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Okay one of my good friends recently told me she lost her virginity to this guy.. her boyfriend, but its like she doesnt "love" him, and I know she already has made a mistake since her boyfriends ex girlfriend is pregnant and already has a kid. But she says she likes it, but it was awkard, and I dont want her to wreck her life and get pregnant. I know its her choice, and the consquences that she gets are probably what she deserves, I guess its just hard to watch a friend go through something I know is not going to be permanant. She is 14, and ahhh I dont really think she sees that shes going to regret this..
But I dont know, is there anything I can say to her, just to be like .. to just make sure shes extra careful? I'm sorry if this is a dumb question, I'm just freaking out. :S (link)
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Its not at all a dumb question. Don't know if there is a good answer to it, but it isn't dumb!
If I were you, I would encourage her to always carry a condom with her. Her boyfriend has already proved himself to be irresponsible.
I don't know if there is anything you can say to make her see he isn't worth it. He will probably
break her heart sooner or later. Lets hope for sooner and be done with it! She is going to regret it one day. You are right about that.
I guess you will just have to be there for her when it happens. In the mean time, make sure she knows all about birth control and STDs. Paint a picture of what life will be like should she get pregnant. Young girls tend to romanticise it instead of looking at having to pay bills and buy groceries. Making payments on a car and maintaining one...all that real life stuff.
Once you do that, you've done all you could do. The rest is up to her. If you know her mom you might let slip about the pregnant ex he has. Maybe she will do something about it.
Good luck with it. Just do your best and know you tried at least. Its all you can do. :)
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Hi, I am beginning to get chubby. I eat sooooo much and try sooo hard not to, but i just cant stop.
Its making me depressed and i dont know how to stop. what do i do? (link)
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When you get the urge to eat something when you shouldn't...go do something else. Take a shower, go for a walk, whatever it takes until the urge passes. :)
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Ok well I have a friend lets call her kim and she is f/15 and she is a freshman but she is going out with a senior that is 18 is this illegal? And if it helps I know that they have had sex and about everything in the book. But I just wanted to know if it was allowed or not she asked me and I had NO idea. Thanks ahead for your help! I rate high (link)
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Dating is not the issue. Sex however could be.
If her parents wanted to push the issue he could get in trouble for having sex with a minor (underage) female. :)
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Okay guys, this might take me a while to explain but i really need some good advice from you's so im trusting ya's !!
Alright.. me and the person ive been talking to for the past 5 months became very intimate. His past girlfriend he dated was for 18 months, and after they broke up she became a slut. I'm not trying to be mean or anything but she's done over 10 guys and shes only 17. Now.. im afraid that when we had sex, he's still thinking about her because i hear shes crazy in bed. And heres the thing, i have weird nipples.. yeah i know it sounds retarted or whatever, but i have a big chest .. im a 36 C, and i weigh 132lbs.. and i dont like have a nipple.. noone knows this buy you's and im not really planning on telling that many other people.. When you press on it, it becomes hard and you can see the nipple, but thats about it.. WHat should i do about this ? i dont want to seee a doctor about it because not even my parents know.. and what do you think i could do to make him think im good in bed. please help me
ps.. this may not seem like a big situation,.. but me and my best friend are the "most popular" girls in our grade.. and the guys we are with, are also.. plus they are best friends.. i dont want my rep ruined
thanks for taking the time =) Thanks. (link)
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First off, we can't give you any sex tips. We would be banned if we did. There are 13 year olds on the site and its a legal issue. We don't want shut down!
There are many different kinds of nipples. I'm pretty sure you have some. If you are really worried that they look weird, talk to your mom about it. I know it would be hard to do and kind of creepy but I'm sure she would be happy to talk to you about it. Believe it or not, talking to her about those kinds of things will make you closer.
If you ever have sex with the guy...I think I can say this much, do it in the dark if it bothers you. But, you know what? If you don't trust him enough to see them or tell him about it, you probably shouldn't have sex with him.
