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i am 15 years old and i have a bf we have been together for 9 month and some days we havent been seeing each for a while but it seem like the less were together the futher were moving apart what should i do
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There is nothing much you can do dear except give it some time..9 month is a very short time.. Dont worry..at just 15 yrs you have a whole life ahead..Observe, note and evaluate...dont hasten up..
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Hi dear,
I don't know how deep is the relationship between you two. Yet i want you to evaluate this situation.
Is that what you want from a boyfriend? Do you want to keep queationing things all the time? This could lead to insecurity in your relationship.
You're a strong lady. Take the emotions out of the equation and think about what you want
Include him in your final evaluation of the situation. How it made you feel and how it made you see things
Good luck
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Sometimes you need to make time to see each other. it doesn't have to be everyday because the anticipation of seeing each other gives you a stronger appreciation for your relationship. Just make the time for each other to enjoy each other's company.
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I think you need to sit down and talk with your bf. Ask him what's going on and if he feels anything has changed between the two of you. Sometimes we can read more into a situation than what is actually there so there's a chance where there's nothing wrong. But on the other hand, there is also a good chance that you're right about feeling like the two of you r moving apart. You are only 15 and going to meet a lot of different people in your life whether it be a bf, friends and even family sometimes, people grow and move apart from each other. Just so that you are prepared for anything, those are all possibilities. However for now just worry about getting some time to talk to your bf one on one and in person, not through text, and find out what's going on between the two of you and express how you're feeling too.
Hope that helps :)
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Perhaps take one day a week when you just hang out together and do whatever you two want to do. Make it routine, and then it can be something the both of you look forward too as you bond. Hope this helped :)
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So you dont see him at school or dont have classes with him? Did you guys ever meet away from school. I am not sure what actually changed, classes changed the next trimester or he isn't find the same amount of time to see you evenings and weekends?
At your age, most dating relationships don't last long to begin with. A relationship at any age needs time spent face to face to really have a bonding in the relationship. There's so much going on at your age, school, maybe a pt job, other friends and commitments to them, responsibilities to family and home, and trying to have a dating relationship. Not everyone does well at juggling it all and finding a good balance. And some of us expect more than a person can ever really give in reality.
What happens Each time we meet and start to date someone new is a special feeling called New relationship energy, its responsible for feeling like your head is in the clouds and your heart feels light, etc... We tend to go overboard and see way more of the person in a short amount of time than most people do once they've been together for a while. 9 months is a good amount of time to date but just in case, perhaps the amount of time he made himself available at first was due to the addictive feeling of the new relationship and it lasted a few months and then slowly started to disappear to be replaced by what is a more normal thing to expect. He may not be avoiding you, there may be nothing wrong, or perhaps he is finding he is as attracted to you as he once thought he was. It doesnt mean theres anything wrong with you, just that the two of you arent the best match for each other. In dating, hopefully you will learn and experience many such things over time and form ideas of what personality traits it is you want in a guy that you end up with long term. In our teens and even early college years, often we have no clue what we are looking for and he may be having that very issue himself. The only way for you to know if there is anything he is not sharing with you because he doesnt know how to tell you is to ask. I would advise you to be ready for any answer, even something you didn't want to hear and not go into dramatics and cry in front of him. A main reason guys won't level with a girl is because they hate to see a girl cry. If nothing is wrong and he is wondering why you feel like you are losing touch with each other, drifting apart, it may be due to differing ideas on a bf/gf relationship and you both need to talk it out and be willing to agree to a compromise of time spent together. If he cant agree to it or you won't be satisfied with a compromise, then you need to find the right guy for you or examine yourself to see if you might have unrealistic expectations.
Good luck dear.
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He is a user, used you and got away. Try to find a keeper.
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No offence love, but you are only 15 you have your whole life ahead of you, you don't need to waste it with boyfriends yet. But the answer to your request is simple, why don't you just send him a message and talk to him. Ask to meet up, all you have to do is send the first message, its simple really.
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