how do i get a girl
hey man, girls are not objects that you can get anytime. so i think you should start respecting girls in order to have someone in your life.
after that, try making a lot of friends . lots. and unlike many who will suggest you to know yourself and what you want in your gf first so that you can spot her out, i will say, don't list anything which you want in her.
whatever you will list, it will be useless because you will fall for an exception and not the common points which you are noting down.so just communicate with friends ( girls) and wait for her to come your way.
and well, some of the things you need to improve for a girl to come your way are...decent looks, not like a punk with low waist jeans and blue hair, but decent with proper haircut, and proper pressed clothes. your attitude matters a lot. so instead of being a flirt, be reserved, and classy and have a warm and helping approach towards girls.your choice of words matter. so dont be abusive and use words like...f***...dont ever break trust or lie...enhance your smell ..use body spray. be organised and not clumsy . we girls hate that. be clean and properly shaved, get rid of all spots and acnes on your body, try to enhance your skin tone.have good communication skills. and whenever you dress, look smart and always always wear a wrist watch.( by smart i mean classic combinations like blue and white , or green and ash....what about a front open jacket with a frail cotton shirt open just 2 buttons from up...it will drive girls wild)...but as i said, be decent and reserved in your attitude and dont flirt just because girls are taking notice of you. hope you find her!!
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13/m
so i want to talk to my mother about my "love life" since i got myself a girlfriend, and i cant keep it secret forever. So how do i start a conversation about what is going on?
babies of 13 are in a relationship nowadays?...what has happened to their innocence.
by the way...firstly, please understand that when you are telling this to your mom, you are committing yourself to your gf . later, you will not be able to just walk away incase you realise she is not of your type. if you do, your mother will have a very bad impression of you that you are "FLIRTY''.AND NO MOTHER WILL TOLERATE IT.so before talking to her, think twice.
now you are sure?...great. so just walk up to her and start your conversation with the topic of friends in your school. how many you have and some interesting incidents maybe. gradually turn the topic to some specific incident where many girls and boys were involved and you thought they were nuts but this one girl was rational. then start listing what you like in her, but casually. don't go on like...so mom...she is nice,cute,beautiful,rational,sensible,intelligent....it makes no sense. state the times and moments you felt that she was different from others and when she inspired you to be like her.( if it is not like this...make up a story)...tell her you became friends and she helped you . lastly say that probably i like her and ....that is a relationship between us.
during this whole thing, take note of how your mother is reacting. if she asks you to come to the point...blurr out ..I AM IN LOVE...if she gets annoyed...then probably you should not confess this to her at this stage.
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Ok so I was at a grocery store and I had my hood on. An employee was like "Can I help you with something, sir?" And I turned around and he said "*Ahem* Ma'am. Sorry, I'm just tired".
I'm starting to think I look like a guy.. I had my hood on, but I have long-ish hair and it showed. I'm not really "grown" yet, so.. I'm a teen (Late bloomer.. Haha). Do you think he was really tired or he thought I was a guy?
probably this man needs to get his eyes checked. don't worry. for some girls their hormonal changes and physical developments take place a bit late than others. it is perfectly okay. if you do not have round hips and bulgy curvy figure , it doesnot mean you are not a girl. it is just that you are not yet fully matured.
for this reason this man was not able to know you are a girl by looking at you from back. but when he had a glance at your face he knew you were a girl . so you do look like one indeed.
as for now just be proud with what you are. let people stare at your face for a while to know your sex. it will be soon lost and they will start taking notice of your body curves to know your sex in just a couple of years . and trust me it will feel awkward. so till then, enjoy your freedom.
