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I never get to talk or see my boyfriend anymore
Im a senior in high school and i have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. He is my best friend, but ever since our junior year of high school started we never get to hang out anymore or we barely talk. We would talk on skype for hours on end and we would text all the time. He has been busy though throughout the year so it explains part of the reason we dont talk or hang out. The thing is that I go to a youth group on sundays and for the past year i have asked him to go at least once but he never can. I know some people might think that its because he doesnt want to go, but i know for a fact that he does. His parents always tell him that they have a family thing or something coming up on the night i ask. Then sometimes if i ask him to call me on skype he says he will but then he never does. At other points he doesnt text me back for hours at a time which is unusual for him. I know for a fact that he isnt cheating either. He has been cheated on before and would never put anyone else through that. I know him very well and he isnt the type of guy to hurt a girl, but im just wondering if maybe he isnt attracted to me anymore. If he is, then maybe he really is just busy with family situations. I dont know how else to tell him that i want to talk more. I just need advice on what to do in this situation.
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If you know him really good, and know he'd go to church, perhaps his parents aren't keen on that and won't allow it. Do you know what beliefs if any his parents have? A Jewish family might not want their kid going to church, or perhaps a Pagan/Wiccan family may not approve of going to church, not for the reason of not believing but for experiencing prejudice from Christians...this is but a small example of reasons he may not take up the offer. Then again, maybe they are a close family and the weekends is their time together and they truly are b usy and have their time planned out.
Males have their priorities and can juggle several in their life and also prioritize importance. Things such as family,friends, school, sports team, work and girlfriend are the usual basic priorities in a guys life. If he doesn't make you one of the top 3, especially if he is a best friend, then you are not as important to him as you may think. If you are okay with that for now, then continue on as you have. If he used to text and talk lots and that has truly changed, I think its perfectly reasonable to ask what has changed. If he chooses not to answer that, You can always ask if it has something to do with his parents. If its due to his parents, he may feel bad saying anything as he loves them and also not want to say anything to you because he loves or cares about you and doesnt want your feelings hurt. If its not the parents, then something else has happened in his life or changed for him to behave differently. Sometimes family financial struggles, loss of a relative to death, can bring on a temporary depression which has a person acting differently as they process through. He may not have trouble chatting but when it comes to something really important and deep he may tend to just keep things to himself. I can't say which it might be.
Best thing is to give him some time. Send a message on line where you tell him that you've noticed a change in him and in your friendship. You are concerned for him since you care about him. Offer to be a friendly listening ear for him to talk to. If its bad news even to the point of him wanting to break it off, you need to decide if you'd rather know or continue on in ignorant bliss which wont be so satisfying if worry and doubts and unanswered questions plague you.
If you'd want to know, then you have to reassure him that you want to hear the truth, and that you won't cry, get angry or overly emotional on him. Thats a big reason that some guys won't level with a gal and tell her whats up. Good luck to you
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