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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. No, I'm not a single mom but his dad sleeps all day, so I feel like I am at times and my fiancee let's me do the correcting because they are my children and he didn't wanna step on anyone's toes. Thank you for your words of wisdom. From one mother to another mother, we got this and I will keep you in my prayers šÆ(Rating: 5) This definitely helps more than you know. I have been seeing someone almost 5 years and my kids think the world of him. I didn't wanna rush into a divorce at the time, but then I did sign the papers and served them to him and he took until they were expired and when he was mad to sign them. I don't know if he will ever change even after I leave, but I do know I'm not sticking around to find out anymore. I'll always care about him but in the long run I need to be happy and I don't want my kids to ever feel like their trapped in the same type of situation as I am. I genuinely appreciate all your feedback. Thank you for listening. From the bottom of my heart ā¤ļø
(Rating: 2) Just looking at this again with hindsight. One fact you seemed to forget is that we were friends first and then I started liking her. We would hang out a lot and one day I decided t be brave and tell her my feelings. I KNEW she would *never* like me back so I wasn't trying to ever get her to like me. I just mentioned my feeling for her because they got in the way of *my* emotions. Honestly, I feel that she forgot I even told her that after a while. Anyways after that, we still stayed friends but it was hard for me and now with hindsight, I see that she took advantage of my feelings for her. I donāt know what made you think we donāt have things in common because Iām pretty sure I never said that and we had great camaraderie at least when we hung out in person we did and whenever we were in person (in class, at lunch, etc.) we were great but things were always bad with text. It was a never-ending cycle. Iād text a little too much then I would stop them sheād text me back randomly we have a good conversation plan to hang out and then she does the same thing. We had a big talk about how she and I reacted to each other and she admitted that what she did was pretty bad. She isnāt a crush that I was hoping to turn into a love interest. I knew she would never like me like that but my feelings made me stay friends with her even though she was a bad friend. Iām not saying Iām 100% the victim in all this I couldāve left anytime and not been friends with her and I definitely had rose-colored glasses with her because of my feelings but Iāve learned from that. Although at the time most of what you said didnāt help me because you misunderstood our established friendship. When you "turned it back on me" that didn't work because she would contact me and reach out not only to be nice. She just never put me as a priority. You put so much of the blame on me and made me feel like an annoying girl who was just bothering someone I didn't know. Also what helped me stop thinking about her was time. Thank you for trying though I understand you respond to a lot of people because you are bored or something and you can't know everything about the situation.
(Rating: 5) Slowly but surely I am cutting those ties..I still have days where I miss the old us but I am getting more stronger every day. To where I know where my future lies and it's in me and my fiancee's hands. Thank you for all the help you do give. Blessings to you as well.
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for advice. It just sometime it feels unfair that whenever she needs it we support her, either be her breakup or advising her on her first job, connecting her with someone new in her life to move on. But i will listen to your advice. Thanks a lot. We were going to talk to her in person, because we thought she just angry, but not that seems like, not a good idea to follow upon.
(Rating: 5) This is worth trying! Thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for SO much answer! So much help
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your feedback. I would like a copy of the list if possible. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you again
(Rating: 5) Thank you! That really helped a lot and things are better for me now.
(Rating: 5) Hello, thank you for telling me your story. Your explanation on different levels of souls really helped me understand and be more forgiving. I'm not at 100% yet, but I do know that after reading your advice, I don't resent as much and I am slowly healing.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! You're very helpful.
(Rating: 1) At least read the question carefully before answering. I clearly mentioned that we see each other 2/3 times a year. And off course I met him offline. Me and my bf used live in the same city 10 years ago. We were batchmate. Then after college he got into university in another city and left. How the hell that is a online relationship! Disgusting answer!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your feedback. I thought I was in the right but sometimes in my marriage I get convinced that I am wrong it feels good to get outside help
(Rating: 5) This really meant a lot to me. Thank you! My life is so much better now because of people like you!
(Rating: 5) thank you for your kind words. I feel you understand my situation and really appreciate your advice!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much!
