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13/F

So I get super bored in some of my classes - Whether if I'm done with everything, or if my teachers are doing something for a long time.

I can't have my phone out, so what else can I possibly do to make class time to go a little faster? Thanks!

It sounds like you may be in some classes that are to slow for you, meaning the teaching level is geared to slower learners.

If you are getting good grades in these classes A & B type grades. Then it may be possible to be placed in an higher learning level class. Given the time of the year these classes will be far ahead of where you are in your present class so you would have a lot of work to do to catch up.

For a proper education you should find your classes challenging not boring. If this is the case with you. Talk with your parents. If they agree then a meeting with your guidance counselor and the principal should be arranged between then, you and your parents. The goal would be to find you classes with a more challenging environment.

Just be sure of what you want or what the problem truly is before you ask for the help I am recommending.

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what if my vagina is not big enough for a penis

According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.

Keep in mind that this is the average, the middle between the largest and the smallest, above the micro-penis (below 2 inches in length). The survey states that size varies based on age, time of day, level of excitement and ambient temperature.


Average Vagina Size

Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch

Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches

As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.

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19/f
For some reason, I LOVE being dominated in bed. I like handcuffs, being choked, whips you name it. But outside the bedroom i'm a completely different person. I'm normally on schedule with my daily routines, shower, study for school because I want to be a nurse. Sometimes when my boyfriend and I don't have sex I get really uneasy and tense as well. I don't know why i'm so horny all the time. If I don't orgasm I actually get sort of angry. It makes me think about having sex with this guy I never been with before and I envision him dominating me because I didn't orgasm. It's not that he's bad in bed I just don't cum as quickly as he does. I've been with my boyfriend and ONLY him for about 1 year and a half. What's the psychology behind me wanting to be dominated thing? If i'm thinking about other guys sexually, is it time that I take a break? So confused.

Relax your a normal 19 year old girl who most likely has a high libido especially when under stress. The stress in studying for your nursing degree is enough to heighten the anxiety which manifests in the need for sex.

This also accounts for your fetish for being Dominated in bed. Domination is a fairly normal fetish practiced in many different ways. I'm a little concerned with the chocking as that can accidentally go to far. But being handcuffed, whipped, spanked, tied up or any of the other more common domination fetishes allows the recipient to let themselves be totally free and allow the person, to allow their partner to take total control. It allows you as the recipient to actually relax and give off the stress your under.

Afterwards maybe some cuddle time and more gentle love making is in order. To put the world right for you so that you can get back to what you need to do stress free.

I'm a little confused about the guy you want to be dominated by. You say; " having sex with this guy I never been with before and I envision him dominating me because I didn't orgasm. It's not that he's bad in bed I just don't cum as quickly as he does." Maybe I'm just reading it wrong or in your haste it didn't come out as you meant it to.

In any case a talking to a guy about not satisfying you before he cums is a tricky subject. When it comes to this particular subject we males and I do not exclude myself in this, have very fragile egos. We all consider ourselves to be great lovers. If you were to approach this subject with him or any other male approach it from the stand point that you love his love making so much that you wish it would last longer. Would he consider using a desensitizing gel to prolong the love making, the intercourse for you to get the most enjoyment possible from your love making. In other words find a way to dance around the subject that he comes to soon.

IF you two are about the same age it is common for the male to cum quickly. As he gets older and more practiced with the same lover this will correct itself though repetition and getting to know your signals; if he is a sensitive lover. He should be wearing a condom which by itself should be sufficient to slow him down a bit. If its not then a delaying cream is in order. Just be sensitive to his ego when you bring the subject up.

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Okay, so I found out in October I was pregnant by my boyfriend at the time. He didnt want the kid and he claims he fell out of love with me, a few days after I told him I was pregnant. We live together so one of us couldnt just move out right away. But he emotionally moved out. He started taking other girls on dates and wouldnt take me on dates. Wouldnt talk to me. Basically only came home late from work to have sex sometimes and then sleep, and pack a duffel bag of clothes for the next few days he would be whereever...avoiding me until he wanted sex again. This went on until February 1st, when I moved out. Enough is enough! So this one girl he's been dating things shes hot shit or something. She found my email address, and emailed me, asking me who I am and why my email is in my boyfriends contact list. I replied saying, "I'm his pregnant girlfriend, I live with him, he's leading you to believe he's this awesome guy but I bet you you don't know anything about him." To this she replied, "I can see why he doesn't dig you, since your hair is hideous, and you're mentally unstable. Don't blame him for wanting someone better. Just because YOU had unprotected sex, you're crying and whining to strangers online. Luis and I are glad he will not be wasting any more time with you."


