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Complicated relationship question: Should we break up, or not?
Hi guys.. I met in end of october in the airport a beautiful young girl of 26 (half from Japan and half from Jordan) with her son of two years. After some weeks we connected a lot through sms and we chatted for hours with jokes. And then we met for first date and she kissed me. She is a traditional value girl and she said she kissed me because she wants something serious between us. Afterwards we had many dates and the passion,the connection was there and still there. The problem is that she told me after the second date she does not know if it is good to start a relationship now because she was married but was separated with her ex husband and they do not have any attraction whatsoever, but she thought to try again to be back with him for the last time. This guy was so bad to her and she even do not like him but she says for the kid they have together she wanted to try for the last time. She planned that a bit before she met me. And now I am there and she had a crash on me. She also said that she need to be focus for sometimes for her business too.She says her ex who they are separated but not divorced yet will harm me if he learn that i am with her because he is jealous. but they have no physical contact for 3 years and dont live together. it is a traditional family with muslim value. she told me last time that she loves me and i mean so much for her. She told me since mid november that we need to take a break. But i did not accepted because her reason to try to go back with somebdoy she does not love was ludacris for me. And she is not sure she can do that and sometimes she say she want to try how a single life is, but i knew she was separated from her husband for 3 years. so why need single life when she loves me.I was scared to lose her because she told me if her love grow at a point she will stay with me that is why i tried to charm her and always she want it a break but the next day she invite me, we kiss, there is a strong passion.. i continue like that until now , we travelled , we had sex ,everything, and yet she talk about the break. She told me now she loves me really. Today she told me we need to stop now because she loves me very much. i dont wanna stop then. but i do not pressure her ever. when i call her she does not complain and want to meet me so it is a weird situation. She said if she calm down and found that her ex husband will not be back and she is less stress in her biz , she will be there for me and we can get back and have a real relationship. but is too much if. My game plan is since she is passionated about us, and since i know if she loves me soo much she will not leave me. so i want to not accept it and as usual charm her meet her and make sure she loves me more because it will not take time before it happens.I know she wants me so bad but she is insecured, but at the same time i am worry she can be serious one day and leave me. I know she has this passion and love me so i feel it will not happen but we never know. SO SHOULD I KEEP BE WITH HER, INVITE HER GO OUT OR SHOULD I ACCEPT TO BREAK OR BREAKUP FOR SOMETIMES AND LEAVE HER ALONE? WHAT IS THE BEST SOLUTION BASED ON MY SITUATION.
Thanks
C
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Hey C,
She sounds like a sensitive unique lady, which is wonderful. But I'm assuming she'd be wanting to give her ex husband especially they have a child. The kid might be so attached to the father maybe? or even the mother herself.
At any rate, it's your choice. If you walk out you'll be able to start anew and meet someone who feels the same for you and wouldn't wanna let you go. If you stay, you might be caught up in this triangle for quite some time. How do you wanna live?
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The fact that she was thinking of giving her ex husband one more chance tells me that she is not over him and is not ready for a relationship. Now that her ex is not coming back she focuses herself on you more which sounds like she is using you as a rebound. Basically, She is crawling too you because she has no one else. Its hard to say whether you should break it off but I would give her time to get over her ex husband first. You don't want to be that guy she uses to satisfy her loneliness.
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