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16F (my boyfriend is 16, too)
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now. For the most part, our relationship is going well. There is one problem, though. Whenever we're standing next to each other, even if we're in school in front of our teachers, he'll lean over and wrap his arms really tightly around my chest. It always makes me feel super uncomfortable, especially because every time I have to lift his arms over my head to get him off of me.
Now, I understand that a lot of people might like this kind of thing, but I feel like he's not respecting my personal space and it's really embarrassing. I'm not sure why he does this, and he's almost knocked me off of my feet several times. He's a lot bigger than I am and there's really not much I can do, physically. I try to politely tell him to stop, but when he doesn't listen, I can't bring myself to yell at him and tell him off in front of everyone. It would be humiliating for both of us.
How can I make him stop hugging me like this and start respecting my space? And does anyone know why he feels the need to do this? Thanks in advance!
There can be a multitude of reasons as to why your boyfriend does what he does. The most basic of reasons is animalistic in nature. That he is in hugging you this way showing other males that you are his. In some respects you could say he is marking his territory. This is something all animals do including the human animal.
That being said their is one thing that places the human animal above all other animals. That is the ability to communicate. Communication between people is the key to any successful relationship. Be it a love relationship, friendship or business.
You ask? "How can I make him stop hugging me like this and start respecting my space?" What you haven't said is if you have ever spoken to him about this, which is what is needed.
What you need to do is tell him straight out that this makes you uncomfortable and why. He will most likely respond that this is his way of showing his love for you. Which is another way of saying he is also marking you as his. Which can be fine as long as he understands you are both individuals and while you may be his love he does not control you. Something else that needs to be discussed with him as someone who marks their territory is usually also someone who is very controlling of others.
Relationships work better when there is good communication. IF you cannot communicate this really simple problem to him and have an open discussion with him because he won't discuss it. Then my advise is that this boy is not respecting of you and you should find someone else.
im 13 male im sick of masterbating if any girls are intrested plz make a comment.
The advice Zane gave you about looking for sex on the internet is good advice. There are people out there who do nothing more than lurk on the internet looking for naïve people like you that they can friend and eventually molest in the worst possible ways.
If you haven't heard of them they are called child predators. The most recent person of that nature to make the news was former assistant Football Coach at Penn State; Jerry Sandusky who is now in prison.
At your age the best and safest way to relieve sexual tension is Masturbation. Contrary to what you may think or have been told there is nothing wrong with masturbation. According to one survey 85% of us masturbate. Yea that includes your parents who when they make love most like indulge in what is called mutual masturbation as part of foreplay.
Yea I know TMI. though it had to be said so you understand that masturbation is normal. It allows you to get in touch with who you are sexually through self stimulation and fantasizing. There is nothing wrong with masturbation as long as it is not an all encompassing occupation. It is also normal for someone your age to masturbate as much as 4 times a day.
Masturbation is safe, something you can do in the privacy of your bedroom without being disturbed. Something that relieves the sexual tension without worry of getting a girl pregnant.
As someone who is a grandparent I do not understand why many parents sTill tell there children masturbation is wrong, sinful or dirty since 85% of those parents are masturbators themselves. Most of the organized religions including the Catholic church do not condemn masturbation.
My advice is to stick with masturbation for a few more years until you are old enough and mature enough to handle the real thing. Also DO NOT GO LOOKING FOR SEX ON LINE. IT IS NOT SAFE TO DO SO. YOU COULD BE HURT OR WORSE.
Is it possible to get a std if I've never had sex and neither of my parents have a std
The generally accepted answer is NO, since STD stands fro Sexually transmitted Disease. No sex means no transmission. When it comes to cold sores they are in the same viral family as Herpes and can be transmitted by kissing is one partner has a cold sore. They can also be transferred during oral sex putting a cold sore in the category of an STD.
What is not true is that you can pick up an STD from a toilet seat. If you think you have an STD the best thing to do is be tested. Most STDS are quickly cured with medication.