Like wtf? What kind of woman is this? I don't know how she could think that my pregnancy is 100 percent my fault. Why is she not holding Luis (my ex) accountable? Why would she want a guy who exhibits these qualities? She must be naive to think she can change a person. I'm not even a contentious woman, and he left me. What he is doing to me is a shitty thing to do, abandoning his pregnant girlfriend when the relationship gets tough.

I am not going to get in between you and your ex and his present girlfriend on this.

What I Am going to do is advice you to see a lawyer. As much as your boyfriend thinks he can just walk away from you and have no responsibilities to you or this child he is sadly mistaken. The law is on your side on this and you need a lawyer to draw up the legal papers to have the courts enforce his responsibilities on him. If you cannot afford a lawyer see the legal aid Society for help. They have lawyers that will do the work free.

As I was saying your boyfriend is responsible for this child until the child is 18. among those responsibilities are monetary child support, medical health insurance, visitation if he wants visitation and any other support the laws of your state and court may order.

See a lawyer now before someone wises him up to his responsibilities and he skips out and cannot be found. As for the child support that is generally ordered as a garnishment of his wages so he cannot fail to provide that support. The child comes first. If that means he has to live in his car that's just tough isn't it. He had his fun making the baby now he has to step up and be a man and support his son or daughter.

See a lawyer now before the child is born so the papers are filed and the court can act as soon as the baby is born.

PS. Change your email address for I have a feeling once he is served with the papers the present girlfriend will be on you like flies on honey.

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I babysit his two boys, who are incredably sweet kids. Anyways, he asked if I wanted to have dinner sometime, just us. I am attracted to him, and he is really nice, it just never crossed my mind because of the age difference. I'm probably gonna give it a shot either way and just see how it goes, but I was wondering what someone who isn't involved would think. Is it a weird age difference or situation, from your perspective? Just curious really.

If you were 11 and he 21 their would be a huge problem but that is not the case. You are both adults and if there is an attraction there you should follow your instincts.

If anyone finds the difference in your ages a problem it is there problem not yours. Ten years difference in age is not a huge difference. For one thing he is more stable in his work life and better able to afford the better things in life than say someone your own age. But that would and should not be the only reason to pursue a relationship with him. That should be an added benefit.

Then their are his children to consider. You are their baby sitter and they are attached to you. IF the relationship doesn't workout how will this effect them. Will you still be able to sit for them or will the breakup be of the type where you can no longer stand to have any contact with him. If his children are young which I would guess they are this would be a major disruption in their lives as well.

In this instance it is not the age difference that should be at the top of the list of concerns but the dynamics of the whole arrangement between the two of you. This I believe is some thing the two of you must discuss before taking that next step.

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So far i have been working out for a few months, losing alot of weight (but im very healthy) i dont starve myself.. to be specific i eat 3 meals a day, i do Insanity and i run for a good hour or more.. i was getting my period normally but after a few it started becoming very irregular, stopping and coming back after a few days. or coming and then randomly stopping after just a little of blood, like i dont even remember the last time my pad was full. :/ and im very worried because i feel like now that im thinner i wont be having a normal cycle, should i not be concerned about this? maybe when i reach my goal weight and maintain it my period will be regular again? When i was 14 i used to starve myself because i wanted to lose weight and i lost a drastic amount of weight in a very short amount of time and my period stopped coming for 3 months then i gained all the weight back and it was very normal again.. but now im 18 and this time it didnt stop COMPLETELY now that i eat healthy and workout but it comes and then it just randomly cuts off, and its starting to really scare me. Please let me know if this is normal, thank you very much :)

You may not be aware of this but female athletes such as the Olympic athletes do not get their periods and the younger ones, like the young teenagers are very slow to develop. The reason for this is the strenuous training they do for their sport.

I can't explain exactly why this is but it has to do with how much energy they burn training. IF you are suddenly training or exercising as hard as you describe you are robbing your body of some of the reserves stored in the fat the body uses to regulate other things such as your period.

Their is nothing wrong with you and your period should return as you exercise routine slows down once you reach your desired goals. If you are concerned though a check in with your GYN would be in order just to ally your fears.

