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how to tell my mother
13/m
so i want to talk to my mother about my "love life" since i got myself a girlfriend, and i cant keep it secret forever. So how do i start a conversation about what is going on?
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Pull her to a quiet room. Say, mum I've been asked out by someone. She'll give you her full attention.
Go into detail.
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Literally "Hey mom, I've got a girlfriend now"
99% of the time this results in a barrage of questions which will probably take care of most of the things you want to talk about.
Bring up any topics she misses.
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For a guy to tell his mom he has a love interest is generally easier than a girl to tell her mom for some reason. Also moms' generally have sixth sense about these things and either already know you do or sense you do and are just waiting until you are ready to talk to them about it. One good indication that mom already knows is to have dad have a reminder talk to you about sex or if dad is not in the picture she will.
How do you start the conversation: I've always found the direct approach to be the best approach. Depending on whether you want this to be something that is between you and mom or if it is open for family knowledge; you could bring it up at dinner saying something to the effect: "There is this girl I'm interested in and I could use some advice on dating."
If you want to keep this between just you and mom. Then just ask mom if it is possible for the two of you to have some mom and son time, either at home together or maybe out someplace quiet that you can talk. Then the same opening statement still works.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about having a girlfriend. I had my first girlfriend at age 12 in Junior high school. It was a little hard to hide since she lived on the other side of town and mom had to drive me to her house and to the movies when we went out.
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Theres nothing wrong with having an interest in love that young. You might start by asking mom how young she was when she had crushes on guys. Then tell her you have a girlfriend and want to be able to spend some time hanging out with her. Find out what guideline she has for you and see if your girlfriend has any rules to follow too.
Sometimes it helps parents to be more comfortable with the thought of their children having someone they are keen on if the parents got a chance to meet each other.
Embarassing? Maybe but in the long run, I say from experience I was lots more comfortable knowing what the parents of my kids friends were like.
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Well I don't know your mom but if you believe she will react fine to you having a girlfriend at 13, then ok.
Just go up to her and tell her. It's pretty simple. Just tell her that you met this pretty girl, you talk to her a lot, you've started to really like her and you recently asked her to be your girlfriend.
So she'll probably just ask questions about her or maybe ask to meet her.
Good luck!
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babies of 13 are in a relationship nowadays?...what has happened to their innocence.
by the way...firstly, please understand that when you are telling this to your mom, you are committing yourself to your gf . later, you will not be able to just walk away incase you realise she is not of your type. if you do, your mother will have a very bad impression of you that you are "FLIRTY''.AND NO MOTHER WILL TOLERATE IT.so before talking to her, think twice.
now you are sure?...great. so just walk up to her and start your conversation with the topic of friends in your school. how many you have and some interesting incidents maybe. gradually turn the topic to some specific incident where many girls and boys were involved and you thought they were nuts but this one girl was rational. then start listing what you like in her, but casually. don't go on like...so mom...she is nice,cute,beautiful,rational,sensible,intelligent....it makes no sense. state the times and moments you felt that she was different from others and when she inspired you to be like her.( if it is not like this...make up a story)...tell her you became friends and she helped you . lastly say that probably i like her and ....that is a relationship between us.
during this whole thing, take note of how your mother is reacting. if she asks you to come to the point...blurr out ..I AM IN LOVE...if she gets annoyed...then probably you should not confess this to her at this stage.
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