(Rating: 5) Itās a 4! Itās not enough for me. I guess weāll have to have yet another conversation about my needs. And about the love languages. Yes gifts are one of mine but so are words of affirmation. Itās actually number one. And i havenāt heard him tell me enough about how much he thinks about me or wants me or loves me. i do have yet to meet anyone in his life. He tells me he cares and he always enjoys his time with me. He said once āIām so feminineā which I thought was interesting. he actually gave me the love languages book. Iād heard about it and got so excited when he had the book and he let me have it. I appreciate all the effort you put into answering me. I know what i have to do. Much love ā¤ļø
(Rating: 5) thank you so much for sharing your story! and of course thank you for the advice!
(Rating: 5) This was really helpful feedback and good, positive advice. Thanks!
(Rating: 4) Actually told when younger to go ahead and do it as much as I wanted despite religion by parents but never to talk about it to others. When I give advice to others I tell them more or less that it's normal but society doesn't want us to talk about it. That's what I meant as taboo. It shouldn't be and I find women are more apt not to be comfortable as men are in talking to others. The fact she's female is not the issue it's the reaction she might have. I guess they do hear it all with doctors for every part of your anatomy.
(Rating: 5) Most amazing answer possible! Thank you!
(Rating: 5) Insurance isn't a factor. Any doctor or procedure is covered without a bill in my country. I think I need to tell my doctor what I think.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for taking so much time to answer my question! But Iām afraid i donāt think this is very helpful. As i dislike dating sites, because there is too much fakeness, creepiness And lying and inconsistency that goes on there.
(Rating: 4) The cat actually lives separate from the dogs. The dogs have the second floor. The cat has the upstairs two rooms until it's bed time. The cat doesn't get to come down here because of the dogs. My brother and mother carry her by the scruff to takeher down the stairs and into the crate avoiding any contact with the dogs. They don't interact period. I will look into talking to a vet. The only reason we have this kitten is because we rescued a stray that we found a home for. The child I mentioned missed the cat so it got this one. That may or may not turn out to be a mistake.
(Rating: 2) It seemed that this columnist did not read the entire context of the story. I had mentioned that I reached out to friends when I was obviously unwell, which had NOTHING to do with my age. The original post also mentioned that I DID reach out to and utilize the counseling of specialists and "trusted adults" - I do not need to be told to do that as that was absolutely not the question. I would not have returned to wellness if I hadn't reached out to parents, family members, and professionals. I did make the mistake of talking to friends first, which was a choice made during the single most confusing and scariest point of my life. I did not appreciate being given a "lesson" on "frontal lobes" by this columnist... I am fully aware that developing of the brain still takes place even after a certain age in which many think the development is complete, again, SO not the question. The question was in regard to whether or not I confront a specific person in the small group of people I told before receiving professional help. This "answer" hardly touched on the topic. I again questioned whether the columnist read the whole context when I read the line from the individual stating that "to find out who told him that would open a can of worms." I am well aware of who told him the information. I would know exactly who to confront or speak with. What I would have really appreciated would have been a more detailed input on WHY exactly the columnist thought it better to not open the can of worms and to "just move on," as the entire question revolved around the issue of whether or not to address this older event. The question in no way mentioned that I was CURRENTLY having psych related issues, rather that they happened a while ago, that I reached out to friends before "adults" due to my extreme unwellness, - again, if the full context was read, the columnist could see the line in which the words "I usually am particularly careful" appear. This small group friend consultation was NOT done at a time when I was mentally well, therefore it would not happen in my current day-to-day living. While I do appreciate the columnist's time in answering my post, I did not particularly care for the ways in which this person seemingly told me what to do assuming I was still having mental problems, telling me "it is up to someone your age to get this info to an adult." My psychotic break was caused by unrelenting stress during an extremely tough year, NOT MY AGE. I am well aware that "older adults" will not "criticize me for having an issue." I have recovered from this traumatic chapter and I am aware that I did so with