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Hi. So my husband and I are trying for a baby. He has cum in me multiple times since my last period which started on Jan.23rd. The last time he ejactulated inside me was on Feb. 17th. For a few days before that I started having strong breast tenderness mostly in my left breast along with LEFT lower abdomen pain and pressure. By pressure I mean it feels as if something inside me is trying to push it was out. The pain lasts for about 20 seconds and goes away it comes off and on all day and night. I also have cramping on the left side. On the 21st I went to the doctor he did an HCG blood test but it showed negative when I got the results the next day. Anyways the late afternoon of the 21st I started to get a brown discharge when I wiped. It then progressed slowly to some blood as well. I thought it might be my period coming a couple days early as I had the cramping as well. But My period is usually VERY heavy Red blood with clots and lasts seven days. This was very light and very little red blood was mostly light red and brown blood. It went away yesterday until last night and a little bit continued to today but there isnt alot at all so this would be four days. I still have pains only on my left side. I do have cramping though in all my pelvic area. Now when I went to the doctor he said there is no chance I am pregnant according to the test. But the HCG test was done before my period was actually due and if I just started Implantation would it show up??? Im not sure what to think. Oh I also have had a sharp pain in my left shoulder and arm as well the whole time. Please any advice.....Thanks!!!

While it is possible you are pregnant you could have an ectopic pregnancy. This might fool the blood test for a while. You might suggest to your OB/GYN to do an Ultra sound.

What bothers me more though are some of your other symptoms as they are not consistent with a pregnancy. The pain in your left shoulder and arm and the headache top the list of my concern. Followed by the sharp pains in your left shoulder and arm plus the vomiting.

While both the Gall Bladder and the Appendix are located on the right side of the body it is possible for the pain to be felt on the left side especially if you are diabetic. Diabetics feel pain differently then others. some of the symptoms you describe could be consistent with problems with either one of these organs and you should ask your doctor about it.

While I am not a doctor these symptoms do concern me and I suggest you check in with your family doctor to have these symptoms checked out. Nothing says these pains and other symptoms are nothing more than symptoms of a pregnancy or ectopic pregnancy all of which need to be check out by both your OB/GYN and family doctor.

Since you are trying to get pregnant it is important that you have the best possible medical care and have plans that are not consistent with a normal pregnancy checked out.

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In high school,I have this attractive, 30 or maybe a bit younger something English teacher who wears dresses,skirts and heels and she always crosses her legs nicely when she sits down. She also seems to want to chat more with her male students. Is she trying to be flirty and get the attention of her male students?

While I agree with the other advisers I also have to advice that in this day in age you can take anything for granted.

It may be that the boys are more interested in her because the are infatuated with the way she dress and her sex appeal. Not uncommon among high school boys.

If you have any reason to believe it is more than just an infatuation by the boys with a very good looking and maybe sexy looking teacher than you should report this to the principal.

You didn't mention what subject she teaches but lets say it is one of those subjects where it might be hard to keep a young boys attention on the subject. By dressing as she does she at least she keeps the boys attention on her an hopefully some of what she is teaching also sinks in if only to impress her.

Please make sure of your facts before you report her for anything you think is inappropriate going on between her and any boy. Where I live we seem to be have a rash of incidents of sexual misconduct between teachers and students of both sexes. Just the inclination of misconduct could cause her to loose her job and ruin her career for life.

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I want to shave my legs but last time I asked my mom she said no (two years ago). I really want to hav shaved legs in the spring but I'm scared my mom will say no. Plzzz help!!!!

I have to go along with theAnnie. This is something that really depends on your age. For once you start you will for ever have to continue.

I'm guessing her that mom does not want you using a razor and possibly cutting yourself. For whatever her reasons are they are valid to her and you will have a hard time changing her mind.

Their are other ways of removing hair from your legs other then shaving such as waxing and chemical removers. IF the razor is the problem maybe mom will give in to one of the other ways of removing hair.

Go to your local pharmacy and look at the different products, read the labels and find one that has the least amount of chemicals or a wax that is the easiest to use then pose the question again to your mom.

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Just in need of your creative suggestions out there....
I got a disc bulge on my L5 S1 area.
Its just painful when i shift positions like before sitting or standing but when im sitting long or standing long its alright.
I do some exercise... i put on some heating /cooling rubs but really dont wanna take pain killers.
I put pillows to prompt my back when i sit...
Anyone feeling the same pain?
any suggestions what to do?
Thanks!!