My girlfriend and I were dry humping. She usually wear shorts and underwear while I'm wearing jeans and underwear. I eventually ejaculated while she was sitting on me(we are both sitting at that time) and my jeans got wet. After that she missed her period for 3 months and we took a home pregnancy test and I was shocked when she told me the test was faint positive. It appeared around 6-10 minutes after she left it for bowel reasons but the reaction time given is 3 minutes. She told me she is not cheating on me. We took another test after 1 month and it's negative and another hpt 6 days after that negative and it also says negative. Now I am wondering if it is possible that sperm could travel through my underwear and jeans although i know it is wet going inside her(considering her shorts and underwear got a wet spot)? Do you think what happened is a false positive? her period doesn't arrived yet and it's already 4 months late. thanks for the answer.
While anything is possible it is highly unlikely that sperm would be able to swim through two fully cloth individuals, find her vagina and impregnate her. What is more possible is that for a number of other reasons, with stress being the leading cause, she has missed her periods.
Given the time of year that it is with year ending test at school and other things it is highly possible stress is the cause of her missing her periods.
Missing her periods for 3 months is reason enough to seek out a doctors examination to find out why if she is normally very regular with her periods. If she is over 14 years of age a Federal Law called HIPPA (Acronym) allows for her to do so in total confidentiality with or without parental permission to visit a doctor.
The HIPPA Law has with in it a prevision which allows for any one over the age of 14 to make doctors appointments, visit doctors, seek treatment for anything relating to their reproductive system with or without parental knowledge or permission. These visits are totally confidential and no one, not even parents can have any knowledge of these visits without the written consent of the patient.
In granting this confidentiality congress was not giving permission for young people to go out and have sex. This law gives young people the ability to ask questions or seek medical treatment when they may be too embarrassed to ask parents or tell parents they may need medical treatment. Total confidentiality is given so the patient can speak frankly and openly with their doctor so the doctor can render proper care or properly answer their questions. HIPPA covers both male and female.
I suggest you have your girlfriend see her GYN or a women's free clinic in your area.
how do i tell my mom my hymen broke
It is not unusual for a girls Hymen to break. It often happens from bike riding, horseback riding, exercise and a multitude of other things non-sexually related such as fingering. One of the biggest causes is the use of Tampons.
So I would suggest if you feel the need to tell you mother you just take her a side and tell her. Your still a virgin as the definition of a virgin today is someone, when it comes to a female, who has not had her vagina penetrated by a penis. So until you have had actual sexual intercourse you are still a virgin.
i've been married for 5 years and i've met this guy who is my sister's friend. He lives in another town. He's been recently sending me messages through facebook. What should I do?? Because I've started to like him..I really love my husband,though, and I'm afraid of hurting him.
Having been married for going on 41 years this July I think I know what is happening here.
First you are closing in on the "Seven year itch." It is not a fairy tale type saying as much as it is a reality. Some people are bothered by this period less than others. It is not really a buyers remorse as much as it is a wondering of what life could have or would have been if you waited a little longer to marry. This period generally passes without any real problems for most couples.
The other factor that may be at work here is ego. You may be flattered that this man, I'm assuming he is younger, is enamored with an older married women. This is especially true for women who have had children.
What I'm trying to so delicately say is you are reacting normally for what the situation you are finding yourself in. You know nothing can or will come of this. You don't want to hurt your husband or your sisters friend.
What you have to do is gently explain to this guy that your flattered by his attention but it is just that. Nothing can or will come of it. Your friends, today's version of pen pals so to speak. In fact email him those exact words if you want.
If I have assumed correctly that he is younger than you. Then he to is infatuated by the fact that an older women, ouch sorry about that, is showing him some attention. If your messaging has not gone to far then sending him a message defining what your parameters are for the too of you should cool him down. I would also, in your place, tell your husband of the emails, the fact that you saw him becoming attached to you and you shut him down.
i have my period last april 10 until april 14 then i have sex with my boyfriend april 16-17-18...but i have my period may 8...it is possible that i will get pregnant??
If you are saying you had your period May 8 then NO you cannot be pregnant.