the help of said adults BECAUSE I brought it to adults. Toward the end of the columnist's feedback there was indication that the individual recognized that the mental break was in the past, which I appreciate, but I really did not care for the telling of what to do in another "sticky situation" as I DID mention in the story that I am not one to usually spill all my secrets, stating that I usually am particularly careful. Given the fact that I am no longer in that dark space, it is obvious that I can now recall what resources to properly utilize if I am ever again unwell. I know I CAN talk to professionals, and I have, as the story states "A few people in my life are saying..." This should imply that I have outside resources, but posted on this site for extra feedback. Not because I "don't understand" how it is actually a better alternative. I REALLY did not care for the somewhat degrading verbiage in the response on the topic of using this site. Again, maybe knowing how to seek professional help would have been more fitting during the time period of my mental break, but that is not where I am at, nor is it what I am asking... Also hurtful, was the assumption towards the beginning of the answer that I eventually got help "because I told friends." That was not the case. Upon my choice to talk to adults, they recognized my mental state and helped me towards recovery. The question calls readers to advise me on handling an issue AFTER my mental break, not "tell me how to get better, or feel free to assume I did this wrong in my recovery." In regards to this topic in question, the TITLE of the context, "Should I call my friend out regarding an older issue?" The prompt calls for a columnist to focus on the question of "yes this is an older issue, it came to my mind, here is context, should it be addressed and how?" This brings me to my next point of feedback details for the columnist.. there are about 7-9 lines in their answer which detail their own personal struggles. Relatability is sometimes beneficial in some cases, and while I pray that things get better for this columnist, I did not need to know details regarding their breakup, children, or abuse. It did strike me as hypocritical as the columnist says they (presently, I can assume given the way it is written in line 3) want to commit suicide, yet is telling a person online what to do in the ways of seeking help, not seeming to recognize that help has been sought, and I am simply looking for advice on a issue I am perplexed by in the means of present interpersonal communication - NOT communication I should do with an "adult." The author also states that they are guilty in talking to friends before an older trusted adult or parent - as seen in line 3. IN CONCLUSION: I appreciate this person's time and consideration and the tiny amount of input towards the question that was provided. However, I found this response to be filled with too much "what I could have done in hindsight" advice, too much details on their personal life, seemingly incomplete reading of the posted question, and slight demeaning tone in some places. This columnist would have benefited from either reading the whole post, answering the ASKED question, or even finding a question to answer that does not relate to mental unwellness as this individual seemed to focus on that element far too much. *Suicide prevention is a call away: 1-800-273-8255 . I recognize that you gave an ANSWER NOT A QUESTION, so I don't want to be hypocritical, but given the severity of what you disclosed, I am morally obligated to somehow help. They have both English and Spanish, but I do not know the specifics of their location(s). You are worth more alive.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for answering my questionš. Iām slowly starting to be more active but Iām still having problems. Hopefully I can work it out in the future
(Rating: 5) Wow! I truly appreciate all the effort you put into answering my question. I can see a lot more clearly what is going on and why he feels this is okay behavior. Thank you for thinking very thoroughly about what you wanted to see. It is truly appreciated :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your advice! Turns out it wasn't a big deal after all,in the end, I did not use any excuses. It's not that I don't like PE, In fact, I love exercising and I'm pretty athletic as well. The thing I disliked was the work itself. I guess I was looking for excuses and I came to realize that after I posted the question....XD My mind was just beating me up since I have never purposely left a school task uncompleted. Thanks again for your advice, I am positive this advice will guide me through my education :D
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your advice. The reason why my mom doesnāt want me to have one because she believes that at my age or mentality, i am still not capable for having relationships. I already have sorted out with my boyfriend. We talked about this and eventually decided to break up, since we both know that if we continue, I am the only one that carries the consequences and guilt.
