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Friend or something more ?
Well, a while ago I told a so called friend I liked a girl in my school, next thing I know everyone knows. I didn't want anyone to know so I denied it and said it was a rumour however a close friend of mine had told the girl I liked about how I feel so I don't think she believed me when I said I didnt like her. But now me and the girl who I really love and had been friends with for 2 nearly 3 years dont talk because of it she has said we're not friends she doesn't know what we are and all this happens in like January. Time hasn't helped what should I do- also her bday is in may so should I say or get her anything?? :s
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Before I answer the question about the birthday, I want to bring up the issue of denying to everyone once they knew, that you liked the girl. Have you given it any thought as to WHY you did not want anyone to know? Is it because you feared their response, the teasing? Might as well learn now in your young life how to deal with "fear of what others will think or say" because if you don't learn it now and you will be faced with many situations in life to learn this lesson then. Looking back now, was it worth the avoiding teasing for a few days and possibly losing her friendship forever. Was she worried about what others thought? No, I dont think so. Since you were already friends she would have felt honored and proud to be seen with you as a couple. She wouldn't have cared what others thought. Do not let fear hold you back from living your life. If you can see this and are sorry for your action and want to fix it, then you still have to face that fear.
Here's the solution: Yes buy her a gift but thats the easy part. You will next have to bare your heart in front of her and everyone. If I were you, I'd choose a time when the biggest crowd of people are around to witness this and enlight the help of her girlfriend to make sure she is there without telling her why. In front of all, explain to her why you denied how you felt. If you believe and know that is was wrong tell her. If you don't believe that...then don't even bother doing this, you're not ready to conquer fear of man and definately not ready to get back your lady friend. Nope, life isn't easy but I'll bet if you find the guts to do this, that a few might tease but most students will cheer you on and laugh cus they wish they could have the guts to do the same. And in conquering your fear and giving her a birthday gift and apologizing publicly, there's a great chance of getting your friend back.
One last lesson to learn is how to choose friends wisely and know which ones you can trust to keep a secret. That you will learn over time as they repeatedly prove themselves trustworthy or not.
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I think you should talk to her. If you really like her, it'd be worth the risk right? If she doesn't feel the same then you know it's time to move on instead of wait around.
Just tell her you have feelings for her and you were wondering if she might feel the same. If not, then oh well, everybody gets rejected at least once in their life. You will feel better knowing instead of wondering "What if"
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If you like a girl...TELL HER! Why so scared? Put yourself in her shoes...You said you didn't like her! That's got to hurt if she likes you.
Anyway text her and tell her the truth. It takes guts to say how you really feel and take a chance, but if things work out it could be great...but if things don't... you'll see it's not the end of the world.
Saying you like someone isn't that big of a deal. Rejection isn't either. Time goes by and you realize it's just a part of life. Learn to be honest and deal with whatever comes. Live life to its fullest...fearlessly. Good luck.
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