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Daddy Problems.
Long Story Short; my mom was 17, my dad was 15 when i was born. they fought, she cheated, he left. She hasn't let him be in my life. AT ALL. since i was 3. I'm going to be 17 in less than 2 months.
so. Yesterday I went with my boyfriend, to meet him. & it was a good experience. My boyfriend says he can tell he loves me, that hes a good guy and that he wants to be there for me. I told my mom today that i met him and she WENT OFF. and told me if i want to see him i have to get out. Is there something I can do about this?
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Once your 18 you can make up your mind about the kind of relationship you want with your father..however if you want to dive into a relationship with your dad I would try to sit down with your mom and talk about it. Really find out why she doesn't want him in your life, why she has been hiding him from you, etc..If you try to understand her side, maybe you can better understand her reasoning. Also making it an open discussion and finding out more information may help your mom understand your side as to why you want to meet him. It's best to have these conversations with as little fighting as possible, so the more relaxed and mature you approach the conversation with your mom the better.
good luck.
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Added onto what Adviceman said
Once you turn 18, You are legally an adult and you have the right to have a relationship with your father. Your mother would no longer have say to whether or whether not you do so.
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Every state has different laws governing perental & children's rights. Not knowing where you live I went with the one most considered the norm.
You can check with child services to see what your rights are. Lookon line or the old school way, by using a phone book to find there phone number. Just remember until you are 18 you have to live with you mother and she has to provide for you. That is the law. The choices you make could make for a horrible 14 months.
Side note: the fact that mom does not pay for your cell phone does not mean she can't punish you by taking it away. Just like in school. They have the right to confiscate cell phones. Parental rights trump your ownership.
Happy, almost, Birthday.
For now you are in the eyes of the law still a child and the responcibility of your mother. For the next 14 months you must do as she says. As wrong as she may be in not allowing you to see your father she is still the one that has the legal responsibility for you.
The only way this can change is for your father to go to child social services and seek visitation. This will take time and you will probably be 18 and legally an adult before the legal problems involved are worked out.
That being said, unless somehow your mom was to forbid any and all contact with your dad. I see no reason why you can't get to know each other by sharing emails and facebook messages. I know it is not the same but it is the best you can do until you are 18. Once you reach 18 mom does not have the legal authority over you to say who you can an cannot see.
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Hey there, Hmm this is a tough situation. Your mom has no right to keep you from seeing your father. Thats something you should be able to decide for yourself. she shouldnt get in the way of your relationship with your father simply becauae she has issues with him. Sit down with her and explain calmly and maturely that you have a right to see your father and you would like a chance at forming a relationahip with him. Ask her what her problems are with him and why she won t t t allow you to see him. If she doesn't see reason I suggest maybe getting another adult involves to speak to her about it try to stress the importance of a relationahip with ImIyour father,and that you should be allowed the chance to form an opinion of him yourself. Like an aunt uncle grandad or grandmother. I'm sorry your mom is being difficult.If she doesnt let up maybe wait until you are in a position to move out so you are free to see him of your own accord without her ridiculous threat to throw you out. Or perhaps ask can you live with your dad if thats an option. Good Luck and much <3 Jess 18/f
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