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I never want to have sex
I am 18 and female and am never going to have sex, is that such a problem? I think sex is gross!
I also think losing my virginity will hurt really bad and I don't want to ever have sex
But I think that no guy is ever going to want to be with me once I tell them that I never want to have sex
Do you think that a guy will leave if I tell them I don't want to have sex?
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You pose a somewhat interesting question. It is your right as to whether you want to have sex or not. There are people who are Aseexual, meaning they have no sexual feelings for others. Some feel that this is a medical disorder. I have never given it much though as i have never meet an Asexual person.
I can see where you might feel that sex is gross. Being a girl having a part of a males body penatrating your body for pleasure rather than simple procreation could seem gross to you. This would very much depend on you spiritual opbringing and what and your mom and dad have taught you about sex as well.
Most men today want a women who share their same interest in life. Among those interests is a shared sex life. so the answer to your question would be: Unless you find a man who's spiritual up bringing is the sam as your, I'm assuming this is the main reason for your sexual thoughts. Then yes you will have triuble finding and keeping a man as premarital sex is normal in I would guess upwards of as much as 90% to 95% of relationships.
If your thoughts about sex are not based on spiritual up bringing then I would suggest speaking to a sex therapist. As I said being Asexual is your right and there is nothing wrong with it. Just that their are not many Asexual people in the world today and if there is another more deep seated reason for not wanting sex you owe to to yourself to find out.
Sex is a wonderful thing between to consenting adults. There is no greater intimacy than a man and women making love together. The is warmth and compasion shared in that intamacy that cannot be shared in any other manner. If for no other reason than you owe to yourself to find out if there is a medical reason keeping you from sharing and having knowing of this warmth as it is a most wonderful feeling. You eed to see a doctor and make sure of your feelings. If there is a medical problem it can be corrected. Even if you decide you are a lesbian you will feel the same warmth.
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Have you heard of asexuality? While this desire to never have sex might just be a phase, it's possible that you could identify as asexual. Asexuals can be homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, or pansexual just like anybody else, but they do not express love or desire in a physical way. For more information on the subject check out this website:
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This specific part of the site gives a much better explanation on what asexuality is than what I provided:
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It will definitely be difficult to find a man who respects your choice, but there are some out there. You might be more comfortable finding someone who, like you, does not feel any desire to have sex.
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It's normal to think you don't want sex, and sex is gross. But once you're in a situation where you have really strong feelings for someone, those feelings will disappear. First be aroused, then tell me if you still don't want sex ;)
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sex is great, do it , you WILL NOT REGRET ITR
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Never say never. Why is it gross to you? You have to deal with that first. It's not gross because a new life can and often does begin as a result of this act. You have to figure out what's behind the hangup as sex is perfectly natural and normal.
As for the pain it's usually more a discomfort than anything stabbing but if relaxed and well-lubricated you should be fine.
Well, it's a lot to ask of any partner to never have sex ever. I'm sure as you read, research and get more comfortable with the idea, your own body and reasons for sharing it with another you'll find your view may change.
Who knows you may want kids at some point but start by dealing with what really has you turned off about it and chuck that idea or fear out. Definitely learn about your own body, how it responds to pleasure etc. by yourself as being able to accept it is the first step towards being able to handle sharing an intimate act with someone else.
The person who mentioned a-sexuality has a valid point however, from what I read in your question it has to do with two things disgust and fear of intense pain and of physical intimacy in general. I think that's all it is where you need to see it as something that isn't gross or necessarily going to hurt you. If that's the root cause than it's easily dealt with once you become more educated on this.
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