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I dont know where my relationship stands with this guy....!
15/f so i started talking to this guy alot around the beginning of Oct and we texted all the time like everyday all the time, and we were really comfortable around each other i felt like he was a brother to me i could tell him anything and i trusted him as a friend. but at the same time i just came out of a really bad estranged werid reltionship with my dad that i ended right before we really started talking. so that whole bad reltionship made me not trust guys at all or want to give them a chance and evrything a guy did i would associate it with my dad, like basically me thiking all guys are bad and i wouldnt allow myself to flirt with them, even though im not a big flirt either way. but anyway once we became good friends he told me over text he liked me and i was kind caught off guard but then two days later i told him i liked him too. and he didnt ask me out but a few days before he wanted to hookup but it never happened, but we were thinking about the friends with benefits thing. so then everything was going fine and we liked each other but when we went back to school i saw him flirting with other girls like my ex-best friend right in front of me. hes a huge flirt and i think he was doing it to make me jealous even tho i never gave him a reaction. so then i just called it off saying this is just getting too weird lets go back to being friends becasue i dont like fighting with you and i want to be just friends again and hes like yeah i agree. so everything went back to normal. but then not even a month later he told me he liked me again, but i think he never stopped liking me. but because the first time i thought he was way too flirty with other girls and i felt stupid i didnt tell him the second time around that i liked him too, becasue i felt like why would i put myself in that position for you to hurt me again like no. so basically the first time he just came out and told me but the second time he was giving me hints for like a day and say he likes somebody but he wouldnt say who when obvioulsy it was me and i kow he was afraid of being rejected and in the end i rejected him without even thinking about it even though i liked him. and that was since two months ago. since then our conversations are awkward and whenever i see him in school we just dont talk. but the other day i said hey or whatever and he texted me like the next day, meanwhile he hasnt texted me in like almost a month and as soon as i said something he texted me. also i think hes always been very intimated by me and always get nervous around me. do you think we can go back to being friends like we were before? i just dont want it to be awkward anymore. should i just act like nothing happened and start talking to him more? thankyou!
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Hey hun,
The best thing you do is be upfront. If you think you have the courage to tell him "I think we should just forget about all what happened and start over as friends it would be great cause you're a good friend of mine."
I suggest you do that if you're keen on keeping him as a friend and if you really don't see him in a romantic way anymore. Cause if you still see him in a romantic way and you just wanna get back talking to him hoping that a spark might happen in the future then you're not being honest with yourself.
Be honest with yourself, Be honest with him and straight forward.
He could react in a mature manner and be friends again, or he could be immature about it and say ok and still flirt with you. Then you should know it's a no no and he's not even worth the friendship.
Be assertive my dear.
Keep me posted
Cheers xx
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