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I dont love him like i used to
Hello there. My bf and I have been dating for almost two years now. At first I was truly in love with him but now I feel different. I dont love him like I used to. When I hugged him or kissed him or told him I loved him, I felt something. I felt like I was in love but I dont feel it anymore now. I love him so much and I want to be with him. He`s truly the best boyfriend Ive ever had. I really dont want to hurt him, he was hurt bad on his previous relationship. What should I do or what should I tell him? please help
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I think you should break up with him it may hurt him but it would really hurt him to find out if you were leading him on and didn't really love him when you told him you did that's basically lying to him and a good relationship is based on trust, communication and honesty. Be. Honest about houw tut you feel and just because you aren't dating anymore dosnt mean you can't remain friends . I hope I have helped you.
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Break up, and try to be civilised about it.
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He may get hurt if you break up but its even worse to be in a relationship thinking the other is still madly in love with you,let it drag on as for as end up married with kids before you find out the spouse doesnt love you and has been seeing someone on the side.
The hurt cant be avoided. One thing to keep in mind is that both you and he should not be willing to settle for anything less than the best.
Being best friends is important to a long lasting relationship including marriage. But if that spark, romance and being in love with is missing, thats the 2nd important part of a couple relationship, and if thats missing on yur part at least, he needs to know that.
If you're confused as to why you loved him once and it wore off, it could be due to NRE, new relationship energy, the same thing a newly wed couple experiences too. So focused on each other because all the feelings in the relationship are heightened, stronger, more intense so it feels like it willl always be this way, that this is the real thing. Those heightened feelings have subsided and now you are left with the real thing that will be there for rest of your life. Tell him now, be gentle but it must be done.
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Hi, I completely understand where you're coming from. If you don't feel like you love him like you used to, then why drag on the relationship any longer? It's not healthy for either one of you. For you, to be lying to yourself or just staying in this relationship solely because you don't want to hurt him. And for him, to go on thinking that everything is fine. You oughta let him down easy, this sort of thing happens all the time. Sometimes relationships lose that "spark". Although it seems like that "it's not you, it's me" bullshit, it really is. Because it seems like he's not doing anything particularly wrong but it's that you just don't feel the same way anymore.
I hope that this helped you! X
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