(Rating: 5) Thank you SO much <3 you really helped me so much.. YOU ARE PERFECT!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your advice. I'm very sorry it took me so long to get back to you, but I thought I'd take a little time to try some of your advice out and let you know how it was going. I've been working on talking with my SM and overcoming my fears the way you have with yours and I thinks it's going well. I'm already feeling better. I called the doctor's office back and they're in the process of getting me an appointment with a rheumatologist. Thank you again for everything, I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.
(Rating: 5) Hello, I really really appreciate you answering my question. The way he cheated was two different kisses and he had sex with one other girl. It was hard to take in because although we are just teenagers, it still stings knowing you went good enough to keep his loyalty strong. I am newly 15 and he is 16, but even the first day I met him..it was odd but it just felt like I had known him my whole life. We were just automatically in sync. No awkwardness, or shyness, weāve just always been so comfortable around eachother since the very start. So back to your answer..I donāt think we lack the friendship in the relationship. As for the āāsexuall equalā part, I canāt speak for me, and you could be right maybe this is where it all goes wrong. But I never thought sexual attraction, or attraction in general was ever a problem, or uneven. I did fib a tad bit in my question...I didnāt just find out today that this happened he told me about 4 days ago and before I came to this site I searched YouTube to see how others in my position would process and handle this. And one video in particular I remember watching was a man speaking to an audience of women who had all been cheated on. The man said āthe man does not cheat unless the relationship is lacking somethingā. So after hearing both of you two say that it is probably true. But now I just have to figure out what it is, whether itās lack of sexual desires met, something missing in me, or maybe even something missing in himself. But I donāt know.. anyway thank you again for being such a help. I will remember what you said.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. Definitely puts everything into perspective.
(Rating: 5) Thank you!! My question didn't make much sense the way I wrote it but you understood it just great!
(Rating: 5) My husband and I both have a long history of depression so I do know he is using his games to escape and he is an amazing husband. I have tried therapy more times than I'd like to admit, but I have never heard of a CBT I will have to look into that. Thank you so much for the feedback and I'm interested in the link you were talking about.
(Rating: 5) Turns out she was just really busy because they scheduled her 20 days in a row (only 40 hours worth of work though,) and my anxiety was getting the best of me. I always appreciate your advice, thank you so much.
(Rating: 5) It's like you paid attention to my every word in this- I'm glad. This really helped a lot, and for some reason you, a stranger, have given me better advice about this than anyone I've ever known for the 16 years of my life. Thanks again!
(Rating: 5) Fantastic advice Thank you!
(Rating: 4) Thank you so much for the advice since I've been vegan I've been watching videos on YouTube on how to make certain dishes it is always been my goal to make people smile and be happy when they eat and I want others to know that you can still achieve that while vegan so that'll be my goal thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much! I will use what you told me. Thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much a million times over for your beautifully constructed response in such a short amount of time. I plan to begin studying more about about cognitive brain therapy. And yes I do pray to someone/something out there that is listening she will be okay.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your answer, I really appreciate it. I got your idea and that exactly what I was thinking, I cannot handle marring him while he is suffering from depression so I decided If he did not get the treatment I wonāt marry him. Yes, he saw many doctors and they gave him medication each time he visits a new dr he says the same thing, just take these medications and u will be fine. He told me that he took the medications but non of the it helped him to overcome the depression so he said i cannot trust any doctor anymore. His Doctors were bad, they just gave him medications but did not listen to him, i think he needs both medications and someone to talk with who can get him out of this situation, I searched recently about cognitive behavioral therapy and I told him about it, but he is not convinced saying that my situation has no answer and I will just leave like this forever. He has been suffering from depression for about 7 years or less as he said, but I think he had some kind of mental illness before, since he told me every time he gets depressed he keeps thinking about his abusive father and how he was physically abused by him in his childhood. I don know how to convince him to go, as I said i came back to my country so we donāt see each other but Iāll go to him in December. i just sent him a message saying how u doing? But he didnāt read it. And about the medication, he was taking one before I go, but he stopped it. So when I was with him i gave him the medication by myself and as I said he did not have episodic coures as much as he did before. The problem is i don know if being in ldr affecting his depression or not, or he truly doesnāt love me anymore Thank you again for your answer
(Rating: 5) So itās a birthday celebration. Two daughters gave it for their mother. Your given a blank canvass, a paint brush, a dollop of 4 paint colors on a paper plate and thereās a picture pre-pencil sketched on your canvas for you to copy the original picture which is up in a screen in front of the room. Itās a paint and sip party because you bring your own wine and paint the given picture. This will cost you $40.00. All in the HAPPY BIRTHDAY theme (I guess). What exactly did the daughters do for their mother. ??? Annnd Are they expecting you to bring a gift on top of the $40.00 fee to attend?
