I've had my fair share of good and bad experiences. I'm honest with myself so I'm gonna be honest with you. I might be a little sarcastic, it's not personal though it just gets the point across.
I love work, friends and the hubby. In the afternoons I love my wine and books. On the weekends I love seeing my friends and cooking for them.
Ask me anything :)
Cheers xx
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So I met a guy a couple months ago. He asked me out and we've been going on dates since. We're not official but we are seeing each other exclusively. I've met his friends and he said they all want to meet me. I've gone to his house and his roommate had said that he's been talking to her about you and she's happy she finally got to meet me.
He's sweet, he randomly surprises me with coffee at work and small things like that.
Bottom line is that he's a great guy, I like him, and it's going well.
The other night I went to his place for the first time and watched movies and we did end up kissing and he did say he'll go with whatever I'm comfortable with.
I know if I was giving advice to this answer, I'd pretty much say that if you're comfortable, trust him, take precautions like birth control and condoms, you feel ready to take that step, and you want to, then you should.
It's just a little different than what I'm used to though. Like my past relationships, I knew them a lot longer and was friends with them beforehand. This time I met the guy a couple months ago and here we are.
How long did you wait before having sex with someone? I know each person is different. And any other advice to give? (link)
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I didn't wait to have sex with a guy I met 2 years ago. I remember it was the 2nd month and we did it. But we were exclusive too and it was explicitly mentioned that we were. This man is now my husband and he was also my first.
It differs on you, on the partner, on the intentions, on the needs and desires. You decide.
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Hi first off I'm a female adult, but still a young one living at home attending college. And I apologize for the long inquiry
My entire life I've been abused ( physically, sexually, and emotionally) by people my own age that I trusted. Ever since I can remember I've preferred associating with people older than me, they treat me better, make me feel safe, and I relate better to them. This also counts for guys I am attracted to. Unfortunately this has become a very big issue with people. People I know close to my age, and even my own mother, have started degrading me for my feelings. I'm called a slut for liking older guys (yes even by my mother) and pathetic for having older friends. My mom makes it a weekly point to remind me that none of my older friends like me, because what could they see in me, and that it's pathetic that I think they do....Are they all right? Am I really a freak for preferring older friends? A slut for liking older (10-15 years) guys? I can't tell anymore. (link)
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Every person has their preferences but do you imagine by the time you're only 40 your partner would be 50 55 years old? If this doesn't matter to you by all means be my guest. If you're only hanging it on your past please don't. I've been abused by my brother (sexually) and physically by my father. I live in a developing country where men harass women on the street for fun. I'm married now to a lovely man 4 years older than me. Even though my parents refused him for financial reasons but I managed to move out and marry on my own.
What I'm saying is I used to feel unsafe due to the abuse that happened to me in the past. But please don't take the easy way out of hiding under the shadow of an older person. Just be yourself.
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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seriously...
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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Are you sure you wanna keep a baby while you're growing up? What about school? Do you wanna have your little 3 year old boy/girl at your prom? What about graduation after college? Are you sure you wanna be writing your thesis or graduation paper with a kid screaming in the background?
Being a parent is wonderful, that's why your parents adopted you, but they were ready.
Are you ready?
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Hello!
As the headline says, im trying to be a better man, and being able to do some self defense is never bad idea. I heared that some martial arts are tied with some sort of philosophy and through it teaching other things for life then just "beating people" (because beating people is NOT my desire in the first place). I will be most grateful if you give me any suggestions i could follow.
Thank you! (link)
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Hi there! I heard that Tai Chi is for that purpose. Check out types of martial arts here and see for yourself
http://www.encyclopedia.com/topic/martial_arts.aspx
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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi there,
I could understand your frustration, and my answer here would go on so many levels.
First off there's a difference between having sexual experiences for fun, and having a sexual experiences when you're in love with someone. (that goes for both men and women) While there's also no shame in having sexual experiences without being in love, you need to ask yourself if you're ok with that or not. Each one of us have their certain limitations of what they can/can't accept, as long as you're being honest with yourself. So here are a couple of questions you need to ask yourself to make sure you're ok with this:
Was there a relationship or an emotional connection between her and these guys?
