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Sex with friend now things are weird
Im 22, female. I had sex with my friend, we have talked after words a little but I feel like things are weird now between us. I dont want to lose our friendship, but I dont know if I should I try to talk to him?
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They say there are several ways to ruin a good friendship. Two of the best ways is to borrow or lend money between friends and the other is to have sex. It is one thing to have a friend with benefits or even a fuck buddy. It is entirely different when you crawl between the sheets with someone you have had a truly platonic relationship with.
I cannot tell you why your relationship now feels weird for I would need more information as to why you feel this way. I'm hoping that the story I am going to tell you may give you some insight into why he may feel as he does and why maybe he sees you differently now.
When I was a teenager I had a bad case of the hots for the girl next store. We were good friends and did many things together as our families were also good friends. Then one night I went searching for something in the unfinished side of the attic of my house which was across the hall from my bedroom.
The girl, lets call her May had her room in the attic that faced the unfinished side of the attic of my house less than 20'away. I guess she felt since there was no one occupying that side of our attic there was no reason she needed to draw the shades in her bedroom. On that night at the time I had chosen to go searching for whatever it was I was looking for May walked into her room totally naked. She had a towel around her head so I assumed she had just showered. I was frozen like a deer in the headlights I couldn't move. I stood there and watched as she did all those thing girls do after a shower. There was not a part of her I did not see thanks to a full length mirror on her closet door. Why she never saw me I will never know.
What I do know was from them on I saw her differently. I couldn't have known her and better than if we had slept together. I no longer had to fantasize about what May looked like nude I had a picture of her firmly etched in my memory.
Did reality equal the fantasy I had or was the fantasy better than the reality. This many years later I can't remember. All I can say is from that day forward our relationship changed.
Your friend may have misgivings. Most likely though no matter how good the sex was when fantasy becomes reality something is missing.
Yes do talk to him but try to do so in a manner that is sensitive to his ego.I'm sure the sex was as good as it would have been with anyone else. He problem most likely lies in the area of fantasy becoming reality.
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Talk to him like anyone else. Tell him that things need not be embarrassing or awkward and that you enjoyed the experience. Thing is he may be insecure about his body, performance, and not know where the relationship is going.
There is a slight chance it was a negative thing for him but I doubt it. Try talking to him as it's the only way you both can move forward but think twice before doing this with a friend in future as it forever changes everything.
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