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hi, i am searching the internet for help and thought i would at least let someone know what is going on in my life. i am 54 years old. my twin sister has mismanaged money left to us by my mother. she is now going to try to have me evicted from a home we own together based on any excuse she can find. i believe she is bipolar or schizophrenic. all of this started when she got married 12 yrs ago to a very narcissistic man. they have depleted my sisters and mines money instead of leaving it invested to draw interest to support 2 properties in our estate. they also took out a home equity loan which they need to get rid of in their lives. she is beyond manic. she visits me and destroys my life. she will not stay away. she is threatening to evict me and my 3 dogs if i do not sell the house. and she will start court proceedings and knows i have no money for an attorney. it is such a mess. overwhelming. i am so sad all day everyday and there is no reasoning with her. it has been one bad financial decision after another so she and her husband can live a lifestyle. she is on the edge and trying to give me her problems again. she is irrational. i cannot overstate this. she blames me for everything and i have had nothing to do with anything. my life is so off track. i am going thru my own menopause issues and i havent been well due to extreme anxiety and overwhelming depression. she knows that yet she keeps piling it on. she is the victim of mind control. others claim it she is the real deal. her husband is a phd and teaches or taught psychological warfare techniques in the military. he has complete control of her mind and can get her to do anything even destroy what took decades to accomplish. it is so overwhelming. i feel so alone in this world. i do have a friend who helps me as much as he can. i don't know what to do. i need to talk to someone about what to do. she will be visiting in a couple of weeks and will scream and rant at me. i dont want her here. i have told her we need to talk to a 3rd party but she will not do it. we are in crisis. i am so afraid for the future. please write back asap. i don't know where to turn.
it is clear that your sister's husband , though well off, wants his hold on his wife's property too...which is 2 in number as you have stated. but since you have 50 percent share in it , you have become a trouble for him. he can manage his wife's mind and drive her into crazy things but not you. and probably you will not give a shit to what he wants which is why he is dragging your sister with whom you have an emotional bonding. PLUS your financial and health condition is a bonus for him. it seems you are single which is his victory.
firstly, strengthen your hold. you have to be financially strong. at this age, it may not be possible given your health conditions. so try some online jobs , maybe part time, but something which will help you earn. this will automatically restore your resources which have been depleted , aid in your medical treatment, and provide a backup incase your sister really drives you out.
next, do not get over stressed. menopause issues are directly connected with it. the more you stress, the more you fall prey to it. just give a damn to it for at least 10 minutes a day and relax. for fighting your situation you have to be fit. once you start earning head towards medical treatment.
next, i do hope you and your sister have a joint account in bank and 50-50 share in property. no matter how much drained out it is, transfer some of the amount into your own personal account. PLUS, KEEP IN MIND THAT BEING AN EQUAL OWNER OF YOUR PROPERTY YOU CAN NOT BE FORCED TO SELL IT OFF. IT IS ILLEGAL. if they continue to force you, draft a letter to the local police or whosoever concerned stating that your personal peace is being disrupted illegally.
next, THERE CAN NOT BE ANY REASON TO EVICT YOU FROM YOUR OWN HOUSE WHATSOEVER. IF THERE ARE NO LEGAL ISSUES INVOLVED, LIKE YOU HAVE SIGNED ON SOME PAPER STATING YOUR SISTER HAS THE POWER TO DO SO OR ANYTHING AS SUCH,GIVE A DAMN TO THEM. just stay cool and do not get irritated by what they are doing. as i guess, they are knowing this too. so they will try their best to provoke you into something which is against you. do not take any wrong step and give them a chance.
next, why do you have 3 dogs?..you are not financially so strong it seems. give it a thought.
next, she can not blame you. when she does, just pay her a shit.she needs psychological help. she has been married for 12 years and it was completely her own decisions that have put her in debt and financially narrow conditions. it is her responsibility to get over it. YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO SELL YOUR VERY EXISTENCE TO HELP HER.know this in your heart and fuck out all depression . and the next time she ponders over such things or abuses you, give the fact to her right on her face.
next, it is good that you have a friend. seek any legal help from him if possible. also ask him to be with you when your sister is supposed to visit you since she is a maniac. or just get out of your house till she visits and finds the house empty.
next, if you can, try to separate your sister from her husband and then try to know what is wrong with her. probably with that jerk not around, your sister might feel something for her own blood and gain her senses back.
you have nothing to worry about. just start making a few bucks. it will help you.
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My friend is multi-talented. She can play viola, violen, and piano. She also sings pretty good and can draw pretty good. She doesn't really realize how good she is but she is really good. I've wanted to be good at a lot of those thing but I just don't think I sing very good, I know I suck at playing the violen, and I can't draw without a tutorial unless it's a random doodle. I want to be a fashion designer and I think I'm pretty good at that. I make sets on polyvore and I get a good amount of likes. Would that be considered a talent? And if not how do I find my talent?
well, you need to know quite a lot of basic sketching to be good at fashion designing so you can not really say you know nothing about drawing..it is just that you know just what you need for your fashion studies part and it is great.