If not, was it in her past? or if she's involved with someone she won't do stuff with other guys?
Am I OK with her past?
If I were in here shoes, how would I feel if someone broke up with me based on this? (people usually have their reasons)
In the meantime if you don't think you can do that, or if you think that's what she's like and you are not ok with who she is, then don't go against your nature.
good luck
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Thank you but is this going to effect my menstrual cycle and is there any chance that I could be pregnant ??because I hope I'm not (link)
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Just wait till you get your period, although it could be a bit late cause you are stressing yourself. Plus you can't get pregnant by just having a penis touch the outside of your vagina without him cumming. did he come on you?
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Hello. I'm 20 and my bf is 22. We have been dating for a year now and some months. We are deeply in love and he's the best thing that's has ever happened to me. I love him will my all and he's also my best friend. We are very opened with each other's and he's the one I run to when something is bothering me or when I have a problem. He is so loving and supporting and caring. How do I show him that I truly appreciate him or what can I tell him to let him know that I appreciate and thankful that's he's part of my life? Any advise would really help.
Thank you so much in advance (link)
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Hi dear,
sounds like you're a lucky girl, so first things first: make sure you actually truly appreciate him and you don't just want to "show appreciation". Having this point established correctly you will find yourself doing all sorts of stuff to show him appreciation.
Simple things please men, like a statement Tshirt, his favorite perfume, if he lives alone drop by make him dinner, and have a romantic one on one cozy home date (that's if you are both at this level). Design a handmade thank you card.
There are a million things to do. browse the internet you might find something you like. Get creative and stay in love =)
Best of luck
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Hi, I'm Cathy, 14 from Texas.
I have had my period for a year and it's not regular at all. I've missed around 6.
I need help about tampons, and I have not tried them yet.
I tried to put one in and it burned like something else, and it really hurt after.
Please help, what do I do about the tampons,
Cathy
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Hi Cathy,
I have heard that tampons can be a bit painful/ burn in the beginning. Why don't you check with your gynecologist? there's nothing wrong with being a teen and visiting one, it's healthy. Plus they could tell you if your skin is too sensitive for them and would advise you with alternatives.
best of luck xx
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I'm 16 years old & I'm a virgin. A week ago I was in bed with a guy & we we making out & he fingered me. This was my first time being fingered & his penis touched the outside of my vagina but we didn't have sex. The next day I had stomach cramps & got worse everyday. Now my breasts are kinda sore & I have really bad abdominal pain. PLEASE HELP ME! I need advice. I have no one to talk to about this. Should I worry that I might be pregnant ?? I'm really nervous!! (link)
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Hi darling,
That's probably hormones or you just freaking out. It's normal with some ladies to get some sort of pains after the first (or a couple of firsts) sexual contact (that doesn't mean the full intercourse) cause it's something new to your muscles and hormones.
Relax and always make your guy wear a condom even if you're just fooling around.
Take care
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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Hi dear,
First off, being a virgin or not is totally your choice. You don't have to beat yourself up on that. If it makes you feel better I'm 26 and I'm a virgin.
Second, don't judge yourself cause you did something you liked, so what you dated a guy fooled around with? no big deal =)
Oral sex has been shown to be a less risky activity, but it is not risk free. The risk of HIV being passed on during oral sex centres on fluid containing HIV (semen, vaginal fluid or blood) finding a way into the bloodstream of an HIV-negative person (via the mouth or throat, which is more likely if there is inflammation, or cuts or sores present). HIV is not passed on through exposure to saliva alone, so a person with HIV performing oral sex on someone who is HIV negative is considered to be very low risk. "source: http://www.aidsmap.com/Oral-sex/page/1044877/"
So try to relax until you get tested and let me know how it goes.
One last thing, but that again is just to be on the safe side no judgements what so ever: please before you engage in any sort of sexual act, try to get the guy tested before and have yourself regularly checked up. Just to be safe.