For about 80% of women they are most fertile during a 3 day period in the middle two weeks of their cycle. This is when your ovaries eject an egg. From what you wrote, if you are in that 80% you had sex during the first week of your cycle . While it is possible to get pregnant at that time for some women the risk is lower for most.
Given the times we live in. If you are going to have sex and are not on the pill or even if you are on birth control. The boy should always wear a condom. This is for your protection. While the condom does not stop all STD transmissions it does stop many and the HIV/AIDS virus. The condom is also 85% effective as a birth control when worn correctly.
Back in the dark ages when I was your age the girls had a saying, and this was before AIDS, no rubber, no lover. It was good then and even more valid today.
Im 14/ f and ive been a selfharming since the beginning of february.. I have been getting better tho! Anyways my mom and I were sitting side by side waiting for my sister and I forgot to put a bandage on my cuts when I changef into a tank top.. she was on the phone and looked at my wrist and thered only 2 visible ones and pointed at them with a questioning face.. I pulled my arm away and went to the bathroom and cried my eyes out.. what do I say? Our cats are declawed. .
Cutting is a sign of depression. You cut to feel something, to relieve the stress of a situation. Stress is a major part of depression. In teenagers what was once considered to be a phase that teenagers went through now has a diagnostic name. It is called "Teenage Depression" and is treatable.
Lets face it, if anyone has a right to be depressed these day it is a teenager. A teenager is also a "Tweener", no longer a child yet not an adult. Yes Tweener is an actual word with the definition I gave. More is expected of you at home, in school and in social aspects. For girls it is even harder as puberty is causing changes internally and externally to you that you need to cope with. Then there are boys; they are around you like Bee's to honey. This is a lot of stress for anyone, even an adult.
In all of us there are two chemicals in the that are secreted into the brain, they are hormones that help stabilize moods especially under stress. Many of us at times do not have enough of these chemicals to combat the stress we are under or put ourselves under.
The quick fix is you see a board certified psychiatrist, no your not crazy, who is the best trained to deal with this because of where the chemicals are secreted. Generally a simple pill taken once a day will improve the amount of hormones needed to effect mood stabilization.
The long term fix is talk therapy with a psychologist who will help you find the reason for the stress and better ways of dealing with it other than cutting. With both Doctors your conversations with them are confidential. You must give your permission for them to discuss or disclose what is said in discussion with either of them. If you do not give permission when and if they talk with your parents it will be in generalities as to what they can do to help you.
So with all this being said: My advice to you is to tell mom the truth and ask for her help. She is already thinking the worst because of what she has seen. she is waiting for you to come to her so I suspect se is not going to scream at you.
What needs to happen next, after coming clean with mom is a visit to your family doctor for a complete physical. This is to rule out any organic reasons for your problem. Then you ask for a referral to a Board Certified Psychiatrist. That Doctor will supply and monitor medication if needed and refer you for talk therapy.
Depression hurts, I know as I suffered from it. There is help and it starts with telling mom and asking for help. You do not have to cut to feel better.
So, I have a boyfriend who I really really love..But ive met this guy on facebook. He started to chat me up and persuaded me to sort of being slutty towards him..Its all been done through the chat..The thing is that i decided to go a little further..and I sent him a picture of me being naked..Ive been feeling miserable ever since..What was I thinking?? I decided not to talk to this guy anymore..please.I need some advice..Thanks!!
You are a registered user. When you signed up you gave your age. That information is available to modirotors of which I am one.
I can't tell you why you did this; what I can tell you is the consequences of what you did.
The information about you says your 27, if so you should know better, but at least your not guilty of sending child porn. What you have done is exposed yourself to someone you don't know personally. He now can send this picture out for any and all to see. This is the problem of sending things out over the web, you lose control over the information and or the pictures you send.
Now or in the future that picture will come back to bite you. Once out on the web it is free to anyone to use. Just asking for it back does not mean he will not retain the original image he received or that he has not already posted it to some website.
