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Last night i was on my bf fb and i seen a message he sent to a girl saying "happy birthday cute girl" then she replies with "thank you" then he told her "you welcome" & he put a whinky face. & he searches for her on fb everytime & likes her pics! Am so sad. What should i do?
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Well I don't want you to jump into conclusions here. You need to ask yourself first if you are feeling secure in this relationship. This could either be a red flag that you should look out for or it could simply mean nothing.
My boyfriend has a lot of female friends, he has nicknames for them on his cellphone like "pretty X" or "cute Y" He talks with them for hours on the phone, they go out together and hangout a lot. But that doesn't worry me at all. I know him very well, I know he's faithful and I feel secure, that's just how he is, and I can't tell you how many times he's been misunderstood for being "nice". To tell you the truth it gets pretty exciting and funny when a girl could even think she could have him but as soon as he realizes that he might have given the wrong impression his attitude would shift from nice to "check out this hot girl I'm with, she's mine and i love her and no one could compete with her"
That's what you need to believe. Trust that no one could compete with you, he'll believe so too. =)
keep me posted xx
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Sounds a little like he's flirting with her, but then again, I could be wrong considering I don't know you or your boyfriend at all. My suggestion is for you to maybe bring it up? In a non confrontational way (he might just get really defensive and ignore all allegations). But do you think it's part of his personality? Like to be bubbly and flirtatious because some people can't help it. But regardless of what his personality is like, I don't think that this is an appropriate way for him to act.
I hope this helps! X
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For all you know this girl could be a cousin or a childhood friend! "Thank you" and "you are welcome" does not sound like flirting to me! If he was trying to hide something he wouldn't post where you could see it on fb would he? Why don't you just casually ask him "oh, who is that, she's cute!" He will tell you who she is and how he knows her and then hopefully you can let it go! There is no reason to be sad! You are looking for trouble where there isn't any. If your guy wanted to date HER then he wouldn't be dating YOU now would he? Getting all jealous and possessive scares guys away very quickly so please don't come off like that no matter what he tells you about her. I really don't think you have anything to worry about!Good luck!
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guy can and will ask a female to not even look at another guy. Some very abusive husbands and boyfriends have beaten their ladys even if they imagined she did this.
Its better that you learn to be secure in who you are, confident that not just one guy I think I will turn that question back on you for a moment before I share....what do you think you should do? Has a dating crime been committed? If you are both young and fairly new to dating, meaning not out of high school yet, you may not have thought it necessary to discuss some boundaries that you both agree to and accept in this dating relationship. Each of you would express what you are comfortable with and what you would feel is actions you won't tolerate.
Let me re-word it this way, if during your years of growing up at home, the parents never set any rules or boundaries, how would you know if you were breaking any? Would it be fair for the parents to punish you or point out you did something wrong if it was never ever spelled out?
Dating relationships are the same. The object of the game when starting our first couple dating relationships is not to see how long we can stay a couple but to find the right partner for ourselves. Without having ever been in multiple relationships, how would you be able to make comparisons as far as what things you like in someones character, and what you will not tolerate in how they treat you, good or bad personality traits? You can't just know this from observing someone at school or work. It takes hanging out with them a lot more and thats what dating is for. And that is why breakups in dating is inevitable, can't be avoided if a person is truly always looking for their next person being a step better until they are old enough and ready for marriage and then very selectively begin a search for the person who is going to be their life long partner.
I know this is not answering your question yet but i feel you will need that background on what dating is. So there can be dating where no specific commitment is being made to one person and there can be committed dating where both have discussed they will not date or hang out alone with another female, even just a friend or whatever the rules between the couple are. Some women expect their guy to not talk to any other female, or look at.
That however is not cheating or doing anything wrong. Usually those rules are made by girl or the guy if either is insecure about themselves and how important they are to the other person.
You might want to have a talk with him, tell him what you saw and ask him who she is. Ask in a curious voice, not a voice where you sound jealous, upset, suspicious or any other negative thing, and certainly dont talk as if
interrogating him or he will not be truthful with you for fear of upsetting you. If she is just a friend he grew up with, another classmate, a cousin...it would be good to know. Ask if he want s to be able to date around, several different people until he has decided who he wants to commit to or if he's ready to be committed to just dating you. If so, then talk over some guidelines between you. good luck.
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Wow. You're a jealous wreck. Haha, I sorry if that sounded mean- just trying to lighten the mood.
But honestly, there is no reason for you to feel "so sad"... My friends boyfriends' sound exactly like your boyfriend and my friends don't get so jealous.
Please communicate with him and say that you'd really feel more comfortable if he wasn't so attentive of other girls and you'd really appreciate it if he wasn't super flirty with them, calling them cute and basically stalking and liking all of their pictures.
Anyway, good luck and please do not do something really stupid and overprotective that you will regret. Just talk to him. If he doesn't change, and by any chance he does cheat on you WHICH HE WON'T- then you know what to do.
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz
P.S. Why were you on you're boyfriends' facebook? If he didn't let you log on to facebook and you were on it because you were jealous then you have some serious trust issues girl...
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