yes, fashion designing is a talent. you need to have a very good taste of colors , fabrics , and designs and patterns. if you pursue fashion studies as your career , you would also need to study types of stitching etc. which really requires talent and brains.
if you want to find out more of your talents other than this, and since you are not good at singing and playing violin, try out other activities like dancing, ballet dancing, creative writing, quizzing, playing guitar maybe?...or abacus and mental maths...modelling...acting...public speaking...debate..recitation..and if you are not into any of these then making of craft and stationery?....
or if you are an athlete then you can try chess , horse riding, swimming, basketball etc. however to find out in which one you will excel, you will have to start taking courses for it.
you can not sit without doing anything and expect to be good at it. everyone needs guidance. but even after that if you feel you are not liking it or your progress is not as much as it should be, then clearly it is not for you. but give everything a try .you never know what is waiting for you!!
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i know 4K doesnt sound like much but im a unemployed 15yr old girl. i want the money for 2 things to fix up my car and a trip im going on next year.
can you please list some supper fun jobs, or jobs online a teen can have? i dont want to babysit or mow lawns or anything like that.
thank you for any ideas :)
the most easiest way for FUN job is MODELLING. so if you have good looks then just give it a try.
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I crave for a true purpose in life. I would like to help people and do something that really matters. But I feel like I'm so incapable of reaching my goals... or maybe I don't have any definite goals anymore. I always have this fear. I know it's very unnecessary and I don't need it. But it's always here in me. I want to say something, to speak my heart or just to simply be wherever I am. I think I've lost my voice and I can't simply say what's in my heart. I always run away. That's why I don't have a stable job, never been with a relationship and I don't want to be this way anymore. Maybe I know what to do but I feel like it's so hard to start and I don't have the strength anymore. I need help. Please I beg for help.
you do have a definite goal. it is to help people and do something that really matters. putting in better words you want to do social work and also bring your self up to such a position in your career and also your love life that you yourself are satisfied with yourself and also those who are connected to you.
to start , identify your plus points talents and strengths. engage in co curricular activities which you are good at. it will give a boost to your self respect.also try some social work which you feel good to do. once you are through with this , go for a makeover of yourself to ensure you are confident with your looks and the way your present yourself. that way you will be able to confidently start your love life.lastly when you have gained enough confidence in yourself...focus on your career building.
however before you make a start, make sure you do not blame yourself as a nerd who is useless ( many of them do it especially since they do not have a job). tell yourself that your past is over and you are going to change. do not start without throwing away all regrets and do not let them haunt your self confidence while you are on the way of self development.i hope you got my point.
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I have been in a relationship for about a month. I feel like i'm all alone. I really don't have any close friends because with daily life's don't hardly ever see them.So,being depressed is not cutting it. I live about 40 mins from him and we talk all the time and a few weeks ago. He didn't text me for two days and Now, It happens AGAIN! This week two more days again. He has been off work and had no plans and I keep getting these short texts back when I reply with a long message. Never a long message from him. He still refers me as babe. not baby like I do. I say I love you and he says "love you too." I'm always the first person to say it. I don't wanna assume he is cheating. It have been acting like everything is alright. I really don't wanna be hurt right now. Can anyone help or give some advice to this situation? I don't wanna come out and say " Are you cheating". He said he wouldn't ever cheat on me. Even if i'm busy I make time to text him even if it's a short message. He doesn't make to effort to do that.
well, for you to understand if he is cheating on you or not...just compare your old days with him with the present. if he was so straight forward with short replies that also after long durations from the beginning itself...and if he calls u babe from the first time ...then there is less to think about because it is his personality to do so.
but if this is a recent development that you notice in him, ask yourself the following: 1. does he really really love you and do u feel confident about the fact that he does?let aside the recent problems but as a whole what do you feel about his commitments?
if the answer is Negative then you probably got your answer.
if your answer is positive then probably you should talk to him. just tell him that you feel sad when he doesnot say baby to you . say that you want him to talk to you more frequently even if he is busy.ask him to be more close and romantic with you and send long texts. also explain to him that it is because you are lonely that you completely depend upon his company to cheer up.if he truly loves you he will understand. at the same time keep in your mind that he might be busy at times and his way of loving you may not be known to you. however you also have to adjust according to his comforts. so maybe ask him what he likes to be referred to as as well!!