(Rating: 5) Since I've used advicenators, I've appreciated your responses, and honestly look forward to your advice. Thank you so much. You're a lovely person.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! Excellent advice! I needed this! I am thankful for your wisdom and insight!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much, this helped a lot!
(Rating: 5) Great advice thank you
(Rating: 5) Thank you so very much for your awesome advice. I seriously didn't know about so much of what you said and have never thought of those things before. You are absolutely right and I'm so glad I came to this site for advice. Yes, I will absolutely seek counseling and get back to you sometime on how things are going. Thanks again and God bless you for your help.
(Rating: 4) Thank you
(Rating: 4) Iām not sure how you still figured out that I was the same person that wrote about my parents/credit card but thanks for the advice I did okay on the exam but got an A overall in the course, I just have high anxiety and stress over everything.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the advice. You were a big help! Fortunately, my grades are getting better and my parents didn't get mad at me for the progress report card. I told them I would try to get better grades for the final report card, and that seemed to satisfy them. Thanks again! Now I know what to do in case this happens again. :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I had decided to delete this question earlier today because I thought I would explain further in my response to your response.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! I am so glad to have someone who has experienced this help me out! It's not that I don't trust my mom, I just wanted some outsider opinions and you did just that and I am so appreciative!
(Rating: 3) We do do stuff together. We go fishing camping and he helps us all the time with our garden. Plus all if our drinking get togethers are more then just us two. It's all the neighbors.
(Rating: 4) Thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thanks, for the thoughtful and insightful responses. My sister had a full hysterectomy a few months ago, so pregnancy wouldn't be an issue. I have loved and adored her forever and I've always been a loving, protective, supportive older brother. However, as I confessed, I have secretly been in love with her since our early teens. If you were to create the absolute perfect woman for me it would always be her! However, since we were siblings, I couldnāt act on it. I have always squelched those forbidden thoughts and desires, but now being with her, finally touching her, kissing those lips, making passionate love to her, is haunting my thoughts and dreams. Again, we are both divorced and not in relationships. I want to spend a quite night with her, have a couple glasses of wine and figure out how to make a tender, loving suggestionā¦All Iāve ever wanted was to love her. She is my biggest and greatest fantasy and desire. Please, I appreciate any and all suggestions on how to thoughtfully, and lovingly proceed?
(Rating: 5) I've seen you respond to many people on this website so I was happy to see that you responded to me as well. I think what you are doing is amazing, each response is very personalized and in depth. You've definitely helped me realize a few things about relationships and I have a lot to think about. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me and many others. God Bless.
(Rating: 4) Yes I plan on giving her the distance she wants but if I donāt hear from her at all again then I know what kind of friend she is
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your wonderful answer. You have made me feel so much better about everything. I'm so glad I came to you for help and was right in thinking that you were the perfect person to help me with this problem. Thank you again and God Bless you for taking the time to read my question and give me such perfect advice.
(Rating: 2) not helpful i done kegal exercises
(Rating: 5) Thank you, I appreciate you giving me your time. Very informative about moving on, thank you again.
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for your words of wisdom!! My friend is still reeling a bit from all thatās happened/happening w/her hubby. Obviously, I do not want to be responsible for hurting her further but...well, you understand. Thank you again! I really appreciate your taking the time to give such a thoughtful, considerate response! : )
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for your advice. This topic has been painfully sitting on my mind for a long time, thank you for taking the time to share your own experience and giving me the courage to get help. I realize now that God didnāt really want me to feel embarrassed about this situation. He gave me the courage that night to get it out of my system so that I could seek help. You have no idea how much you have helped me.