I have a very similar condition as you do suffered from an car crash. I'm told there is no surgery that will relieve the type of pain we suffer from in fact any surgery we might have will probably only cause more pain.

The Neurosurgeon I see suggested I see a pain management center. There are several In my area and I chose one affiliated with the Medical Center my Neurosurgeon is on staff with.

Through a combination of injections and non narcotic medications they are able to keep my pain at a reasonable level.

Now my accident did far more damage to my skeletal system than what you have written about so I do have narcotic medication to take as break through medication when the pain gets to be more than I can tolerate. This medication is something I rarely take and while the prescription is written for what would be a 30 day prescription mine usually last as much as 6 months for if I need them it is only one or two pills.

I would suggest you ask whoever is caring for you back to recommend a good pain management center. The doctors their who will be caring for you are all anesthesiologist.

By the way the center I chose happens to be attached to a school of medicine so my doctor is also on the staff of the school as a professor and I am also cared for by his Fellow and Resident. They take excellent care of me and since this is something we will both suffer with for the rest of our lives I suggest you pick the best Pain Center you can find.

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My last period was in January not too sure the exact date but I know it was,the beginning of the month. February is almost over and I still haven't started my period? Is it too soon to take a pregnancy test or should I wait? If so, how much longer?

You gave your age as 14. Next time give truthful information and you will get better answers. Had I known you were 17 not 14 I could have saved myself the trouble of answering you.



I truly hope you are not pregnant. At your age this has to be the most frightening thing in the world for you. So do as the other advisers said; get some home pregnancy tests and hope for the best. Hopefully you are not pregnant and you missed your period due to the stress related to the worry over being pregnant. This can and does happen to girls as young as you.

It�s too late for a lecture on abstinence and chastity as the preverbal horse has already left the barn. What I do what to tell you about is boys and their desire for sex. Their definition or lack of for the word love.

Let�s start with the word love for most boys when they say they love you it does not have the same meaning it does for a girl. Boys confuse the word love with lust. A boy your age is going through puberty just like you are. He is prewired to find sex. He has to have sex or he has to masturbate. If he doesn�t he can end up with a very painful condition. His preference of course is to find a willing partner. He tells her he loves her. She thinks he loves her as she loves him when in fact his loves is mostly lust.

If a boy is pressuring you for sex than his love is more lust than the type of love you are looking for. There are other ways to take care of his needs other than through intercourse.

Remember he is not the one who has to choose whether or not to have an abortion. By law you cannot be forced by your parents to have an abortion, it is your choice alone. The law is called HIPPA and it started to cover you when you turned 14. You are the one who has to carry the baby to term and then decide to keep the child or give it up for adoption. These are hard choices for an adult woman to make. How in the world are you going to be able to make these decisions at 14 years of age?

If you�re not pregnant learn from this and keep your clothes on and remember what I said about boys confusing lust and love. For if you are pregnant I know of no law that is going to force his parents to support you and your baby. He is too young to be ordered by the court to support this child until he turns 18 and then you�re going to have to find him and drag him into court.

You don�t have to believe anything I said here but let me remind you I was once a teen age boy myself. We would say whatever a girl wanted to hear if it meant she would have sex with us. IF you�re not pregnant you might try talking to your dad and mom about this as they too where once your age. I believe you will find out I�m right in what I have told you.

Good luck, I hope you are not pregnant.

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I've been feeling very sick these days (from the beginning of January onward) and experiencing some strange symptoms. I went to my GP and he said that probably I'm just being paranoid and the symptoms will go away on their own but it seems that they are just worsening as days roll by.

1. I have noticed that I bruise easily these days and I have seen some pinprick bleeds on my arms and legs.

2. I have also been catching colds and other infections more than normally.

3. I have fever, fatigue, night sweating, chills and have lost my appetite. My GP thinks it's just influenza.

4.I have a feeling of fullness below my ribs, have bone and joint pain and too many nosebleeds.

Can anybody please give me some advice regarding this problem? Should I see another doctor?

I saw that you did not particularly like Razhie answer that you should see a different doctor. As far as seeing a different doctor she is correct you need to get a second opinion. GP, General Practitioners, don't always look for the pickle in the hearing barrel. They look for the norm or what general ailments they see coming into their office.