In the news recently a high school teacher lost her job because her school principal found she had posed for nude pictures. In her case she was a paid model and knew what she was doing. What if in the future you are in a position where a nude picture of you is found. It is also found to be detrimental to your job. This is what you have opened yourself up for by sending a nude picture of yourself out over the Internet to someone you really do not know. This is not a maybe type thing, it has happened. Employers do search the Internet for information on candidates for employment. How would you feel if this or future pictures surface.
I have in the past advised others who are thinking of doing what you have done as follows. When thinking of sending pictures over the Internet; do not send any picture of yourself you would not show to your father. If you follow this rule you have nothing to worry about in the future.
would the above develop at the age of two if the mother was ex anorexic??
The studies on this topic are not definitive enough to say for certainty that anorexia is genetic or not. The same studies also are divided on whether this is a physical or mental illness.
In an infant at age two who will not eat it is not generally considered to be an eating disorder as it is generally the result of a physical problem This problem at times can be hard to diagnose but an eating disorder is generally not seen until the person is more self aware of their image. This is not the case for infants.
Anorexia is treatable through mostly behavioral modification which puts treatment into the psychiatric classification. Most group insurance coverage has little to poor coverage in this area. Which is why people find they are not covered for this problem.
The indecisiveness nature of the studies as to cause gives the insurance companies the out they need to refuse medical coverage.
If you know an infant that is not eating. It is not anorexia. The child is suffering from a physical ailment and may need to see doctors specializing in digestive track disorders in order to help the infant start eating again.
So im 13/m and i am addicted to masturbating... i also watch porn but i have a gf. So is it ok if i watch porn? Am i a perv or cheating in a way?
Relax your normal. For the record I am old enough to be your grandfather and I probably have more liberal views on the subject of sex than your parents or you would not be writing to us.
Masturbation is normal for someone your age as long as it is not an all encompassing subject. By that I mean you do nothing else but go to school then come home and masturbate.
It is even normal for someone your age in the early stages of puberty to masturbate 3 or 4 times a day. Masturbation is a safe way to relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty. Also you learn about your bodies sexual needs and desires through masturbation and fantasizing.
According to a survey done a year or so ago 85% of us masturbate. That means that the majority of us, which would include your parents masturbate. When it comes to married adults masturbation is usually done as part of foreplay for intercourse and is called mutual masturbation. This is where one partner masturbates the other. The male fingers the feel male and the female strokes the male. I know this may be TMI though as I said at first my view are quite liberal and I want you to know you are normal and not some weird 13 year old.
Do your parents know you masturbate? I would think mom has seen the evidence when doing the laundry. If this was something abnormal you would have heard from her or dad by now. It is far better at your age to masturbate then to try and force some young girl to do something she is not ready for. By taking care of your own needs this way you will gain the respect of a young lady much faster and when she is ready you will be the one she will chose to go to that next level with.
I do lots of inappropriate stuff on the internet.. like porn. I delete the history, bu when i am going to sign up for a job will they find it? Will it affect me somehow?
I'm not sure the previous advisor understood your question or maybe I am not understanding your question.
If your question is can a future employer find out about your Internet viewing habits in your own home on your own computer? The answer is almost a complete no. Your future employer would first have to have access to your personnel computer, this of course is something they are not entitled too. Next even though you delete your history there is still fragments of it that can be recaptured by a skilled forensic computer expert. This would be a large expense for an employer to go through just hire someone.
Now if you were applying for a Top Secret government job. Then maybe you would be asked to comply with these intrusions as these are things others could blackmail you with.
Once employed using the employers computer they can monitor your computer use real time. Many employers do so through their "IT" departments. Viewing anything or using the employers computer to view or do anything inappropriate would be grounds for termination.
ok so i am a 16 year old girl and really bi-curious? I think i like guys but if i get into a relationship i end it too quickly because it doesnt feel right when i am with a guy. but I'll look at a guy and say he's hot but it ends there. as with girls though i've never had a crush on a girl but i can see myself in a relationship with one (a girl in general). i am just so confused, i don't think there is anything wrong with being gay but i am afraid that if i am that I'll loose friends and be judged harshly. i know my family will accept but i am still scared.