(Rating: 5) wow! thank you for this wealth of information! I just wanted to clarify that I lost my real mom when I was just a baby. She is my stopmom but technically adopted me. I just wanted to clarify because I don't like her getting the "credit" of giving birth to me. I love her like a mom and she's the person who raised me, but that official official seat of "mom" is taken in my heart :). Thank you, once again. This was very helpful and a wakeup call to me that I am enabling the problem instead of helping.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I donāt feel sexually attracted to random females nor her so I guess I know how I feel.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for some creative ways to get out of a sticky situation this year. I sincerely appreciate you taking time to help me sort through this!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the reassurance. It was helpful. However, she decided to stay with him, which now makes me feel like I have wasted so much energy/emotions in this. :(
(Rating: 5) Thank u so much
(Rating: 4) Yeah I did driving classes already itās just the physical lessons now. I watched a YouTube tutorial on how to check my middle mirror and blind spots while signaling I hope I can actually do it in person. As for finding another relative my aunt that lives near by doesnāt drive either she takes public transit so my only hope is my dads car. I think youāre right I might have to just request for a new instructor
(Rating: 5) THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!š Can you believe he posted a picture on whatsapp licking a girls āu know whatā wow the picture lasted like a week or 2 there then he put a picture of a little girl. I dont k ow who she is because he told me he didnāt have kids. I trusted him on what he was telling me and i kinda liked him. Wow
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the kind words. I have forgiven her, but that doesnāt mean I will ever trust her again or even truly be friends again. She lost that. Iām sorry of what you had to experience as well. Thank you!
(Rating: 5) I have some more questions and things that I did leave out: his parents do know about his suicidal tendencies and he is in counseling (or at least was), it is just the one time that they did not know (which does not make it better but he is getting help). But how would I go for the sending guy if he is close friends with Sam? Also thank you so much for your feedback it was really helpful and I really do appreciate you spending your time to help.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your wise advice. I agree with you. I would really appreciate your list- please could you send it to jdstardust12@gmail.com
(Rating: 5) Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are right- it is always possible to choose the life I want to live, whether other people understand or not.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your wonderful advice. It's was extremely helpful and I will absolutely use it. You have made me feel much better about my problem and I really appreciate it. Thanks again.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, tonight heās out doing the same thing, while Iām home aggravated, and upset. I wrote him a letter to explain my feelings. Iām scared to lose him, but I know youāre right. Thank you
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much. That gives me a lot of confidence. I now feel, hearing the word 'unlucky' affected my mind more than I actually realized until now. I will start interacting more with my lab mates. I hope I will overcome all my fears. Yes, you are right. I have a mixed fear and I thought that no one can understand the nature of my fear and think that I am stupid, if I talk about my fears.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I didn't know with being active could delay it as well. He didn't touch himself before hand. I always get nervous with sex
(Rating: 5) Thank you so very much. You have helped me more than you will ever know. God Bless you. :)
(Rating: 3) ty
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the advice
(Rating: 5) True. It could be some kind of anxiety type attack. She creates tense situations, then can't handle it. I can't call 911 every time because she turns around scolds us for calling them. Also saying that its $ and that they won't come when there is a REAL emergency. She'll even go as far as not talking to us for a couple of days if we disobey. I don't want to try to get her to take pills cause they have sideffects. Plus, they only cover up the symptom. They don't address the problem. She did go to a shrink once and she didn't go a second time because she said she just got criticized and attacked (typical). Thank you for your input.
