Member Since: April 24, 2013
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Last Update: April 29, 2013
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So I've been dating this guy for quite a while now, and I find myself often wondering if I'm wasting my time or not. A few things that might help: I cheated on my last boyfriend (who was my first that I got soon after I turned 18 & that lasted 3 months on & off) with the guy I'm with now. Everything went great once we started dating, even though he was maybe even more awkward than me. After about two weeks or so of dating he asked me out, and about 2-3 weeks in I took his virginity. He told me he loved me first, on our 2 month, and that freaked me out since I had never been in love. I eventually fell in love with him, but a dent was put in our relationship when he called me his close girl friends name(not during anything romantic/sexual, but still, and I found out he lied & said he went to coffee with his guy friend, but really went with him. I can be pretty jealous(as can he, but he isn't as jealous anymore-which I kinda miss), but I really wouldn't have minded them hanging out if he just told me, but since he lied about it made me wonder why. I've found kinda flirty texts/messages between them where they would talk about his & my relationship-really intimate details. If I ever bring her up he goes crazy though, & says he hasn't talked to her in so long, but I don't get why he's so angry that I could even suggest it. I've caught him lying quite a few times, and I don't think he'd tell me a hard truth unless I forced him to/found proof. My hands aren't exactly clean either, but he's so cold/emotionless about it, and unlike how I used to be; since I fell in love I've been extremely emotional, and he gets amused when I cry because I do for ridiculous reasons. We're so opposite, but we have so many good times & I love him & his family so much (mine is unstable) & he's my first love that I want to be my last, but I'm not sure what to do.
Help please? (link)
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Someone who lies? Yeah forget it. I'd end it in an instant.
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How do you stay humble? Lately, I've found myself a little too self-absorbed. I've recently had some pretty cool accomplishments, and I find it hard to strike a balance between boasting about them and having an appropriate amount of pride. Not only that, but I've recently joined a club at school that's a big of an ego warfare; I feel like I have to brag about myself to get people to like me. So how do you guys forget all that crap and keep yourself down to earth? (link)
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Just stop bragging Period. People who brag seem insecure and need a lot of validation. It's a nasty trait and you should just stop.
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why do i search for something that i can not achieve? i married a man that i love with everything that i am ... but i feel so lost and alone .. there is no passion anymore .. i dont think that he is still in love with me and i think that he is searching for a way out ... i have cried so much that i feel empty.. here i am resorting to putting my feelings out to the world just in case there is someone that can save me from my self ... i just want to die, i am a failure as a mother to a son i never see... i am a failure as a wife to a husband i watch hate me each day .. fleeting moments where i see what could ... what should be .. but when he looks at me he see's a traitor... or just person that he once knew... i used to have so many wonderful traits but i dont have anything... the only thing i want is what doesnt want me... death would be preferable to this living torture?? please someone tell me how to end this i just want to rest now. i have nothing left to give of myself ... i am all ready dead .. if only i can end my own painful existence... (link)
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You sound depressed. Seek professional help immediately. Go see a counselor. Get on meds if you have to.
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WARNING: you might get confused, and this is quite long:
PART 1:
So i like this girl(lets call her susan.)And my friends all know. We started off flirting and being friends, sometimes it would seem as she liked me other times it seemed as she really didn't like me. She admits we are friends which means she likes me as a person but not "like-like". Today susan and one of her friends came up to me and this is the conversation:
*Susan- hey,
*Friend- susan needs to ask you something.
*Me- ok?
*Susan- ummm... this is sooo akward!!! Shes going to tell you.
*Friend- Its just that susan likes you.
(susan smiles and laughs)
*Susan- its not true!(while smiling)
(i looked at her is a weird way and my heart beat fast.)
*Susan- its because she getting revenge on me!
then i just leave not looking behind, and susan tells her friend,"we're just friends.
PART 2:
the same day i avoided her, i didn't look at her and i didn't talk to her. Then one of my friends said that another of susan friends said that she doesn't like me as a person.
What is happening? what should i do? if i need to explain something better just tell me.
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If you like her say you do and see where that takes you. Have the guts to go all out. Why are people so afraid to lay it on the line? If she doesn't like you then you'll know and move on. So many kids/people play these mind games out of fear. Take the fear out of it and see if there is something real.
Be honest.
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well me and my ex boyfriend still talk a lot like here and there, we do intend to flirt and we always talk about our past i acc love it and so does he, like last night he was saying how he wanted to kiss me and stuff, i always say the same to him to.
Thing is we haven't seen each other in like nearly a year , we both haven't dated anyone , and i'm leaving to University in September its quite sad, were gonna meet each other soon and go Cinema, he said he would defo kiss me, my feelings have always been there from the start if they weren't i would of moved on by now, like ive moved on with my life but its just the feelings ...
I have a feeling he still has them too , like if you didn't like someone still you wouldn't talk to them in that way right?
we've made love before, and we both want to do it again.. would that be bad?
i just can't help the way my heart feels..
thanks female 18. (link)
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OMG you're 18 and you care about each other. What's the problem? I'd kiss him and sure I'd get intimate if you wanted to. But that's just me. I don't really see a problem here. I know you're going away, but I wouldn't deny myself being with someone I care about just because it's not gonna last. Have sex safe and enjoy young love/hormones. LOL.
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Well, a while ago I told a so called friend I liked a girl in my school, next thing I know everyone knows. I didn't want anyone to know so I denied it and said it was a rumour however a close friend of mine had told the girl I liked about how I feel so I don't think she believed me when I said I didnt like her. But now me and the girl who I really love and had been friends with for 2 nearly 3 years dont talk because of it she has said we're not friends she doesn't know what we are and all this happens in like January. Time hasn't helped what should I do- also her bday is in may so should I say or get her anything?? :s (link)
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If you like a girl...TELL HER! Why so scared? Put yourself in her shoes...You said you didn't like her! That's got to hurt if she likes you.
Anyway text her and tell her the truth. It takes guts to say how you really feel and take a chance, but if things work out it could be great...but if things don't... you'll see it's not the end of the world.
Saying you like someone isn't that big of a deal. Rejection isn't either. Time goes by and you realize it's just a part of life. Learn to be honest and deal with whatever comes. Live life to its fullest...fearlessly. Good luck.
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