Best of luck
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Last night i was on my bf fb and i seen a message he sent to a girl saying "happy birthday cute girl" then she replies with "thank you" then he told her "you welcome" & he put a whinky face. & he searches for her on fb everytime & likes her pics! Am so sad. What should i do? (link)
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Well I don't want you to jump into conclusions here. You need to ask yourself first if you are feeling secure in this relationship. This could either be a red flag that you should look out for or it could simply mean nothing.
My boyfriend has a lot of female friends, he has nicknames for them on his cellphone like "pretty X" or "cute Y" He talks with them for hours on the phone, they go out together and hangout a lot. But that doesn't worry me at all. I know him very well, I know he's faithful and I feel secure, that's just how he is, and I can't tell you how many times he's been misunderstood for being "nice". To tell you the truth it gets pretty exciting and funny when a girl could even think she could have him but as soon as he realizes that he might have given the wrong impression his attitude would shift from nice to "check out this hot girl I'm with, she's mine and i love her and no one could compete with her"
That's what you need to believe. Trust that no one could compete with you, he'll believe so too. =)
keep me posted xx
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i am 15 years old and i have a bf we have been together for 9 month and some days we havent been seeing each for a while but it seem like the less were together the futher were moving apart what should i do (link)
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Hi dear,
I don\'t know how deep is the relationship between you two. Yet i want you to evaluate this situation.
Is that what you want from a boyfriend? Do you want to keep queationing things all the time? This could lead to insecurity in your relationship.
You\'re a strong lady. Take the emotions out of the equation and think about what you want
Include him in your final evaluation of the situation. How it made you feel and how it made you see things
Good luck
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Which destination is best to visit in summer vacations? (link)
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Depends on where you live?
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what should i give my boyfriend on his birthday? he dont like to play games or he dont like sports, he is different, what should i give him as his birthday gift? (link)
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I agree with the DIY part or customize something.
A friend of mine got her guy customized drumsticks with his name on it and stuff.
I once customized a key chain for my boyfriend with his favorite lyrics on it. I put it in a box with a lot of colorful notes, each note had a word on it or something i like about him. He loved it.
Be creative hun
Angie xx
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Hey, I'm 16, a Junior in High School. I've never had what has even come close to a relationship in my life. Honestly, I dont know what my problem is. Im about 6 foot and, I mean, Im slightly heavy but really its not noticeable when I have a shirt on. I dress casually but nicely, all my clothes fit me well, I don't smell, and I dont harbor disgusting habits (minus biting my nails, but thats not too terrible).
On the personality side of things, I talk to a wide variety of people. Nerdy, sporty, drama-y, and of both genders. However, I've only ever had very few close friends, and those I talk to I strictly make small talk to at school, nothing further, no texting or calling or anything.
I'm a pretty happy guy in general, I crack jokes every once in a while. I carry myself confidently, even though on the inside I'm super insecure. I make good eye contact and smile when I do it, and regularly compliment the girls I usually talk to (I have a crush on one of them).
What's my problem? I think it might be something along the lines of the fact that I might have some kind of crippling fear of rejection, which might be why I never move my relationships past casual aquiantances.
Also I'm a male. (link)
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Hey,
I don't think you have problems "blending" with your colleagues and friends at school.
If you wanna develop friendships further, try to find common interests. If you both like music, get music classes together. If you like sports, play sports together. etc. It'll come on its own cause friendships develop they don't just come along.
Think of all those people, even the girl you have a crush on, as nice friends you're getting to know to broaden your social circle and gain more social experience. Don't think too much about "your problem" cause I don't think you have one.
Your only problem to me is you might be over-thinking or over-analyzing. It's completely fine that some people like you, some won't. You will like some people, you won't like some others. that's normal cause we're not perfect.
Keep me posted
Angie xx
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K so a few months ago, there was this thing between me and this guy at school. He lead me on and and I initiated some as well. So when he made further plans if we could go on a date and stuff, i of course said yes. But then
when it came closer to the date, a few days before it he cancelled and bailed on me and said that he just couldn't go through with it at the moment cause he still had feelings for this girl that he never went out with. So of course I felt hurt and disappointed , but eventually I moved on and didnt give a crap about him. But then today, he came up to me after weeks of not talking to each other and asked if we could talk. He said that he did a lot of thinking and that he wanted to give us a try again and said that he was really sorry of what happened.
