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Benefits and fundraisers at work.
A couple of years ago I had breast cancer. I went thru a lot, chemo, radiation, very traumatic for me. I received a card with 30$ from my coworkers and a couple other people gave me 20$. Thank God, I am ok, now, I think.
Since then a few other people have had cancer and they have big benefit dinners, silent auctions, ect and get thousands of dollars. It made me feel really bad, because I felt like nobody at work likes me, because they didn't do anything for me. On top of it they are constantly pressuring me to give and donate and I am just so tired of them making me feel like a nobody. What should I do, quit my job or just suck it up and get over it.
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You may have been the first co-worker ever to come to their attention as battling breast cancer and they wanted to do something, never having tread upon territory like this before but wanting to help.
Once the next person came along who battled something similar, there's a chance they looked back at what they did for you and realized it was so little and they could have done more so they resolved to do better with future people and began to hold these fundraisers to help.
I would choose to look at it as being the person who instigated your office deciding to come up with something more meaningful and useful to those suffering.
If the only reason you don't want to join the fundraisers for others is because you didn't get the same thing, I can understand. But you can choose how you feel about that, overlooked, not as significant or the key that instigated a company wide resolve to become more active in supporting ailing co-workers. I think its natural that we as humans initially may feel like a nobody in comparison. We all tend to have the negative thoughts rush in too quickly and easily. And it's harder to talk to ourself, and convince ourselves that this doesn't mean we are insignificant or not liked.
No one can make you have any particular feeling any more than anyone can make you decide to change or improve your life. I've heard one psychologist call it 'stinking thinking' or in other words, dwelling on negative thoughts which the more you do, the worse you feel.
The power is inside you to determine how you will feel, whether you have a strong self image and confidence in who you are and like yourself. Let this incident roll off your back like water off a duck. Good luck dear.
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I can't tell you whether your co-workers dislike you or not, nor why they did what they did, because I don't know them or their lives. If you feel throughly uncomfortable with your job and know that you can find another job easily, then yes, you should quit. However if your economic status isn't all that well and you don't have assured that you can find another job, I suggest you try to talk to your co-workers. Not demanding answers, simply try to find out if they indeed do not like you or if it was all a misunderstanding.
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