Relax you are a normal teenager. Being bi-curious is a normal part of your teenage years. It is part of learning about who your are sexually. In short finding your sexual identity.
I believe the fact that you like boys and find them hot though you stop there is not a sign you are a lesbian. It is more of a sign you fear of going to the next level sexually with a boy. Once again this is normal.
You may be saying that all your friends are at that next level and this may be true. They have reached that level for it is comfortable for them. Not everyone is comfortable in sexual exploration with someone of the opposite sex at the same age. Some of us take longer to get to that level of comfort. Some will even force themselves into that arena because they want to be with the in crowd.
My advise is not to be ashamed or fearful of who or what you are feeling. As I said you are having normal feelings. If you want to explore your curiosity then that is something for you to decide. The same is true for when you want to explore with boys.
Until then relax and enjoy this time of your life for it goes by very quickly.
I have this coworker, and he and I have become pretty good friends. I think I'm falling for him, and it appears to be mutual, I can just sense it. Before, about a year ago, we were acquaintances and kind of joked around. Then our friendship started growing, and we became pretty good friends, to the point where we have a 6 hour long conversations on Facebook about serious stuff, funny stuff, the whole sha-bang. Now it's sort of taken an awkward turn. When we're scheduled on the same shifts, at first we are sooooooo awkward. Then as the shift goes on, we're close again. He's even started playfully teasing, and we've got some witty banter going on. Great development, right? Awesome news, eh? WRONG.
See, there's an important factor I think we both like to forget... I'm a hardcore Christian, and he's an Atheist. It says on his Facebook he's a "Proud Atheist", and not that Facebook has the overall say in life, but if he took the time to write that and become part of a FB group with that same title, then I'm thinking he's pretty sure about it. I'm very serious about dating/relationships. I'm 18, and I've never dated anyone. I didn't want to date in high school because 9/10 times they fail, and are just drama-infested wastes of time. So, I date with purpose, I don't mess around. I can't date anyone who I couldn't see myself marrying. Not that I have to know RIGHT AWAY, or even in the first year. But if I knew I'd never marry that person right from get-go, I can't date them. Whether addicted to meth, never want to have kids, that sort of thing. I graduated in 2012, and since then I've just been waiting to meet the right dude to date. And... I think he takes the cake. He's intelligent, yet sensitive. Hilarious, caring, understanding, supportive, confident not big-headed, musically inclined, and he's witty, yet mature in the important ways. He's a nerd, like me. He's perfect in every way except one! HE'S AN ATHEIST. Whyyyyyyyy me?
I know there's no way I'm ever going to marry an atheist. My future husband will at least be aware of the fact that Jesus is our Lord and Savior. I probably sound snobby, but think about it. How would we raise our kids? Our mindsets in life would be so different. I'd be living for the Lord, alone. But... I like this guy a lot. I'm crushed. I think about him when I fall asleep and when I wake up. And I'll think "Why don't we date- oh yeah. Crap." and my heart sinks. I'm trying to cling on to some hope. I suppose my question is, do atheists convert often?
I wouldn't want him to make that change for me. Not at all. I'd want him to do it because HE wanted to. I want him to know the love of God, feel the powerful emotion the Holy Spirit can bring you, see life with God's Goggles, if you will, haha. So, what would you suggest I do? Do you have any advice/suggestions? Or should I just suck it up and move on? Thank you for reading.
Your question is: "How often do atheists change their minds?" I'm not sure there is an answer to this question, at least not the answer you are looking for.
The answer to many of the questions we receive is a need for the parties involved to communicate. It is apparent that you have some real feelings for this guy though there is only one thing that would keep you from committing to him, That being his atheists beliefs.
While I have my doubts about their being true atheists, given to the saying; "there are no atheists in foxholes." Would you feel any different if his views on religion were that he was an agnostic or of another religion such as Judaism or Protestant and firm in his religious belief as you are. As for any children most religions hold that a child is the product of its mother and therefore the religion of the mother. Something to keep in mind.