That's just a little grandma opinion I had to give to you. Take it or leave it. ;)
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how do figure out what your body fat % is? (link)
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Fill it in and it tells you. :)
http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
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I would like to refer a friend to advicenators, preferebly by sending the page to her. Is there possibly any way I can go about it? (link)
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The way I send links is go to the home page.
Highlight the address in the address bar. Copy it
then paste it to the page. :)
http://www.advicenators.com/
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hey! i was just wonderingg if backflips are good for you! like good exercise. like help you lose weight maybe? because i did a ton of them the other day and now my muscles are really sore! if anyone knows any good info i'll give 5's (link)
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Sure they are!
Any time you are up and moving you are burning calories. Do some warm up exercises and stretches before you do them. That will keep you from being quite so sore. It will also help prevent any injuries. :)
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how do you find your body fat percentage rate? everyone is saying they have like a 10& body fat percentage rate, so how do you find it out?
good answers get you a 5. (link)
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Here you go...fill it in and it will tell you. :)
http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
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omg i thought i could never feel this way again about anybody but schuyler. But i thought wrong. I'm sooo happy that i found someone who i can be happy with. The only problem is that the guy i'm going out with joe said i love you. I want to say i love you too but i don't know the last time i said it i got hurt so i'm kind of scared of saying it. What should i do? (link)
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People are way to fast with saying I love you. Makes it kind of meaningless if you think about it.
That being said, words will not change feelings.
Just saying I love you will not make a breakup any better or worse. So you will probably be hurt if you say it or not. If you want to say it...then go ahead. :)
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someone told me that there's a way people can see you when you're at your computer by going to their website. i thought you needed a camera to do that, er a webcam. also, how would a camera be in a computer??
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Someone is pulling your leg. If you don't have a webcam nobody can see you. Even if you are on their website. :)
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thers this party tonight. i REALLY REALLY dont want to go! im not in a good mood cuz im PMSing. i really don't feel like going. i just want to go watch a movie. but, my mother is making me go all because shes concerned about my best friend. she says that if we don't give her a ride to the party, she's going to get mad! personally, i really dont care if she gets mad about that. my mom should then just take her! i told her i really don't want to go. I'm a bad PMSer lol and im just going to have a fit if i have to go to that party. she doesn't understand anything about why i don't want to go! can someone help me before 7:00? i really don't want to go!!! should i just pretend i hurt myself or something and i can't walk? or is that kind of bad because she will continue doing it? help is appreciated! thank you (link)
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Maybe you could help your friend find another ride. If you do that then no need for her to be mad about anything. Not much but it might be a help. :)
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my cousin and I get along really well,but my cousin Tiffany is only 13 and is only 100 pounds and she is 5 foot and 1inches tall and complains about being fat all the time and now she's going on a diet to try to lose 10 pounds is this anorexia Iam getting really worried about her.I try to tell her she isn't fat,but she dosn't belive me what should I do?please help. (link)
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Talking about going on a diet and actually doing it are two different things! Hopefully she is just talking to fit in with what everyone else is talking about.
If she actually stops eating entirely, that is anorexia. If she does something like that, you tell her mom quickly and put a stop to it.
She is very lucky to have someone near who cares. Keep an eye on her and do what you need to should it come to that. 13 year old girls sometimes need reassured they aren't fat. Make sure she knows she isn't. :)
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My friends sister, before she left, threw some bottles at us.
IT's called Primegra
I know you're supposed to put 2 drops under your tongue before 'sexual activity'
but on the back it says it's not garunteed to prevvent STDS.
sooo, what's it for? (link)
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It is supposedly a male sexual enhancement drug. I don't recommend you use it, you don't know what it might do to you. Throw it away. :)
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Help me please, fast!