So then he asked if we could go on a date, and of course me not wanting to say no and disappoint him I said yes... It was a spur of the moment kind of thing . So now here after a few hours of thinking I just don't have a good feeling about it.. Like now I just keep doubting that I may not have that same strong feelings for him as before ... Help !
P.s that girl never liked him back in the first place and he supposedly told me that that girl now has a boyfriend and that he and her are now on good terms and are friends (link)
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Hey hun,
You sound confused. Do you like him much?
Whether you do or not my advice to you would be to call him up and apologize sweetly. You don't seem up for it anyway. Tell him "hey I would have loved to go out but something came up and I have to cancel"
If he goes like yea it's ok see you around, this means he's just spending time. If you won't go out with him he'd find another girl to go out with, no big deal for him.
If HE says something in the lines of "well let's plan another date" then you should give him 2 days in which you are available and he shall choose one. "I'm free on x and y." He shall choose the day and take it from here.
So we're basically giving him the benefit of the doubt and in the meantime we don't wanna give the message that we're at his beck and call.
Keep me posted hun
Best of luck
Angie xx
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15/f so i started talking to this guy alot around the beginning of Oct and we texted all the time like everyday all the time, and we were really comfortable around each other i felt like he was a brother to me i could tell him anything and i trusted him as a friend. but at the same time i just came out of a really bad estranged werid reltionship with my dad that i ended right before we really started talking. so that whole bad reltionship made me not trust guys at all or want to give them a chance and evrything a guy did i would associate it with my dad, like basically me thiking all guys are bad and i wouldnt allow myself to flirt with them, even though im not a big flirt either way. but anyway once we became good friends he told me over text he liked me and i was kind caught off guard but then two days later i told him i liked him too. and he didnt ask me out but a few days before he wanted to hookup but it never happened, but we were thinking about the friends with benefits thing. so then everything was going fine and we liked each other but when we went back to school i saw him flirting with other girls like my ex-best friend right in front of me. hes a huge flirt and i think he was doing it to make me jealous even tho i never gave him a reaction. so then i just called it off saying this is just getting too weird lets go back to being friends becasue i dont like fighting with you and i want to be just friends again and hes like yeah i agree. so everything went back to normal. but then not even a month later he told me he liked me again, but i think he never stopped liking me. but because the first time i thought he was way too flirty with other girls and i felt stupid i didnt tell him the second time around that i liked him too, becasue i felt like why would i put myself in that position for you to hurt me again like no. so basically the first time he just came out and told me but the second time he was giving me hints for like a day and say he likes somebody but he wouldnt say who when obvioulsy it was me and i kow he was afraid of being rejected and in the end i rejected him without even thinking about it even though i liked him. and that was since two months ago. since then our conversations are awkward and whenever i see him in school we just dont talk. but the other day i said hey or whatever and he texted me like the next day, meanwhile he hasnt texted me in like almost a month and as soon as i said something he texted me. also i think hes always been very intimated by me and always get nervous around me. do you think we can go back to being friends like we were before? i just dont want it to be awkward anymore. should i just act like nothing happened and start talking to him more? thankyou! (link)
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Hey hun,
The best thing you do is be upfront. If you think you have the courage to tell him "I think we should just forget about all what happened and start over as friends it would be great cause you're a good friend of mine."
I suggest you do that if you're keen on keeping him as a friend and if you really don't see him in a romantic way anymore. Cause if you still see him in a romantic way and you just wanna get back talking to him hoping that a spark might happen in the future then you're not being honest with yourself.
Be honest with yourself, Be honest with him and straight forward.
He could react in a mature manner and be friends again, or he could be immature about it and say ok and still flirt with you. Then you should know it's a no no and he's not even worth the friendship.
Be assertive my dear.
