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New girlfriend is frigid... how do I deal?
M/15
I used to have sex with my girlfriend always, but when we broke up obviously we couldn't anymore. I got a new girlfriend but she's frigid. Dunno what to do?
Men, answer plz
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Do you even know what the word frigid means?
At 15 I assume your girlfriend is 15 or younger. I seriousely doubt she is frigid. More likely she is a virgin and if not she has desided that sex is not worth the risk at her age. That does not mean she is frigid. It could also mean she is not ready to have sex with you. She may want more from you then just sex.
At 15 you are both too young to be having sex. Yes you seek it for you need to release the pent up sexual release due to the hormones building in you. You can accomplish this at home in your bedroom with Mrs. Thumb and her four friends. Nothing wrong with masturbation and you don't run the risk of making a baby.
Before you go putting a label on someone make sure you know the reason. In this instance I am positive the label you have chosen is wrong. That she is right not to have sex with you for you do not have the proper respect a guy should have for a girl or women to have sex with.
Make this a learning experience. Sex is not a sport. It is an act of intamcy that requires mutal respect for one another at the very least. Love is also helpfull. Your just plain horny.
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I am a woman, but I am answering anyway!
Talk to your new girlfriend. See where she stands on sex. If she tells you she doesn't want to have sex until marriage, don't pressure her. These are her values, and it would be wrong to try & change them. You will just look like a douche bag. And trust me, she will let other girls know about your douche-baggery :)
If she says she's interested in sex, but not right now, give her time. Let her get to know you and form a relationship first. Tell her to let you know when she's ready.
If sex is that important to you, and she's just not interested, you should probably consider finding someone with similar interests as you. It may sound wrong to "break up with someone because she wouldn't have sex with you" but in my opinion it would be worse to try and pressure her into it.
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You just date your new girlfriend and respect her. The one thing men don't always get is that women want a guy who cares more about her feelings, not her body.
I am not saying you do, but men who pressure women sooner or later find themselves single. Most importantly is she may not be as experienced or ready as you. What you do is take it slow and wait respectfully until she is ready or do her the favor and move on.
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