My aunt just called, and she was crying, and she never cries! So I asked what's up? And she said "You need to tell your mom to get a planeticket and come to America" (we live in europe) and I was like whyyy? And she said "Baby, I don't know, I don't know what to do..Your Grandfather is very sick. She needs to know, she needs to get here!" So now it's all on me!! How do I tell my mom that her father might be dying? Do I tell my dad so he tells her? I don't know about that though cause they've been fighting alot lately!! Or do I tell her, and if so, how? Do I tell my brothers (younger) so they know that they should be nice to her?
Please help me, please! She'll be home in a couple of houres and I don't know what to do! (link)
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Sorry I didn't get this sooner.
I think you just need to tell her your aunt called, her dad is very sick. Maybe she needs to call her sister and get the details.
I don't think it is necessary to tell your brothers right now. If you see your dad before
you see your mom go ahead and tell him. :)
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i have no idea if people have asked this before or what, but even if they did, please try to answer? its somewhat long; i apologize ahead of time.
ok, so i'm pretty much an athletic person. I play almost any sports and play on two teams at school. However, even though im not that bad with sports and i totally love playing, i have a horrible issue with running/conditioning. Like, i can run short distances really fast, but i cant run for very long. I can run longer if i have breaks inbetween too. but if i run consistently without stopping, my legs start to burn and i cant breathe.
I cant stand miles because afterwards i end up not being able to breathe for a while. Like for one practice we ended up running a lot of laps and by the end i couldnt really breathe properly for ten-twenty minutes. Is there a way to like... help me run better? Or not get as tired by the end/able to breathe normally? During games and stuff i almost never get tired. Its only during long conditionings and whatnot.
please help!! i have training all summer and i rather not die from lack of oxygen anytime soon. i'll rate high for helpful tips. (link)
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Here is a site that seems to cover endurance training very well. Make sure you scroll on down past the Google ads, they put them in a really stupid spot. Other than that, it has lots of useful information for you. :)
http://www.brianmac.demon.co.uk/enduranc.htm
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Hi-
this is a serious situation: I have a great boyfriend, but my ex boyfriend is extremely dangerous and I wonder if I should give up my present relationship and move out of town so my present guy is safe and I will be safe.
The ex is absolutely nuts and he has attempted to hurt someone in this community--I spend most of my time hiding out.
Any answers?
Thanks,
musicfan (I'm 40 years old and female). (link)
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I think you need to inform the police (if you haven't already). You need to get a restraining order against the ex.
You also need to make sure your current boyfriend knows all about him and what he is capable of. Don't want him caught unaware.
Hopefully he will want to continue seeing you, but he needs to know what is going on. I wouldn't just break up with him and run though. He is old enough to make that decision for himself.
If you think you will be safer elsewhere, then do what you have to do. But make sure it is the only option left to you before you do that.
You could also take a self defense course.
Good luck and be safe. :)
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My friend of 30 years asked me to help with a situation that involved her 22 year old daughter. The girl (Brandy) left her "good" boyfriend, quit her high salary job, gave up her apartment to travel around the country camping, hiking and living off the land, with a 25 year old guy she met 6 months ago. Brandy recently died her hair purple, and got several facial peircings. She told her mom about a couple of injuries where the mechanism didn't make sense, and we all--Brandy's parents-sibling and I got a bad feeling from the new boyfriend.
Without Brandy's permission we came up with the idea of doing a background check on the bf, and it came back really bad! Several assaults..domestic and otherwise, one which included prison time because it was assault with a deadly weapon. Broken restraining orders, harrassment, interuption of a 911 call, theft, DUI, no license, no insurance etc. Now mind you the young man has no money and they are traveling with her money. So our gut instinct was right..or even more right than we imagined.
We confronted Brandy with the info, that she apparently didn't know. We talked to her about domestic abuse. Tried to convince her not to go and she rebelled. She says it was crossing the line and his background was none of our business.(or her's either for that matter)
Now she says it is all her Mother's fault, because she can't love this man the way she should, but she still left with him. Did I mention my friend found bottles of drugs prescribed to others and pot in his backpack?