For a second opinion you need to go to the next level of care which would be a specialist. Based on what you have written I would suggest you see an internist.

Razhie is right we are not doctors. I have been for most of my working life been a member of a fire department rescue squad. If you were to call for my ambulance. After making my assessment of you my recommendation would be that you allow us to take you to the Hospital emergency room.

Why the hospital ER? Because they have all the abilities their to run the tests most GPS do not have in their office. Also if your local hospital is a level 1 trauma center they also have on staff most of the specialist in the hospital they can consult with if need be to make a determination of what is bothering you.

My advice is you have two choices. You can find an Internist and make an appointment to see the doctor at a first available date. Or you can go to your local hospital emergency room and ask for help.

As Razhie said none of us are doctors but if your symptoms are not improving and you GP is doing nothing for you then you need to see another doctor. That doctor may as well be a specialist. Most insurance companies will pay for second opinions. They will also pay for ER visits if they deem them true emergencies.

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What will happen if you take 5-7 sleeping pills at 8:30 at night and must wake up at 6:10 in the morning. Don't know which sleeping pills it is just know its sleeping pills. Age:13 gender:female weight:42 grade:7 I've seen things that say stuff about your weight so I just thought I should put that stuff in for uncase it helps oh and height is 155cm. Its not for me I'm not taking the pills its my cousin

First you need to tell your Aunt or Uncle what your cousin is planning. Taking sleeping pills at his or her age without being under a doctors care, even over the counter medication, is very dangerous to begin with even when following the directions.

To plan on abusing the medication as you cousin is can cause all forms of problems from never waking up again to damaging several vital organs such as the liver, heart, kidneys and even brain damage. It all depends on the type of medication and dosage.

Your cousin may be telling you one thing but may just be planning to commit suicide. I implore you not to keep your cousins confidence and either tell your parents so they can tell your cousins parents. Or you tell your cousins parents directly. It is better to have a live cousin who is made at you then one who is either dead or in a coma.

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I am 13 and in a bra size 34b but my boobs are not rounded, still pointy. Is this normal?
Sorry about the bluntness of this question...

Your normal so relax.

Your are just 13 years old, your body is still changing and will continue to do so for at least another 5 years. Will you remain a 34B or will your breast grow larger? Only your genes now for sure.

Right now what you have is still a work in progress. You may stay a 34B but as you body continues to go from that of a little girl to that of a women more changes will occur. These changes may be more subtle as the body reshapes what it has already changed. This is when the final shape of your breast will occur.

Right now though enjoy what is happening to your body for these changes will never happen again. The next time you body will have any major change is when you are post menstrual in about 40 or 50 years and gravity kicks in with a vengeance.

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19/F

Lately I've been noticing that I have a very strong sense of compassion. Normally, I'd think that is a good thing, but it's overpowering. I cry all the time because any time I see a homeless person or someone in need, I feel SO BAD. Like it affects my mood. I feel like I'm not doing enough for society and I get so mad when my friends complain about silly things (iPhone not working, grocery store not having favorite brand of ice cream, etc.) because people are in such worse shape. I feel that I'm at the perfect place in my life to be able to make a difference in the world because I have so much freedom (I can travel, I have no kids, etc.)But I have no idea how to make a difference. I can't just donate money to a random charity. I just have an overwhelming urge to go out and help people and I don't know where to start. Do I have too much compassion? I have no idea how to keep from investing so many of my emotions into this.

There is nothing wrong with having the compassion you have for others less fortunate than you. I will advice you to be careful given the amount of compassion you are feeling as there are people and charities that will try to take advantage of you. Just as unfortunately there are people who play at being underprivileged or disadvantaged just to get people like you to support them.

Just before Christmas there was a News story about a New York City Police Officer who dug into to his own pocket to buy a homeless man who had no shoes a pair of shoes. Of course this kindness did not go unnoticed by the media. The media also started following the homeless man only to find him a few days later once again shoeless . Upon further investigation the media found out that this man was not homeless and far from destitute. He made his living panhandling on the street as someone down on his luck but lived in a nice apartment in a nice part of the city.

I tell you this because when you have the overwhelming compassion I see in you. It is easy for someone like you to be taken advantaged of. As the other advicer offered find a passion you can support and there are many legitimate charities and causes out there that can use someone like you.

You say you can travel; there is still the Peace core or something like that were you can make the difference in parts of the world where children are dieing for the lack of food and clean water.

