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15, female, USA, Christian

Okay, let me explain a little...
I have met gay people. I had a friend who was gay, I don't hate gay people and I don't like it when people are hateful to homosexuals.

But.

I don't agree with it. I'm not sure exactly why though...it just rub's me the wrong way.

I suppose it has something to do with the Bible(considering I am a Christian). But I know the Bible also says "Love your neighbor as yourself" and also not to judge others unless you are in a position to do so, such as being a judge or jury in court. So for that reason (among others like just being a decent person) I try not to judge them, and basically just have the mentality of 'let them take it up with God'.

Plus the fact that, a male and female can reproduce, yet two of the same sex can't. Species reproduction is nature, and homosexuality somewhat counters that. I understand adoption or not wanting to have kids, but in adoptions case they're still not reproducing, just raising a kid without a home.

But before you call me homophobic or something of the sort, please understand I do not hate homosexuals. I simply don't agree with their way of living (I guess you could say) for a multitude of reasons, most of which I'm unsure of.

And in the case of them being born that way, I do believe I heard somewhere that it has something to do with a hormonal imbalance that can be corrected with a shot or something, though I am unsure if that is factual.

Basically, I'm a little worried I will be judged throughout my life for not agreeing with homosexuality completely. Even though I'm not completely sure why.

Plus I just wanted to vent out my thoughts a bit. Though understand I am not trying to change anyone's opinions or beliefs. Believe what you will, I am simply stating what I believe, and I want to hear/read other peoples responses.

Any thoughts (or anything you want to correct me on) you have on this matter I would greatly appreciate reading. (Though do try to be polite)

I've not heard of a hormonal imbalance being a possible cause of homosexual tendencies. I do believe though that in part, a more possible cause may be due to the toxicity of our planet. No...its not on the nightly news and the effects of something that does make the news like the leaking of Fukushima reactors in Japan or fracking for oil in the U.S. for a couple, are no one really likes at all.not going to be shared with the general public to avoid outright panic. I have read on the net many reports from various sources who conclude the same with testings, that not only are genitals of male babies generally smaller but more and more males are having less of a sex drive than say their dads or grandfathers or further back generations. It's not making them want sex with the same sex but no sex at all or confused when they have no sex drive at all so they assume that maybe they are gay and go that way.
I have heard that the naturally occuring hormones of puberty are either not coming in normal amounts, too low...which causes problems, or too high but usually from in utero already a baby is sucking up the poisons and toxins of our environment, and a biggie is plastics cus they release the female hormone. Males and females absorb it. Males end up needing a prescription to sort things out but young females with a body full of these female hormones taken in thru her surroundings has great problems when her body at puberty adds to it and ends up at worst case scenerio, depressed or suidical. But I havent heard of gay tendencies ascribed to it.
I grew up in church...going during my teen yrs of my own choice, parents didn't go. Spent about 30 yrs there. So I know full well what the bible had to say and what Christians taught regarding gays.

I like you did not want to judge any person and just be loving no matter what. But other than one girl who became a friend of mine in 9th grade, during my years growing up, I never met any gay people. I have met many more during my adult life, and have also met people with other alternative sexual ways. This would include bi-sexuals, transgenders, cross dressers, swingers, and polyamorists. Having gotten to know how these people live their life, their hopes and dreams, their beliefs and morality (other than sexual) is all just the same as anyone else. In fact the way many live their lives no matter what religion they are, they still have all the same wants and desires as Christian may have. The only difference is what they believe and their sexual life.
And lastly here, I will share something that is going to sound very odd to you because it involves the Holy Spirit and how it worked in my life. There is no story or previously heard of such thing to compare to in church. In fact the closest thing you'll have that comes to mind is to "test the Spirit, to know if its from God or if its a deceiving spirit." Now my story: During all my years in church, the H.S. worked with me through the church to teach me to trust Him above whatever man or the church said. It started with being given a scripture to share with a church member or sharing a kind word with a stranger or a caring act and through all my experiences I got to know very well the voice of the Holy Spirit, able to tell when it was my own voice and thoughts in my head or the H.S. and whenever I heard something that seemed really strange and new, I would check to be sure it was from God. One day as i was busy doing something and not focused on prayer or God at all, the H.S. spoke into my mind saying, "If I told you that reincarnation is real, would you believe me?" It felt like having the rug pulled out from under me. All I had believed my entire Christian life was now in question and possibly not true. I knew it was the H.S. and thats what shocked me. Long story a bit shorter...this opened the door for me to think about previous lives. What if two souls who knew each other as husband wife were born as two females or males in this life and met each other, they might feel that same deep love for each other and form a same sex relationship. That could possibly be one explanation if one believed in reincarnation. Another thing I have since read of is that many souls prefer living the majority of their lifetimes as one particular sex because they prefer it. So a soul lives mostly as males or mostly as females but just to experience the other from under me. All I had believed my entire every once in a while, a soul choose the opposite sex for an incarnation, and sometimes adjusts well to the change and lives their sexual life as the gender they are. But on many occasions, you have a female with many male mannerisms that show through tho she's truly female sexually and males with female mannerisms but are all male sexually. And finally, you have the ones who don't adjust to the different sex at all as they hoped and keep feeling like a male in a female body or female in a male body...this seems most common and most possible explanation for a person saying they feel like they were born the wrong sex and living a life as a gay person...but thats if one believes in reincarnation. I do now and so this answered lots of questions for me and to me whether a person is gay is of no concern at all to me, not even for what happens to their soul.
You can only believe what you do about them based on the belief system you are operating out of so really, you are not going to be able to find anything that sounds right or makes sense to you for explanations.

As long as you treat them as if they were your sister and brother, no matter how they live, what they believe religion wise and their sexual beliefs, then you are doing the very best you can do and God will be satisfied and not unhappy with you. If every human is a creation of God, then all people are our sisters and brothers and as such deserve to be treated as such. However the biggest problem the world has is that most humans fail to do so. If you can learn to do this, you are doing better than most are able to. If you are not sure of anything that you feel inside or believe regarding how God feels about it as far as you are concerned, then do as I did when I was going through some spiritual growth periods, I would simply ask God, "Are you still pleased with me?" It was to find if I was still on the personal path God had for me to grow Spiritually.
I have not yet heard that I am going the wrong way. God nevers give s you something you can't handle and that is Spiritually too...if its something your soul couldn't handle hearing or hearing yet. So hon, its okay if you feel reincarnation is wrong whereas I now know it is. These are the custom made paths God has for you and I. You may never have GOD confirm that for you. But if you really want to know what God does want and what he meant, ask him and don't be surprised if its different from what the Bible, the church, doctrines and such that have been interpretted by human minds and contaminated by man also and twisted and messed with to mean something that it orginally wasnt meant to mean. There is lots of truth in Christianity but there is also the messed up stuff that comes out confusing or contradictory or just doesnt make sense. You must do what you feel is right. In the end, it's really only between you and God. Talk to Him.