No one could stop her from leaving with him, but she did promise to call every day. So now that she is angry, we still want her to keep in touch and have a safety net in friends and family, but how?
The ideal situation would be that she just come home and start over! (link)
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What a heartbreaking situation. I feel for your friend, I really do.
I don't know what she could do. The daughter is 22 and of legal age. When she does call tell her to be as cheerful as possible. It will be tough but, she doesnt want to lose that contact with her. Its the only thing she has right now. She has to know she has someone to call if things get rough and she won't call if she feels she will be chastised for her mistake. And it is one
big mistake! Hopefully she will come home soon and mom can give her a speech about it then.
The only other thing I can think of which may or may not be of use, would be to call the police and see if he has any warrants. Someone with that
type of record could be on probation or anything.
If he is and he has left the state...he can be arrested. I would also ask them if there is anything that can be done. I'm guessing there isn't but ask anyway...you never know.
Hope she comes home soon. :)
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can anyone tell me like symptons of that. please dont send me any websites. my computer isnt the best. (link)
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Here are the syptoms. Copied from http://www.medicinenet.com/body_dysmorphic_disorder/article.htm
Being preoccupied with minor or imaginary physical flaws, usually of the skin, hair, and nose, such as acne, scarring, facial lines, marks, pale skin, thinning hair, excessive body hair, large nose, or crooked nose.
Having a lot of anxiety and stress about the perceived flaw and spending a lot of time focusing on it, such as frequently picking at skin, excessively checking appearance in a mirror, hiding the imperfection, comparing appearance with others, excessively grooming, seeking reassurance from others about how they look, and getting cosmetic surgery.
Some people with mild symptoms of BDD can function well, despite the stress they feel. For others, the illness can get so serious that they may be unable to work, socialize, or leave their homes. They worry that they look ugly, or that people will laugh at them. Some even commit suicide.
Getting cosmetic surgery can make BDD worse. They are often not happy with the outcome of the surgery. If they are, they may start to focus attention on another body area and become preoccupied trying to fix the new “defect.” In this case, some patients with BDD become angry at the surgeon for making their appearance worse and may even become violent towards the surgeon.
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ok well i am a 17 year old male, and of course my problem involves a girl. i have a major crush on this girl, i mean the whole nine yards. sweaty palms, loss of words, clumsiness, you name it (which is wierd because i NEVER have problems with girls). the cool thing is that i think she has a crush on me too. the thing is, my best friend (17/M) also likes this girl a lot, although she doesnt like him. i need to know what to do in this situation, because it is driving me insane. i will provide feedback. Thank you so much! (link)
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You ask her out. There is no reason why you should miss an opportunity just because your friend likes her too.
He may be a little mad for a while, but if she liked him she wouldn't go out with you. Talk to him about it first so he doesn't get surprised or hear about it second hand. Just don't give up your own opportunity at happiness. :)
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I feel REALLY bad about something that happened today. Well I was in a horrible mood this morning because of what happened at work the other day- things got so bad I almost quit. Also I got no sleep because I ran out of my medication last night that I'm supposed to take before I go to bed. Well my friend walked over to my appartment this morning (uninvited). I was still in a really bad mood and was being really bitchy- not to her just moody. I apologized to her and then treated her to lunch at Mcdonalds. I told her why I was upset and that I was thinking of looking for a new job. I still feel really bad- when she first walked in to my appartment building she said "good morning"- I said "it's not a good morning". I apologized twice- but she sort of just invited herself over which upset me a little she should have phoned first. Should I still apologize for being bitchy or just drop it? (link)
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You have already apologized, and even bought her lunch. Just let it drop now.
She seemed okay at lunch didn't she? Didn't seem to be mad at you? All is okay so don't keep bring it up. :)
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