As a retired firefighter I would love to see you join MADD or STOP. As fire fighters people think we become jaded to some of the things we need to do. We aren't, it hurts us deeply when we have to cut the bodies of young people out of wrecked cars because someone was driving drunk or someone was underage and driving drunk. MADD and STOP are both great causes that could use an energetic young person such as yourself.

There are many other causes that could use your help. Those three I mentioned just happen to be the three that are the ones high on my list of causes. Of course I would also like to see you go on to college and get a degree in something that some day may find you developing something that will help all of man kind.

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Im 22, female. I had sex with my friend, we have talked after words a little but I feel like things are weird now between us. I dont want to lose our friendship, but I dont know if I should I try to talk to him?

They say there are several ways to ruin a good friendship. Two of the best ways is to borrow or lend money between friends and the other is to have sex. It is one thing to have a friend with benefits or even a fuck buddy. It is entirely different when you crawl between the sheets with someone you have had a truly platonic relationship with.

I cannot tell you why your relationship now feels weird for I would need more information as to why you feel this way. I'm hoping that the story I am going to tell you may give you some insight into why he may feel as he does and why maybe he sees you differently now.

When I was a teenager I had a bad case of the hots for the girl next store. We were good friends and did many things together as our families were also good friends. Then one night I went searching for something in the unfinished side of the attic of my house which was across the hall from my bedroom.

The girl, lets call her May had her room in the attic that faced the unfinished side of the attic of my house less than 20'away. I guess she felt since there was no one occupying that side of our attic there was no reason she needed to draw the shades in her bedroom. On that night at the time I had chosen to go searching for whatever it was I was looking for May walked into her room totally naked. She had a towel around her head so I assumed she had just showered. I was frozen like a deer in the headlights I couldn't move. I stood there and watched as she did all those thing girls do after a shower. There was not a part of her I did not see thanks to a full length mirror on her closet door. Why she never saw me I will never know.

What I do know was from them on I saw her differently. I couldn't have known her and better than if we had slept together. I no longer had to fantasize about what May looked like nude I had a picture of her firmly etched in my memory.

Did reality equal the fantasy I had or was the fantasy better than the reality. This many years later I can't remember. All I can say is from that day forward our relationship changed.

Your friend may have misgivings. Most likely though no matter how good the sex was when fantasy becomes reality something is missing.

Yes do talk to him but try to do so in a manner that is sensitive to his ego.I'm sure the sex was as good as it would have been with anyone else. He problem most likely lies in the area of fantasy becoming reality.

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i need detailed instructions and pictures for proper care of vulva and vagina. how to clean it. for long years im cleaning it with soap. now its very irritating

WebMD is a valuable resource for questions such as yours. I went to their site and asked the question in the search box " How to care for my vagina" the following link will take you to their reply. I believe you will find it very useful. http://answers.webmd.com/search-results?ques=How should I clean my vagina.

I find WebMD a great resource in answering many of the questions we receive and found the information returned to be helpful and factual. Give them a try.

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13. EXTREMELY PARANOID.

So yesterday morning, I was sleeping and I was facing my wall (That means my door was behind me). I had a scared feeling that someone was there, then I felt a poke in my back and it scared me!

Then, last night, I was trying to sleep and I was in the same position. I then had the same feeling of someone behind me, then felt another poke.

Nobody was ever behind me. My door was shut both times and nobody was in my room ever. Do you think it's just the heebee jeebees? Because sometimes I'd be scared there's bugs on me and I'd just feel tingles on my leg or something and nothing was really there. Thanks!

We are not doctors and we should not be giving out medical advice. I Did some checking on "Hyperactive Agency Detection" and it appears to be more spiritual in nature. Which in and of itself is not a bad thing especially if you are the type of person who believes in sports such as ghost.

At night when you are a sleep you subconscious and your dreams make their way forward into to your conscious brain even though you are asleep. We have all had very vivid dreams at one time or another then when we wake up we have a hard time recalling them.

None of here are qualified to talk to you about what is happening other than to say this is nothing you should be overly concerned about.

What you should do is talk to mom or dad about these dreams for that is what I believe they are and the fact that they upset you. They can arrange for you to speak with a psychologist who can speak to you in total confidentiality, meaning nothing you say to the therapist goes back to mom and dad. There is something hidden most likely in you subconscious that are causing these nightmares. With the help of the therapist they can be drawn out and dealt with. Once you identify the problem and learn to deal with it the nightmares will go away.