One thing that is important in any relationship is communication. You have an issue that really needs to be discussed between you two before you go writing off someone who may have just as many feelings for you as you have for him.
I will tell you what I have told my son. This is not a perfect world. There is not many custom fits to be had. In fact we are a world of off that rack opportunities that we tailor to fit.
This is what I see in what you have written. You have a man you could see yourself having a life with but for one factor. That factor is his belief in being an atheist. You ask in a sense can he change his mind on this? No one can answer this but him. You ask what about children and their religious up bringing? Again this is a question that needs to be discussed between the two of you as it would need to be discussed between people of two different religions.
Right now I see your dilemma though I cannot offer a solution as you have not taken the next step needed to see if there is a resolution or if you need to find someone else.
The only suggestion, the only appropriate suggestion that can be offered at this time is that you two need to discuss this one question concerning your relationship to see if it is a permanent road block to a happy future for you both.
I like text books and doing the questions/exercises in them. Where would I get some free ones? New text books cost a lot of money.
I would suggest contacting book stores, college book stores, schools in your area and publishers of text books you are interested in. Ask what they do with old or out dated text books.
I would think there is little market for an outdated text book other than sending them to a recycler. If you can convince any of them all you want these books for is self improvement and not for class room use they may offer to send you the book(s) you are looking for.
hi, i am searching the internet for help and thought i would at least let someone know what is going on in my life. i am 54 years old. my twin sister has mismanaged money left to us by my mother. she is now going to try to have me evicted from a home we own together based on any excuse she can find. i believe she is bipolar or schizophrenic. all of this started when she got married 12 yrs ago to a very narcissistic man. they have depleted my sisters and mines money instead of leaving it invested to draw interest to support 2 properties in our estate. they also took out a home equity loan which they need to get rid of in their lives. she is beyond manic. she visits me and destroys my life. she will not stay away. she is threatening to evict me and my 3 dogs if i do not sell the house. and she will start court proceedings and knows i have no money for an attorney. it is such a mess. overwhelming. i am so sad all day everyday and there is no reasoning with her. it has been one bad financial decision after another so she and her husband can live a lifestyle. she is on the edge and trying to give me her problems again. she is irrational. i cannot overstate this. she blames me for everything and i have had nothing to do with anything. my life is so off track. i am going thru my own menopause issues and i havent been well due to extreme anxiety and overwhelming depression. she knows that yet she keeps piling it on. she is the victim of mind control. others claim it she is the real deal. her husband is a phd and teaches or taught psychological warfare techniques in the military. he has complete control of her mind and can get her to do anything even destroy what took decades to accomplish. it is so overwhelming. i feel so alone in this world. i do have a friend who helps me as much as he can. i don't know what to do. i need to talk to someone about what to do. she will be visiting in a couple of weeks and will scream and rant at me. i dont want her here. i have told her we need to talk to a 3rd party but she will not do it. we are in crisis. i am so afraid for the future. please write back asap. i don't know where to turn.
What you need to do is contact an attorney. Most initial consultations are at no charge. From what you have written it sounds like your sister hass not only mismanaged her money but may have violated her fiduciary responsibilities to you.
If I am correct there will be remedy at law for which there will be a recovery of money. Some attorneys will work for a portion of the recovery rather than an hourly fee. The only way to find this out is to speak with an attorney and find out what your options are and what remedy you have at law. If there is a recovery due you she can be forced to sell her assets to pay you by the courts.
If you want to keep you sister from visiting go to the district court and take out an "order of protection" against her and her husband. This order will keep her away from you and from harassing you under threat of going to jail.
As for evicting you from your home I don't think that can be done if she is asking you to sell it. If you have to be the one to sell it then you own it or own part of it. You cannot be evicted from something you own unless say you are not paying the mortgage. Then the bank will be the evicting party. Here again it best to seek the help of an attorney to find out what is going on.
I found a small white bump on my leg. Its a little painful to touch. Any ideas what it could be?
It would be wrong for me to try and diagnose the problem as I am not a doctor. Even if I were I would have to see it to diagnose it.