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well im 28 and my man is 41 and one he meets this girl and the only thang he tells me about her is she has a banging body well one he said he had to run over to his house ok thats fine but come to find out his is over there with this girl then ask me if i want to meet her when i said yes "she had to go" well every time he tell me im going out be back later then when he is around her he will not pick up for me when i call but when she got locked up for a week he did not go any where and he was so nice but now she is out he is a ass to me
my dear , is it clear that you and your man have a huge age difference. at first he might have felt attracted to a young girl like you but soon enough he has to realise that mental maturity level is not the same . also it may be against his family customs to be with someone so young!!..have you thought that why all of a sudden his behaviour would change?..clearly he has come to a point where he is realising now that you are probably too young for him and too innocent...so he is getting attracted to this lady...who is physically and mentally more mature than you and he finally ends up saying she has a sexy body.
you may conclude yourself darling that your man has now started to notice the BODIES of other women and spend time with them without you around him or even letting you know.your quality time is being shared by her too and your calls are disturbing to him with her around.
maybe he is just too reluctant to hurt you all of a sudden because you are too young or maybe he wants to play with both of you.whatever the case...he is just not that into you..
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i am a virgin . i and my boy friend were fooling around . he was naked but i was having my panties . later i found that my panty was a little wet because of his pre ejaculation . but there was no direct contact . can i get pregnant ? usually my periods are always late by 3 or 4 days . this month i was supposed to get them on 8th may but i dint get them yet . plz help me . i am tensed
it is possible to get pregnant even without direct contact since clothes are porous enough for sperm cells to pass through...however it depends on many factors like how much of pre ejaculation was there, was it near your entrance or not. if it was, and since you are already late in periods, please try out a pregnancy test at home as soon as possible . it might not be too late to abort. good luck.
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20/f
I've never been able to reach orgasm during intercourse, but I still get really turned on and enjoy it. However, I started seeing a guy and we recently had sex for the first time. We've hooked up twice since and each time, it hurts really bad. He's definitely the largest guy I've ever been with but I don't want to get discouraged and assume that because of his size, it will always hurt this bad. We spend quite a bit of time on foreplay and I think that I get really wet, and I do everything I can think of to just relax... but my reflexes stop him everytime he pushes in too deep. We've also tried different positions and the only one that really works is with him on top because that way I can't stop him from pushing all the way in. He turns me on so much but I don't know how to make this more enjoyable!
you can just try to increase your capability of taking him in. vagina is elastic as seen during child birth . all you need is time . try toys and dildos . small one at first and gradually increase the size according to your comfort level. when it is enough to let him in..then you can enjoy with him .use artificial lubrication and ask him to go slow however, you can also seek gynecological help!!!
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i feel so depressed i don't know whats wrong with me, i don't smile the way i used to i feel empty. I'm so stressed at the moment i hardly sleep, i literally want to cry everyday but im so strong at holding it in me, a part of me misses my old old life , the person i used to be. I hate who i am now I hate feeling this way, i keep lying to myself thinking everything is perfect when i know inside its not, i don't even feel attractive anymore, i feel ugly, i just want to get away from everyone else i've had enough...
i do not know what your age is. these problems are usually visible in teens due to hormonal changes. it is very common and there is nothing to be worried about. try to engage yourself in some activities you love like dancing etc. if time is still left try to go out for social work or teaching kids after school. at the same time try to concentrate on studies and if u find it too difficult at the present condition then seek extra home coachings for help. read books. also exercise regularly as it generates good hormones which will drive out your blues. if you engage yourself throughout the day then you will be able to sleep at night without any problem. lastly, get hold of a few really good friends and share with them and your parents. it will help you to ease out. hope this helps.
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I have been planning this for a while but there is just one problem... I dont know how to do it quick and permanet...If your lost then what im trying to say is ... I want to kill myself today and I need a suggestion on how to kill myself quick and permanet.
i was in the same condition but after i searched over a thousand sites i found nothing which was pain free yet effective.some of them were medical drugs which are illegal. what i will suggest is that you come up with ur problem which you are depressed with and we will sort it out.you will not quit. you will show the others that how people can come out from big issues...you will be the inspiration. be unique.i can help if you contact me or anyone else . your life will take a new turn soon. i know sentences like don\'t loose hope....don\'t so this etc. seem awful right now but probably you would want to get out of your problem rather than killing yourself. please think over it. god bless you.
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