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How to show appreciation to my boyfriend
Hello. I'm 20 and my bf is 22. We have been dating for a year now and some months. We are deeply in love and he's the best thing that's has ever happened to me. I love him will my all and he's also my best friend. We are very opened with each other's and he's the one I run to when something is bothering me or when I have a problem. He is so loving and supporting and caring. How do I show him that I truly appreciate him or what can I tell him to let him know that I appreciate and thankful that's he's part of my life? Any advise would really help.
Thank you so much in advance
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There are many ways to show a person how special they are to you. Ways that are best repeated throughout the relationship rather than done just once or twice. All of them are good, but the ones that make the biggest impact upon the recieiver are the ways that are most meaningful to them. If a person never receives love shown in the way that is strongest in meaning to them but recieves attention other ways that are still good but not as meaningful, they can feel neglected or unimportant at times. What I am talking about is something called the Love Languages, written by Gary Chapman. You can get the book or read something about it on line. The 5 love languages are words of affirmation, quality time together, giving gifts, acts of service, physical touch.
We tend to communicate to our partner with the love languages that are most meaningful to us but may not be to them.
Here's a description of the different love languages. You may be able to figure out yours without any problem and perhaps also those of your boyfriend. However i am also adding a link to an on line question survey to help you figure out which one you are. I am happily married the second time around to a man who shows me all those love languages except the giving of gift s which is rare for him. Luckily gifts is not one of mine either.
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My opinion is that this information will be the most helpful to you in coming up with ways to show your appreciation to your boyfriend. Once you've determined his primary and secondary love languages, if you still need ideas within those frameworks to come up with, let me know and i'd be glad to help.
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When two people are truly in love; to me it is not so much what you do but how you do it that shows how much you love someone. I'm not really sure how to go about clarifying what I just said as it mostly intrinsic rather than materialistic.
I guess what I'm saying is it is easy enough to go out and buy a trinket, even expensive trinkets or tokens of affection. The better way of showing your love is through personal affection which does not mean grabbing him and hauling him into the bedroom. That is sex which is another form of love.
IT's the little things like being a listener when he needs one, mending a sock, cooking him dinner not having to be taken out on the town on each date. Just wanting to be in his company and not having to be a high maintenance girlfriend.
This to me is what is important in a relationship. Is the guy only looking for a buggy ride, sex. Is the girl only looking for a good time on the town. This to me is not the making for a good relationship. Yes sex does play a part in a good relationship but should not be the center of the relationship. Going out and having a good time is also part of a good relationship but so should sitting home and snuggling on the couch with a good movie and a gallon of ice cream.
This may sound old fashion though in the end this is what most relationships turn into when they become long term or lifelong relationships. You stay home most evenings on weekends you have friends over or go to friends home.
I think what I am trying to say is show him you want to make a life with him if this is what you want. Doing so does not mean gift buying. IT means doing things to show him how you feel about him. Remember the value of the gift is in the giving not in the cost of the gift. If he does not understand this then he may not be the right guy.
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Hi dear,
sounds like you're a lucky girl, so first things first: make sure you actually truly appreciate him and you don't just want to "show appreciation". Having this point established correctly you will find yourself doing all sorts of stuff to show him appreciation.
Simple things please men, like a statement Tshirt, his favorite perfume, if he lives alone drop by make him dinner, and have a romantic one on one cozy home date (that's if you are both at this level). Design a handmade thank you card.
There are a million things to do. browse the internet you might find something you like. Get creative and stay in love =)
Best of luck
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