Keep me posted
Cheers xx
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Hi guys.. I met in end of october in the airport a beautiful young girl of 26 (half from Japan and half from Jordan) with her son of two years. After some weeks we connected a lot through sms and we chatted for hours with jokes. And then we met for first date and she kissed me. She is a traditional value girl and she said she kissed me because she wants something serious between us. Afterwards we had many dates and the passion,the connection was there and still there. The problem is that she told me after the second date she does not know if it is good to start a relationship now because she was married but was separated with her ex husband and they do not have any attraction whatsoever, but she thought to try again to be back with him for the last time. This guy was so bad to her and she even do not like him but she says for the kid they have together she wanted to try for the last time. She planned that a bit before she met me. And now I am there and she had a crash on me. She also said that she need to be focus for sometimes for her business too.She says her ex who they are separated but not divorced yet will harm me if he learn that i am with her because he is jealous. but they have no physical contact for 3 years and dont live together. it is a traditional family with muslim value. she told me last time that she loves me and i mean so much for her. She told me since mid november that we need to take a break. But i did not accepted because her reason to try to go back with somebdoy she does not love was ludacris for me. And she is not sure she can do that and sometimes she say she want to try how a single life is, but i knew she was separated from her husband for 3 years. so why need single life when she loves me.I was scared to lose her because she told me if her love grow at a point she will stay with me that is why i tried to charm her and always she want it a break but the next day she invite me, we kiss, there is a strong passion.. i continue like that until now , we travelled , we had sex ,everything, and yet she talk about the break. She told me now she loves me really. Today she told me we need to stop now because she loves me very much. i dont wanna stop then. but i do not pressure her ever. when i call her she does not complain and want to meet me so it is a weird situation. She said if she calm down and found that her ex husband will not be back and she is less stress in her biz , she will be there for me and we can get back and have a real relationship. but is too much if. My game plan is since she is passionated about us, and since i know if she loves me soo much she will not leave me. so i want to not accept it and as usual charm her meet her and make sure she loves me more because it will not take time before it happens.I know she wants me so bad but she is insecured, but at the same time i am worry she can be serious one day and leave me. I know she has this passion and love me so i feel it will not happen but we never know. SO SHOULD I KEEP BE WITH HER, INVITE HER GO OUT OR SHOULD I ACCEPT TO BREAK OR BREAKUP FOR SOMETIMES AND LEAVE HER ALONE? WHAT IS THE BEST SOLUTION BASED ON MY SITUATION.
Thanks
C (link)
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Hey C,
She sounds like a sensitive unique lady, which is wonderful. But I'm assuming she'd be wanting to give her ex husband especially they have a child. The kid might be so attached to the father maybe? or even the mother herself.
At any rate, it's your choice. If you walk out you'll be able to start anew and meet someone who feels the same for you and wouldn't wanna let you go. If you stay, you might be caught up in this triangle for quite some time. How do you wanna live?
Keep me posted
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okay so im lost in a world full of men who love love love bitches? sounds weird right? but true. i don't know how to play "the game" making him chase you showing him other guys want you and all that jazz. like wait for 5 dates to have sex or..call him after 3. text him after 10 mins all these stupid rules. if i like a guy i dont care i'll text u when i want to.. i dont consider myself klingy.. but guys get scared im straight up hey i like you..yet they run because im upfront. and i notice guys love materialistic girls. i don't mind paying and what not. and these girls who use guys for money end up getting the guy? and when girls are bitchy guys are like puppies. im so confused its so easy getting a guy to be interested but then this game is suppose to start with all these bullshit rules? should i start playing this stupid game? because apparently straight forward no mixed messaged stuff scares guys off? (link)
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Hey hun,
You are what you attract. If you play games you'll attract a guy who plays games. If you're genuine you'll attract a guy who's genuine.
I understand where you come from and I admire your personality, straight forward and upfront.
Yet it's a rule of nature unfortunately that guys like to chase, they're hunters by nature. I won't tell you to act cause obviously you won't. All I would tell you is to be who you are, have lots of activities and hobbies, friends and social life. And whenever you feel that a guy likes you let him do the work, Trust me you'll enjoy it. Just sit and watch like a princess while he's doing all the running after you. Cause that's what men are.
You might wanna hold your horses when you like a guy, only until he proves he's worthy to hear it.
If you think of it this way, you'll be playing hard to get without even noticing.
Keep me posted
cheers xx
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