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My daughter will be going to jail for five months, how will this affect her
my 21 year old daughter will be going to jail for five months (Jail not prison). I wonder how this will affect her life. She was going to college and had a job in her college too. Will she be able to go back to college when she gets out? How will this affect her employment opportunities?
also, I fully support my daughter going to jail (because she committed the crime so I feel she must do the time, also it might be a good learning experience and toughen her up) but I do wonder how it is like there. I hear that jail guards turn a blind eye to prisoners who get assaulted or attacked, is this true?
Is there anything I can do to help her prepare herself for this?
county jail, she is going to, not prison. I don't know if that changes anything
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I uinderstand you now want to be supportive of your daughter. You can do that by visiting her. Helping her keep her spirts up. Encouraging her to take advantage of programs with in the Jail that will lead to good time credits towards early release.
She not you has done the crime and she not you has to do the time. Your now obsessing over this is only going to cause you harm. She did the crime, there is no reason for you to make yourself sick over her misdeed.
If she follows the program and behaves in Jail, based on what little I know of good time credits. she could be back home in as little as 3 1/2 months.
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I had a friend who had legal troubles a few years ago. However, he was a guy, and he went to prison, so his experiences will probably be a bit different.
From his experience, there is a fair amount of violence. It is generally broken up when a guard is nearby, but there are plenty of times when a guard isn't readily on hand.
Racism is rampant in prisons, and probably jails as well. People tend to stick together based on race and frequently attack people of other races. While this is extremely distasteful on the outside, it is a reality of life in jail.
From his experience, I would recommend a few things. First, make some friends as soon as she gets in. Loners are more likely to be singled out and stolen from or attacked. She should try to keep to her group and not interfere with what other people are doing. Never "tell on" anyone else. Even if they are doing something that could injure or kill someone else, it is likely to make her a victim of an attack in the future. Once you are considered a "rat" (someone who tells on other inmates to the guards), attacks will be very violent and frequent.
Most likely the first week or two will be the hardest. After that she will get used to the unique culture and will probably get along fine.
Also, because she is a girl, things should be a little easier. Things like assault and rape are less likely to happen in a women's housing unit.
This will affect her future, but it's impossible to say exactly how. Different schools have different policies regarding criminal behavior. Your best bet is to contact the school and figure out if there is anything you can do to ensure that she will still be able to attend the school when she gets out.
Since she is an adult, she will have to report this on job applications in the future. Some jobs only ask for offenses in the last 5-10 years, so she may eventually get away from this. You could also ask a lawyer if there is any way to get the charge removed from her record if she gets out on good behavior, but I'm not really in a position to give you legal advice.
I don't want to scare you (or her), but the reality is that jail isn't something to be taken lightly. She may have a relatively peaceful stay, or she may have an experience similar to my friend (he was hospitalized three times and lost most of his teeth during his first year). The important thing is to remember that the objective is to get out. If she starts fighting or doing drugs or engaging in any type of prohibited activities in jail, that five month sentence can turn into years. Good behavior will ensure she gets out on time or even early (my friend only served three years of a ten year sentence).
Good luck, and remember to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Different jails can be as different as night and day.
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