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Having sex HURTS!
20/f
I've never been able to reach orgasm during intercourse, but I still get really turned on and enjoy it. However, I started seeing a guy and we recently had sex for the first time. We've hooked up twice since and each time, it hurts really bad. He's definitely the largest guy I've ever been with but I don't want to get discouraged and assume that because of his size, it will always hurt this bad. We spend quite a bit of time on foreplay and I think that I get really wet, and I do everything I can think of to just relax... but my reflexes stop him everytime he pushes in too deep. We've also tried different positions and the only one that really works is with him on top because that way I can't stop him from pushing all the way in. He turns me on so much but I don't know how to make this more enjoyable!
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you can just try to increase your capability of taking him in. vagina is elastic as seen during child birth . all you need is time . try toys and dildos . small one at first and gradually increase the size according to your comfort level. when it is enough to let him in..then you can enjoy with him .use artificial lubrication and ask him to go slow however, you can also seek gynecological help!!!
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It sounds like he's just too big for you. A couple of times I was with guys too big for me, I agree, it is very painful. What happens is that the cock rams to one or other side of the cervix and hits a nerve that causes instant pain not only around the area of impact but a horribly strong charlie horse cramping running down the leg. Maybe it felt different to you but either way the sex is not going to be pleasant, no matter how handsome he is, or how much chemistry there is. I was limited to only one position (spooning entering from behind) with my sex partner and still he had to be slow and careful, That takes all the fun and creativity and variety out of sex. Since a healthy sex life is one of the things important in a relationship, I can't see this lasting long. Why? At some point you will begin to push him away because you're still sore from last time while at the same time not having your sexual urges taken care of and you might be thinking of seeing other guys for sex while with him. He will be frustrated for not being able to do everything he wants sexually and having sex with women who can take larger cocks are going to sound pretty tempting to him.
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