(Rating: 5) thank you for advice
(Rating: 4) I really really hope I get a second chance to talk to him. And yes Iād be happy to hear some how you overcame that
(Rating: 5) Thank you- I thought so. Your advice cleared up the situation for me
(Rating: 4) I did apologize to her the year she cut me off but she didnāt accept the apology. Then a year later she started talking to me like nothing happened until her and friend B got in a fight again and she just stopped talking to me with no explaination. Itās not that I want the friendship back itās just I keep seeing her everywhere on social media because I still follow people from high school and itās getting annoying
(Rating: 5) My parents didnāt marry young, matter of fact the only reason why my dad is acting like this is because all my friends are in relationships and heās tired of me always being the third friend. Heās always telling me he wants me to experience things but he should just back off and yes Iād be happy if you shared thank you
(Rating: 4) Well my wife went through with it. I didn't participate but I wasn't going to leave my wife alone with a strange guy so I watched. The guy was as ok as could be expected. He even brought condoms. This still didn't make it at all ok to me. My wife was shy at first until he gave her oral. Then she did almost everything you could imagine. The guy wanted to do anal but at least she told him no on that. I wanted so bad to leave but I couldn't in good conscience. Truthfully it was sickening. As bad as I thought. After the guy was gone and my wife got out of the shower she came to me and saw how upset I was. She broke down and said she was sorry and didn't like it but I know that's not true as she had several orgasms. She promised me she would never ask or want to do it again. I feel dead inside. I don't feel the same for her. I don't know what to do.
(Rating: 4) Thank you
(Rating: 5) Thabks for the advice turns out it was a success I made two friends there just because all three of us didnāt know anyone else except the host
(Rating: 5) See, the test proves he loves me as he does all of those things and very frequently, might I add. Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm just being selfish but I can't help my feelings. He and his mom are both from another country and while their entire family still lives in their country of origin and they are the only two living in the states and with her being single, I know that her son is one of the most important and only things she has left. But that still doesn't make it easier on me, if this were to continue. But thank you so much, this helps me a great deal and I appreciate it so much!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for this. You have given my predicament a lot of thought and I really appreciate your understanding and help. The letter will get sent out this weekend (as soon as I get it written) and I will follow with a phone call. I know you wish me luck :<) .
(Rating: 5) You always give me advice, and It's always helpful and insightful. I've been asking questions for five years now and I've never said thank you. Thank you, so much!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for being specific. I've met him in person at college in a while back when I was 20. And he's a couple of months younger than me. At the time that I met him, I just broke up with a guy that I was seeing for the summer and some of winter. I moved back to where he is with my family and met him while I was going to school at the time. He knew that I liked him and I think he just recently broke up with a girl as well. Sounds like it might have been around the same time as me. So, we both probably would have "rebound" if that makes sense. I messaged him a lot and I think that was what scared him away and he got annoyed. Starting being mean to me. So, I backed off for a while and we re-connected. We apologized to each other and I guess wanted to be friends. I hung out with him maybe a couple of times in the past. He's mentioned we've talked for years on and off. Said it was nice but also a tease. He's also invited me over and I rejected him because I thought it was too late. Sometimes we try to hang out. I think I have told him I'm not in it for sex. I'm pretty sure he gets that and respects that. He seems like he'd be a decent guy. I remember thinking I thought he was beyond his years when he was 19. I admired him. What is the column you are talking about? Yeah I haven't hung out with him for years, I think he is shy. I am nervous to hang out with him and have yet to. I just hope he likes me. But right now I would like to take a break from talking to him. I've done this before and he will ask me stuff like "I'm surprised you haven't been online." I do have a couple of dating books. But, right now I wouldn't mind being his friend first to feel him out first and I don't necessary want to say I want something just yet. If he brings it up, that's a sign, but, I just don't know what to do.
(Rating: 4) Thank you for the advice and I do at times bring this up and he say he is not changing his mindset and we do honestly have great times like he is everything I look for to humor, goal driven, and everything it is just that one issue i feel he might need to compromise with, but thank you I really do appreciate the advice.
(Rating: 5) He hasn't been using my flight benefits. His family says he hardly leaves the house. When I went through the list. All of these add up and on paper it seems great. The only one is the priority one because I don't feel like he is working on our relationship to come see me. Thanks so much.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, I needed to hear this in the way you explained it.