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Can I trust my dad
my dad got secretively remarried after a few yrs of my mom's death. My mom had committed suicide and was mentally ill. She told that dad had ilicit relatinship. but could not trust her word for she was very disoriented in her speech. my dad after that was good t me until recently he never talks or visits me or my kids anymore, he got my sign in all property documents and locker accounts, He sold our properties and has invested in other, whose details are vague for me, He claimed he has bought a property in joint account for me , but now he wants to sell it away, and buy another property for me elsewhere. He does not want to hand over the property ever to me, until his demise as he wants to take the rent from them. He also did not diclose that he has a bought a house for himself and his wife, and has never invited us to this new home. We happened to buy a flat in the same apartments, only to find out that my dad occupies a flat there, which was shocking and we could never move into it, because of the embarraseement. my inlaws are unaware of the second wife. now, dad wants my PAN card (Income tax card, a photo identity) copy to get posession of the property. Can I hand over the legal document. Can I ever trust him?? or should I ever trust him. my husband does not want me to give the PAN copy. Please advice.
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In your position, I wouldn't give your father any legal standing in my life. If he wants to gift you the property - that's lovely, that means it's yours and he cannot continue managing it without your knowledge. If he wants to leave it to you when he dies, he can spell that out in his will.
Frankly, if someone wanted to put property I knew nothing about in my name, while they continued to make income on it, I'd be concerned they were doing something illegal.
But since he already is holding property in your name, you should talk to a lawyer.
And a family therapist to give you some tactics for coping with your father's secretive and disrespectful actions.
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First: From what you have written I can tell you are not residing on the U.S. so I am not aware of the laws were you live. It does sound a little strange to me as to what has happened.
Second: Not knowing the laws where you live I would advise you to seek the counsel of a lawyer or proper legal advice service for where you live. If you father got you to sign documents under false pretence then under the laws of your country all the transactions he made could be deemed illegal and he could be forced to make restitution to you.
Third: We do not have PAN Cards so I have no idea fully of what they are. It sounds like a legal document. Never surender a legal document to anyone, relative or non-relative, unless and until you are sure of your legal footing. Here again you need the services of a good lawyer or the proper legal advice services offered in your country.
Do not allow our father to badger you into anything. Infact you may want to discus his previous dealings with the police as well. It sounds to me, and I am not an expert, that your father is trying to disinherit you from what might be legally yours.
The only way to protect yourself from ending up with a huge tax bill or worse is not to give into to your father at this time. You need to find out by getting full disclosure of what he has been up too with what be rightfully yours. The only way to do this at this juncture may be through legal proceedings and the courts, if at all.
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