What you are asking about is truly a problem for mom and dad to deal with by getting you the proper help. We, meaning none of us, have the educational background to help you with this.

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this hurts to say so bare with me im not going to use puncuations

my wife let me know one night about 5 months ago that our 6 year old son is the product of an affair she was smoking drugs with our neighbor while i was at work we have 3 children total including our little boy i am the only father he knows hes my little trooper he loves me so much i just cant bare to think about him finding out it will crush him
well since she told me our marriage has been rocky and i have been upset and have a bad taste in my mouth it has only been 5 months since she told me we get in fights and she says that im living in the past and wont let it go
so we took a temporary break from each other
now im sitting here with all three kids in our home and she is staying with one of her crazy friends just yesturday she was arrested for possesion of marijuana and there was a guy arrested with her i got ahold of his wife and let her know to tell her husband that i will be looking for him when he gets out well when he got out he called me first and was so scarred of me begging me not to hurt him for making out with my wife i had no idea about the making out i bailed her out and shouldnt have and as soon as we got home she was off again and hasnt been back since yes i have been an asshole im hurt
im wondering should i just leave her and move on
i love my son and am positive she will tell him
i have been home with them alone for a month now
she left us i have supported her for 13 years and im love with her very much but im sure she will continue to hurt us the thing is i grew up in a foster home with my 2 little sisters so i know whats its like to be parentless and i refuse to let them know i am insecure and fucked up to this day because of that
i think thats why i put up with her cheating is because i have been alone so much in my life i am desperate for love
i forgot to mention there are 6 times where i know of that she has cheated on me
there is no rationing with her she goes into deffensive mode anytime i want to talk about its not a happy nor a safe place here anymore
i have made a successful life for us we have a paid off nice big house nice cars and etc i dont know what else i can offer
she says its my fault cause i wasnt there
well i was at work
we had an agreement i make the money she makes the honey
anyone ever deal with something like this
being that i grew up in a foster home i have no parents to talk about this to
so please general public without bias what would you do

Let me start by saying your a heck of a nice guy and your wife does not deserve you. If she ever is arrested again let her stay in jail for that is where she belongs for abandoning you and her children.

Now as for your son. You cannot be sure without a DNA test that he is not your biological son. For the moment I wouldn't worry about whether your his biological father or not for there is more to being a father than being just the seed planter. You are raising the child and the child is your son and you are the only father he knows. If you are on the birth certificate as his father then taking him away from you will be a problem. You don't know if the so called biological father even wants him.

Given the description of how your wife is acting at this time I do not see any court awarding her custodial custody of any of the children let alone unsupervised visitation.

I really don't have to tell you what you have to do next, I think you know what has to be done. It's not easy especially since you are still in love with her. But in the best interest of the children you need to start divorce proceeding. You said it yourself, "You bailed her out and as soon as you got home she left and you have not seen her since."

That's abandonment and should be grounds for divorce. Tell your lawyer what she has said about your son. Even though there may be a question about paternity he is far better of with you as a technical foster parent than with your wife. In the mean time your lawyer can if need be work to arrange for you to legally adopt him. This of course all depend on the results of a DNA test which is just as likely to prove you as the biological father.

Right now I wouldn't take anything your wife says as the truth for I think for whatever reasons she has or just under the influence of the drugs. She is saying things to hurt you. Wait until you have proof positive that you have something to worry about.

As much as I hate to recommend this you need to find a divorce lawyer ASAP. The sooner she is out of your life the better it will be for the kids and you.

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I am 11 and still sleep with my mom

Unless there is a reason such as living in a one bedroom apartment there is no reason someone your age should still be sleeping in her mothers bed.

By all rights you should have had your own bed and bedroom long before your first birthday. You should talk to your mother and if there is another room that can be used as a bedroom for you then you need to insist that she make that your room.

A young girl need her own space so she can have the privacy needed to grow into a young women and do all the things young women do in the privacy of their own bedroom. Things like keeping a diary, putting posters on the wall, experimenting with clothes, hairstyle and makeup and I'm sure many other things as I guy I am not aware of.

If mom refuses to give you your own room then you must talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal about this as this is very wrong. One you inform your teacher or principal they have procedures to follow to have someone look into this and find out why mom refuses and they can force mom to provide you with your own room.

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