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bitchiness
I feel REALLY bad about something that happened today. Well I was in a horrible mood this morning because of what happened at work the other day- things got so bad I almost quit. Also I got no sleep because I ran out of my medication last night that I'm supposed to take before I go to bed. Well my friend walked over to my appartment this morning (uninvited). I was still in a really bad mood and was being really bitchy- not to her just moody. I apologized to her and then treated her to lunch at Mcdonalds. I told her why I was upset and that I was thinking of looking for a new job. I still feel really bad- when she first walked in to my appartment building she said "good morning"- I said "it's not a good morning". I apologized twice- but she sort of just invited herself over which upset me a little she should have phoned first. Should I still apologize for being bitchy or just drop it?
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I say just drop it. You have already said you are sorry and if she still holds it against you then maybe she isnt as good of a friend as you think she is. People have good days and bad days. Your normal. lol. I wouldnt worry about it. Shit happens. And good luck with the job thing.
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As far as apologising or compensating people for your own bad behaviour goes, I'm very much in favour of the "apology must fit the crime" kind of theory. In other words, if you do something really bad, you have to do something really nice to make up for it.
However, if the only thing you did wrong was to be in a bad mood and not be as friendly to her as you could, I would say that taking her to McDonalds for lunch and apologising twice is really all you need to do. If she is really your friend then she will already have known you were in a bad mood and that you didn't mean to take it out on her. She will also probably feel very uncomfortable if you apologise more than is necessary. So accept that you have now done all you can and if she is being friendly to you again, the problem is resolved. Don't dwell on it too much. The problem is that you are trying to compensate her for the guilt you feel and that won't work. Accept that it happened, it's over and you've been forgiven. Then let it go and try to smile!
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id say just drop it. shes your friend, sweetheart, and shes a girl too. she'll defintetly understand. from what youve said- she doesnt seem to feel bad about it- jsut you. just dont worry about it, and go on with life- except hopefully it gets better for ya! hope i helped!
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I'd drop it. It was kinda rude just coming in like she did. I'd talk to her about it because it seamed like you didn't care for it too much. If she's a reasonable person she'll understand you need your space and that you just had a bad day. Everyone has had a bad day and a friend that they go to and maybe not treat the best. I'm sure your friend understands that and you apologized and explained why you were a little bitchy, so don't worry about it. Hope things get better!
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I wold apologize. Your friend, as I am imagining and seeing it, is a very caring individual and recognises that you are not proud of what you did to her recently. You should let her know the full situation, and tell her that you are really sorry about what you said and will say in this post-time period.
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You have already apologized, and even bought her lunch. Just let it drop now.
She seemed okay at lunch didn't she? Didn't seem to be mad at you? All is okay so don't keep bring it up. :)
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You could just apologize.
*snowi*
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Apologize and forget. No one incident or moodswing or whatever should ruin a friendship or anything. I think you should apologize to her for your actions, explain to her why it is things happened that way [sorry if you already did do those things], and let her know that it bothered you that she showed up uninvited. Let her know you didn't mean to treat her that way, but that next time she should consider your feelings by not showing up uninvited - I'm sure she didn't mean to make things worse. Hope that helped and good luck.
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