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I think my man is cheating
well im 28 and my man is 41 and one he meets this girl and the only thang he tells me about her is she has a banging body well one he said he had to run over to his house ok thats fine but come to find out his is over there with this girl then ask me if i want to meet her when i said yes "she had to go" well every time he tell me im going out be back later then when he is around her he will not pick up for me when i call but when she got locked up for a week he did not go any where and he was so nice but now she is out he is a ass to me
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Some people no matter their age, have not chosen to learn and grow and mature so just because he is 41 doesnt mean he knows a crap about anything including how to treat a woman.
Until a man learns to not view a woman as a sex object only, that man will not make a good boyfriend, man, male, mate, husband, lover.
A man at any age can learn how to treat a woman right. Women deserve to be treated in a totally supportive, and upholding way. Put on a pedestal and loved so unconditionally, treated like a Queen or Princess or Goddess, his word is his word, he only has eyes for you, he has deep respect for other women in his life such as mom, aunt, sister or grandma and treats them that way, going out of his way to make sure to look out after them, never lies or contradicts himself because he has nothing to hide.
Do you agree with this?
If so, his behavior is weakening you and what your ideals are and what you expect from a man so that you are changing what you will accept in a man? Or is he strengthening you? He is supportive of you seeking your goals, his actions show he is willing to be of service to you, in taking care of the home, the income, loving unconditionally and of fully satisfying his lady in bed, he always builds you up in words.
You only can answer that question, is he strengthening you or weakening you. And you will know whether to keep or let go for good of this man. Good luck sweetie
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HI honey,
I'm sorry to say it but, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck, It's probably a duck. It sound like he is probably cheating on you with this girl. It also sounds like he's not really a nice person and he doesn't appreciate you.
If you want to work through it and try to stay with him, try and talk to him about it. See if you can get him to be honest and see if you two can open some conversation about what you both want out of the relationship. If it's okay for him to have a girlfriend on the side is okay for you to have a boyfriend? Do you want to give monogamy another shot? Infidelity is very common in relationships and it usually has nothing to do with how much you love someone it's just sexual desire. Couples work through it all the time. If you can get him to be honest and have a thoughtful loving discussion about your feelings and working it out then the two of you should stay together. When you ask him remain calm and see what he says. If he blows up with a huge temper and can't talk to you, it's probably not going to work.
However you also mentioned that he acts like an ass to you. I don't think you should ever be with someone that treats you bad and makes you feel bad about yourself. He is more then 10 years older then you and he should be thanking his lucky stars to be with you. He doesn't sound like he appreciates you and maybe you should consider if you even want to be with someone like that? There could be someone waiting to treat you good and give you the love you deserve. YOu could be looking for that person rather then wasting your time with an ass hole?
Good luck honey :)
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my dear , is it clear that you and your man have a huge age difference. at first he might have felt attracted to a young girl like you but soon enough he has to realise that mental maturity level is not the same . also it may be against his family customs to be with someone so young!!..have you thought that why all of a sudden his behaviour would change?..clearly he has come to a point where he is realising now that you are probably too young for him and too innocent...so he is getting attracted to this lady...who is physically and mentally more mature than you and he finally ends up saying she has a sexy body.
you may conclude yourself darling that your man has now started to notice the BODIES of other women and spend time with them without you around him or even letting you know.your quality time is being shared by her too and your calls are disturbing to him with her around.
maybe he is just too reluctant to hurt you all of a sudden because you are too young or maybe he wants to play with both of you.whatever the case...he is just not that into you..
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