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my mom saw my cuts..
Im 14/ f and ive been a selfharming since the beginning of february.. I have been getting better tho! Anyways my mom and I were sitting side by side waiting for my sister and I forgot to put a bandage on my cuts when I changef into a tank top.. she was on the phone and looked at my wrist and thered only 2 visible ones and pointed at them with a questioning face.. I pulled my arm away and went to the bathroom and cried my eyes out.. what do I say? Our cats are declawed. .
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If you've be harming yourself I encourage you to talk to your Mom. She can't help you if you don't share your feelings about what's bothering you. She can't read your mind, so I really hope you talk with her. I doubt she acts negatively towards you, she's your mother, she loves you, she wants the very best for you. You can share what's going on in your life that's causing you to hurt yourself and together you guys can seek help and get you through this tough time in your life. You're so young and full of life and you have so much living left to do. Finishing school, choosing a career, exploring life, having a family one day in the future. You have so much to live for. Whatever is going I promise you that if you open up and get some help you will get through this. You'll realize how strong you are, how beautiful you are, how smart you are, how courageous you are. Maybe in the future when you're ready you can help someone else that may have similar problems and share your story. I sincerely hope that everything works out and you confide in your mother so you two can work as a team to help you get better. #BestWishes
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Cutting is a sign of depression. You cut to feel something, to relieve the stress of a situation. Stress is a major part of depression. In teenagers what was once considered to be a phase that teenagers went through now has a diagnostic name. It is called "Teenage Depression" and is treatable.
Lets face it, if anyone has a right to be depressed these day it is a teenager. A teenager is also a "Tweener", no longer a child yet not an adult. Yes Tweener is an actual word with the definition I gave. More is expected of you at home, in school and in social aspects. For girls it is even harder as puberty is causing changes internally and externally to you that you need to cope with. Then there are boys; they are around you like Bee's to honey. This is a lot of stress for anyone, even an adult.
In all of us there are two chemicals in the that are secreted into the brain, they are hormones that help stabilize moods especially under stress. Many of us at times do not have enough of these chemicals to combat the stress we are under or put ourselves under.
The quick fix is you see a board certified psychiatrist, no your not crazy, who is the best trained to deal with this because of where the chemicals are secreted. Generally a simple pill taken once a day will improve the amount of hormones needed to effect mood stabilization.
The long term fix is talk therapy with a psychologist who will help you find the reason for the stress and better ways of dealing with it other than cutting. With both Doctors your conversations with them are confidential. You must give your permission for them to discuss or disclose what is said in discussion with either of them. If you do not give permission when and if they talk with your parents it will be in generalities as to what they can do to help you.
So with all this being said: My advice to you is to tell mom the truth and ask for her help. She is already thinking the worst because of what she has seen. she is waiting for you to come to her so I suspect se is not going to scream at you.
What needs to happen next, after coming clean with mom is a visit to your family doctor for a complete physical. This is to rule out any organic reasons for your problem. Then you ask for a referral to a Board Certified Psychiatrist. That Doctor will supply and monitor medication if needed and refer you for talk therapy.
Depression hurts, I know as I suffered from it. There is help and it starts with telling mom and asking for help. You do not have to cut to feel better.
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The cat is out of the bag. She knows but likely is waiting for you to come and ask for help. You need it even if you aren't doing it all the time anymore. Be truthful and tell her "I'll be responsible like an adult I have a problem with self-harm and cut myself occasionally."
No parent will like to hear this but in the end she will get you some help. This is mental-health related and what you need and no you aren't crazy is a psychiatrist, counseling, diagnosis and the reason why you do this and likely medication.
The biggest favor you can do for yourself is to own up to it. I know you are scared shitless but that's okay it all has to come out and your mom though upset at first is your strongest supporter no matter what the situation. Getting help will make you a stronger person believe me.
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my mother and father litterally had a cow.i had sh much longer and do not suggest it.my experience cannot be considereed typical because my fatheer is verbally abusive.get help.tell her you need help before you cut too deep.i dont know you but i feel your pain and all i want is for you to be ok.ok is good enough.inbox me and i can talk anytime.dont do anything youll regret.please.
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You tell her the truth.
I don't know your mother, I don't know how she'll react. But I know you're scared because maybe she'll over react and maybe say something that might hurt your feelings.
I used to cut for 6 years. When I was 14, my parents found out and I was grounded for months. They just yelled at me. That never stopped me and I had wished I got help sooner.
Your parents love you nonetheless. Hopefully your mom won't freak out. She will be upset, she will be hurt because her daughter is hurting herself.
And if your mom has never understood, she'll be really confused as to why you do it when all she does is love you.
So expect her to question you. She'll probably ask why you're doing it. Be honest and tell her why. Most parents get mad because they think their child should be happy because they provide them with everything and yet they're still sad. They don't know where they went wrong.
You do need help though. You need to tell her that. You should tell her that you've been struggling with self harm for the past few months and you want to get help before it gets worse. Tell her you want to learn how to handle your problems and stress better. She'll most likely take charge from there and look for places where you can get counseling so you can overcome this.
Everything will be fine!
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