For the most part 99% of these little bumps are nothing to be concerned about. Since it bothers you it could be something as simple as an in grown hair that has become infected and needs a doctors attention.
In any case this is something you should bring to mom or dads attention and let then decide if seeing the doctor is in order or if there is some home remedy they feel will fix the problem.
If for some reason your thinking along the lines that this could be some type of STD. Don't even go there as that is of the remotest possibilities, one I doubt your parents would jump to upon first looking at this bump.
13/m
so i want to talk to my mother about my "love life" since i got myself a girlfriend, and i cant keep it secret forever. So how do i start a conversation about what is going on?
For a guy to tell his mom he has a love interest is generally easier than a girl to tell her mom for some reason. Also moms' generally have sixth sense about these things and either already know you do or sense you do and are just waiting until you are ready to talk to them about it. One good indication that mom already knows is to have dad have a reminder talk to you about sex or if dad is not in the picture she will.
How do you start the conversation: I've always found the direct approach to be the best approach. Depending on whether you want this to be something that is between you and mom or if it is open for family knowledge; you could bring it up at dinner saying something to the effect: "There is this girl I'm interested in and I could use some advice on dating."
If you want to keep this between just you and mom. Then just ask mom if it is possible for the two of you to have some mom and son time, either at home together or maybe out someplace quiet that you can talk. Then the same opening statement still works.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about having a girlfriend. I had my first girlfriend at age 12 in Junior high school. It was a little hard to hide since she lived on the other side of town and mom had to drive me to her house and to the movies when we went out.
My friends parents keep tagging along whenever we hang out somewhere, my mom trusts me to hang out with people by myself. But I have never had this experience because my friends parents are ALWAYS there. So, what should I do?
This is one of those question where knowing your age is important to the way any of us would answer you. Also knowing if you are of the same or opposite sex would be helpful.
You use the term "hanging out," not dating. So I will key in on that as an age reference." I am also going to assume you are of opposite sexes.
Assuming you are in your early teens or preteens having your friends parents tag along is not that inappropriate. Especially if you are a year or two older and of the male sex. In the dark ages of great-grandparents this was called chaperoning and was very normal. There are some places in the world to day where chaperoning is till very normal.
If you are 15 or 16 years of age or older and this is happening. Then something is wrong here. These parents are for whatever reason they have, be it religious or otherwise not trusting of either you or your friend.
If it is not for religious reasons which you cannot combat. Then a discussion would be in order to find out why and see if there is a way to resolve this. When I say discussion I mean just that. If you come at them in any way other than a sincere manner to ask why they need to follow you around when your together you will not get to a point where you can find a resolution.
Example. When my Son was young until he was old enough to drive; we would of course have to drive him and his friends different places. The Mall was a favorite hangout. On many occasion we would drive them there, drop them off then my wife and I would go in have dinner and shop or just hang out ourselves until it was time to pick them up and return home. It was easier then going home and coming back.
We made a rule with them, or rather them with us. They needed to acknowledge us first if we happened to come together while strolling the Mall. If they were with girls we should not attempt to acknowledge them but to walk on by as if they were any other teenage. This worked for us.
We were not there to check up on them. It was a convenience for us and sort of a night out as well. At the same time we were there a cell phone call or page away should they need us for any reason.
hi, im 16 male.. and i want to ask question.. me and mu girlfriend (17) were trying to do stuff but she is still a virgin and I've put my penis inside her without condom just only about a 1 cm maybe even less .. i couldn't of gone further because it hurt her so much.. my question can she get pregnant from that ?
The answer to your question is based on whether or not there was any semen present on your penis when you tried to enter her. If you had an emission of what is referred to as precum, which is emitted as a lubricant. Then there was semen; as precum has enough semen in it to cause pregnancy. If you ejaculated then of course there was sufficient semen to cause pregnancy.
You know the answers to these questions. If it is no then she could not be pregnant. If the answer is yes or maybe have her take a home pregnancy test. If this happened with in the last 24 to 48 hours she should take the plan B pill.