt really bad and I don't want to ever have sex

But I think that no guy is ever going to want to be with me once I tell them that I never want to have sex

Do you think that a guy will leave if I tell them I don't want to have sex?

You pose a somewhat interesting question. It is your right as to whether you want to have sex or not. There are people who are Aseexual, meaning they have no sexual feelings for others. Some feel that this is a medical disorder. I have never given it much though as i have never meet an Asexual person.

I can see where you might feel that sex is gross. Being a girl having a part of a males body penatrating your body for pleasure rather than simple procreation could seem gross to you. This would very much depend on you spiritual opbringing and what and your mom and dad have taught you about sex as well.

Most men today want a women who share their same interest in life. Among those interests is a shared sex life. so the answer to your question would be: Unless you find a man who's spiritual up bringing is the sam as your, I'm assuming this is the main reason for your sexual thoughts. Then yes you will have triuble finding and keeping a man as premarital sex is normal in I would guess upwards of as much as 90% to 95% of relationships.

If your thoughts about sex are not based on spiritual up bringing then I would suggest speaking to a sex therapist. As I said being Asexual is your right and there is nothing wrong with it. Just that their are not many Asexual people in the world today and if there is another more deep seated reason for not wanting sex you owe to to yourself to find out.

Sex is a wonderful thing between to consenting adults. There is no greater intimacy than a man and women making love together. The is warmth and compasion shared in that intamacy that cannot be shared in any other manner. If for no other reason than you owe to yourself to find out if there is a medical reason keeping you from sharing and having knowing of this warmth as it is a most wonderful feeling. You eed to see a doctor and make sure of your feelings. If there is a medical problem it can be corrected. Even if you decide you are a lesbian you will feel the same warmth.

I am very sure my dad is cheating/ being unfaithful to my mom.....AGAIN! from what I know this would be at least the 4th time. My mom and I went to go pick up my father from work yesterday. He asked me to come inside his job to help him carry a few things out, so I did. I was introduced to his boss, he seemed very friendly and comfortable with this man like they are friends. I then started walking ahead of them and I heard them laughing his boss said "please introduce me to your wife, so I can tell her all ur antics and the things you do around here!" My dads whole mood changed after he said that, he became nervous and uncomfortable and said" you dont need to go there, no you do not need to go there." I could tell he knew I heard what his boss said. I tried to act like I didn't hear it..it bothered me a lot. The way his boss said it made me think he is messing around with the females at his job. Considering my fathers past. He has cheated on my mom before. My mom was devastated by it, but yet she still stands by him and is still in a relationship with him. Should I tell her what he said? would it even make a difference..

I think you may be making a big jump here. I have teased many a co-worker in the exact same manner as your dads boss did to him. It was just good natured teasing. You dads boss may not be aware of your dads past and teasing him in this manner caused your dad to react the way he did.

If I was your dads boss and was aware of his past, especially with you with in hearing range, I would have never have teased him this way. I doubt your dads boss would have either.

I teased my coworkers and later employees this way because I respected them and liked the work they did. Unlike children most adults, especially people in authority, only tease the people they like. The others they either simply ignore or if they cannot ignore them are just as polite as the curcumstances call for.

Yes you heard what you heard. Though since you are aware of your dads past you put two and two together and this time I believe 2 and 2 made 7. I believe dad's boss was just teasing him so leave it at that.

M/15
I used to have sex with my girlfriend always, but when we broke up obviously we couldn't anymore. I got a new girlfriend but she's frigid. Dunno what to do?
Men, answer plz

Do you even know what the word frigid means?

At 15 I assume your girlfriend is 15 or younger. I seriousely doubt she is frigid. More likely she is a virgin and if not she has desided that sex is not worth the risk at her age. That does not mean she is frigid. It could also mean she is not ready to have sex with you. She may want more from you then just sex.

At 15 you are both too young to be having sex. Yes you seek it for you need to release the pent up sexual release due to the hormones building in you. You can accomplish this at home in your bedroom with Mrs. Thumb and her four friends. Nothing wrong with masturbation and you don't run the risk of making a baby.

Before you go putting a label on someone make sure you know the reason. In this instance I am positive the label you have chosen is wrong. That she is right not to have sex with you for you do not have the proper respect a guy should have for a girl or women to have sex with.

Make this a learning experience. Sex is not a sport. It is an act of intamcy that requires mutal respect for one another at the very least. Love is also helpfull. Your just plain horny.

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